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⌈ Secret Post #4562 ⌋

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What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

Online or otherwise.

Re: What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

Trump is evil, ergo we should focus our hate on him instead of also hating on other evil world leaders. What if...bear with me...they are ALL bad?

Re: What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

That redheads are as oppressed of a minority as black people. So casting a black girl as Ariel is minority erasure.

Re: What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

"Why should we have laws restricting smartphone use while driving imposed upon us just because there are some people who can't successfully use a smartphone while driving?"

and related: "But isn't 'while stopped at a red light' the one place you should be allowed to use a phone if you're behind the wheel?"

Re: What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

Totalitarian governments are ok because if people have too much democracy they are less well-behaved and cause chaos :-(

Re: What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

Most of the ones I've been in lately... Meaning on me, since I look back the next day and kick myself every time..

Re: What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

It's good actually that China arrested those women for writing slash fanfiction because slash writers are straighties who fetishise gay men, so they deserve to go to jail.

Re: What is the stupidest argument you have seen lately?

[(Anonymous)]

That pansexuality is just a tool to hurt women.

What benefits does Warren have over Sanders?

[(Anonymous)]

To someone interested in progressive policy, that is. Warren, while progressive, seems like a late policy adopter and more cozy with the corporate side of the democratic party in comparison, so I'm a little confused why support for her seems so strong in the left sphere. Anyone care to explain?

Re: What benefits does Warren have over Sanders?

[(Anonymous)]

I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me personally, part of the reason I support Warren over Sanders is that Sanders-or-bust voters, and his refusal to disavow and/or rebuke the worst of them, put me off him after the primaries last time.

I voted for Sanders in the primaries, and then, while I was disappointed he didn’t get the nom, I voted for Hillary in the general. On one of those “how closely do you agree with candidate so and so on their policy positions” websites, I’d gotten something in the 95% range for Sanders and 86% for Clinton. 86% is still pretty good. I was just barely too young to vote in the election that put Bush II in office, and short of the dem candidate eating a live puppy live on camera, I knew I’d vote for whoever won the primary, because ffs, the alternative was a conscienceless pustule on the body politic.

In the run up to and after the general election, I was shocked by how many people blamed the orange fucker’s win on Hillary and claimed that Sanders would’ve won, that he was cheated out of his rightful nomination, that America “deserved” the swamp king for daring to vote for evil Hillary over Sanders, etc. And now there’s still people claiming that if Sanders doesn’t win this round, it’s more evidence of some kind of secret cabal against him. If he’d vigorously supported Hillary from the second she got the nom and shut down the most poisonous parts of his fanclub, I’d respect him a lot more.

Warren espouses a lot of the same policy positions that led me to vote for Sanders in the primaries last time, but so far without the toxic fan club, with more awareness of issues outside class/economic inequality, and with at least thumbnail sketches of how to actually implement progressive policy. Plus I think the consumer financial protection bureau could be beefed up if she won the presidency, which would be awesome.

Re: What benefits does Warren have over Sanders?

[(Anonymous)]

I think a lot of it is just a difference of emphasis. Warren seems much better when it comes to the details of actually using the machinery of the American state to accomplish policy ends, and the details of how to do that and what specific changes to make to accomplish what ends. That's not to say that Bernie doesn't have policy, but I think he tends to operate in terms of broad policy values that he wants to accomplish with a political revolution. For me personally, I think the policy-oriented approach is probably more useful.

I also wouldn't describe Warren as "cozy" with the corporate side of the Democratic Party by any stretch of the imagination. Did you see her comment when Biden entered the race, for Pete's sake? She has a different emphasis than Bernie, but that's not the same thing as being "cozy" with corporate America.

Furthermore, pragmatically, I think that Warren has a chance to win the primary, and I don't think Bernie does. And I am also a little uncomfortable with the extent to which Bernie has been running an actively sectional campaign. I don't deny that the Democratic party does need significant reforms, and that the instinctive centrism of the party technocrats is an absolute dead end, and I think Warren certainly gets outside of the paradigm. But I don't think that needs to turn into factionalism, and Bernie really seems to have leaned into that to a fault.

Anyway, that's how I feel about it.

Re: What benefits does Warren have over Sanders?

[(Anonymous)]

Totally missed the point because I honestly thought this was a Buffy The Vampire Slayer argument for a minute or so.

Re: What benefits does Warren have over Sanders?

[philstar22]

Warren is more complete picture. Sanders is so focused on class that he doesn't realize quite how much of an impact race, gender, and other power dynamics play (particularly race, which I believe has as much of and possibly more of an impact than class). He thinks most things are about class. Therefore, his policies are designed specifically with class issues in mind. They aren't geared towards getting towards the root racism of some of the issues and therefore can't be truly effective.

Warren is also better on details. She has more fleshed-out plans and has thought about how they could actually be implemented.

Re: What benefits does Warren have over Sanders?

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, I'm good with either of them. They're like 99% the same.

What I fear is they'll compete with each other and pull lefter voters apart while all the centrics flock to Biden or something and win because they aren't split.

What would you do in this situation?

[(Anonymous)]

So I'm on Reddit a lot, and recently I came across a post that had a rather unusual writing style that sounded a lot like a guy I know. The more posts I saw from that user, the more it made me think of the guy I know. I thought, there's no way, it's incredibly unlikely that I'd randomly come across him like that, and put it out of my mind. I keep seeing his posts pop up on various subs, and he mentions multiple times being gay, closeted, and married to a woman. At that point I'm intrigued, because there are rumors that this guy I know is at least bi. So I do a bit of snooping in this user's post history, and at this point I'm fairly sure it's him because too many details match up for it to be a coincidence.

And now I don't know what to do. My first thought was obviously "it's none of your business, stay out of it" but then I think of his wife. It'd be one thing if he were bi, in an open marriage, etc., but he's flat out said several times that he thought he might be bi but he's realized he's fully gay and he's never going to be happy with his wife and he doesn't actually love her. I don't know how to verify that it's definitely him, but if/when I do, I don't know what to do with that information. I feel like his wife deserves to know, and on the one hand I think I'm clearly not the person to tell her, but then I think about how I'd feel guilty knowing this and letting her stay married to a guy who doesn't love her and not saying anything.

What would you guys do in this situation?

Re: What would you do in this situation?

[(Anonymous)]

My instinct is that it's not your place to say.

I also think - what would you do if you found out that dude wasn't happy in the marriage for reasons that had nothing to do with sexuality? I feel like, in that situation, I would never tell.

Re: What would you do in this situation?

[(Anonymous)]

IMHO Stay out of it. Not only are you not 100% certain it's the guy you know, but also even if it is him it's his and his wife's relationship, not yours. It's not an easy position to be in, but getting involved in people's private lives can get really messy and you could end up getting harrassed or blamed for sticking your foot in.

Re: What would you do in this situation?

[(Anonymous)]

first realize that there are a lot more gay men that are married to women than you think and it's probably not the same guy.

Re: What would you do in this situation?

[(Anonymous)]

Your first instinct was correct - mind your own business. Far too many people interfere because they tell themselves they TOTALLY KNOW what the potentially injured party would want, or they TOTALLY BELIEVE someone "deserves to know" some awful thing.

Mind your own business.

1) You do NOT know with 100% certainty it's this guy.
2) Coincidences happen. See #3 and #4.
3) Society is such that a lot of people are in unhappy marriages for many, many reasons and those reasons are going to be similar because human nature. See #4.
4) Society is such that a lot of gay men are in heterosexual marriages because that's what they thought they wanted, or what society expected of them and surprise, they're not happy about it and the reasons why are going to sound similar because human nature. See #3.
5) If you are wrong - and you COULD be wrong - then by inserting yourself into someone else's marital situation, you could be causing unintended harm to that relationship.
6) Even if you think there's a high chance you're right and it is the guy you know, look at that remaining percentage. You're gambling with someone else's personal life and painful details they were stupid enough to post on reddit because they were desperate for help. You have nothing to lose if you're wrong - someone else will be paying that ugly forfeit if you're wrong. Are you okay with that?

Signed,

Team Mind Your Own Business

Re: What would you do in this situation?

[dahli]

Imo mind your own business/keep it to yourself. I think this is a thing to figure it out first by himself first and he should be the one to deal with the situation with his wife, rather than have the wife find out via a stranger(?) who did some concern snooping on the internet.

Re: What would you do in this situation?

[(Anonymous)]

As much as I would 100% want to know if I were in the wife's position, I still say stay out of it. As other people have pointed out, a lot of people are in unhappy marriages; that doesn't make it our place to insert ourselves into the situation.

If it makes you feel any better about keeping quiet, the truth is that the wife probably knows the marriage isn't working. She may not know why, but she still probably knows it's not working. And so far, she's made the choice to stay.

Home back treatments

[philstar22]

What have you found that works for your back pain? Can't take any more ibuprofen as it is making me sick. Using my heating pad as much as possible. Going to PT. Stretching.

Can't afford massage or acupuncture or anything like that as I'm unemployed and broke.

Are there any other things I could do at home on days where it is bad? Like right now it is bad enough it is making me feel nauseous.

Re: Home back treatments

[(Anonymous)]

My sympathies, I spent the last couple of days yelping occasionally when my back reminded me that if it was miserable, I have to suffer, too. I had the day off and spent most of it laying in the couch moving a couple bags of frozen peas around on my back. It’s stopped hurting for now. Maybe try switching between the heating pad and ice packs? A long soak in a hot bath? Idk, I hope you feel better soon.

Bang bang!

[(Anonymous)]

People have been shooting fireworks all week. I just want to sleep.