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[ SECRET POST #5650 ]

⌈ Secret Post #5650 ⌋

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Learned how truly fucked dealing with insurance can be.

Right now, the blood of my fucking enemies (I'm still way way way up there on the 'mad as fucking hell' meter from yesterday...last month....last couple years....)

More immediately? I'd settle for winning a medium-sized lottery so all my family, my ex, my ex-in-laws, and my bestie online friends could be comfortable and taken care of for the rest of their lives.

On a fandom note - a REALLY GOOD fix it, time travel or otherwise, that explores the idea that shitty parents and what they do to you can be undone by truly good friendships and support outside the shitty parental bubble (i.e- Draco Malfoy realizes that murder and torture aren't cool and THINGS GO DIFFERENTLY).

Edited 2022-06-25 20:53 (UTC)

You reeeeeeaaaallyy need to start doing some sport when you are younger (of course, I am realizing this now through all my pain)

*sighs* Big mood, OP. I've had a group of friends when I was in high school, but we lost contact and I've failed to make any new substantial friendships since then. And I mean, yeah, this is extremely common, but some people do have these kinds of tight-knit friend groups even as adults and I'm just incredibly jealous.

The solution to this is to make a lot of acquaintances, put effort into the relationships that feel good, and maybe the magic will happen. Which, of course, rarely gets shown in the media. Fair enough; I wouldn't want to watch some poor sod go through the all the awkwardness and discomfort of friendship-building either.

life is struggle between work obligations and whatever is the fuck up of the day. so much organizing.
sick? make an appointment, get time off work. pet sick? same. Dort get me started on folks with kids. I'm already overwhelmed with my own stuff.

Your Body Will Decline Sooner Than You Think. Take warning signs seriously. I didnt and was rewarded with 2 weeks of hospital.

Never too late to start a retirement fund.

that people suck (i spent my entire 30s doing retail customer services work - people suck)

Sometimes you just don't 'grow into' things. I remember family evenings where I'd be doing a jigsaw puzzle while my parents watched "grown-up shows" like DS9 or Voyager and thinking maybe when I'm older it would be less boring to me. Or that romantic movies and things like flower bouquets would make more sense. But I'm less than 2 years to 40 now and still can't be bothered to care about any of those. Still would rather just watch cartoons. Still don't understand the point of watching flora slowly die in a vase. Still definitely bored to death by romance and unequivocally aroace (I do enjoy erotic comics though).

Same here, I had sort of set my hopes on my friends from college sticking together. I think more people lack friends/friend groups than you'd guess, especially close ones. But for most it's because they had kids and didn't have the time. I'm single so don't even really have that excuse.

I'm not that thirsty or into smut, but yeah I do always have a fave and read a lot of shippy fic. And I'm eternally single, so I've definitely wondered about what kind of influence a potential partner would have on my fandom life, but also what kind of influence my fandom life is having on my (lack of a) love life.

I lost touch with my best friend from high school and I still wonder how she's doing from time to time. On the plus side, I reconnected with one of my friends from elementary school and we're super close now.

How does this show hold up on the whole?

I only ask because it was basically my "getting through late teenage insomnia" show and I LOVED it but like a lot of things from 15-20 years ago I'm worried I'll ruin my nostalgia if I re-watch it. Like, a part of me wonders if it worked for me because of teenage angst/edginess and the fact my brain was starved of sleep so everything seemed hilarious past a certain point. Anyway, I didn't watch it all the way through but definitely saw the earlier stuff.

That literally everything I had been told about getting older* was absolute bullshit.

*Things like "once you turn 30 all fun ceases and you must Grow Up" and "you must have a house, a family, and a highly successful career by 30 or you're a failure at life".

A little depressing, but I realized that while I was never in great shape physically, my teens/20s meant I was more resilient than I realized and that period was ending. Everything got just a bit harder - harder to bounce back from staying up all night, bouts of the cold/flu, physical exertion, over-indulgence in eating, skipping meals, eating junk food, general stress, etc. Nothing catastrophic, it's just that the negative repercussions are more noticeable now and it's a reminder that I need to take better care of myself.

That I don't think I'll ever feel like an adult. I mean, I work and pay my bills and take care of all those grown up things, but inside I feel like I'm still a kid and when bad stuff happens, I still get the urge to call my mom and dad so they can fix it for me (I never do, of course). Also, being emo definitely wasn't a phase.

Seriously. I feel like I started having more fun in my thirties than I ever did in my twenties.

Sort of related to the secret I guess! Everyone complains that "nobody makes the effort, they're all too busy with their own lives!" like they're the only one making the effort but...nobody is making more effort than anyone else. Overall I mean. I know there are exceptional people who really suck but I promise you that the vast majority of us don't realise how much shit is going to be pulling you in all directions once you lose the shared venues of your early adulthood such as education. And yes, we're all busy. And exhausted. More of us are scattered geographically than ever before. Though having said that, sometimes I feel like it's a struggle to see my friends in the SAME city as much as it's a struggle to see the ones all over the world.

But on the other hand when you do manage to have a get together with friends, the really good ones, the actual friends, don't care how long it has been. You just slot back into it like you last saw each other yesterday. I think my 30s have taught me a lot more empathy for the fact I'm not and (general) you are not the main character in the lives of others.

What are some little things you've been enjoying lately, FS? Like I'd been thinking about a banana milkshake all week and last night I finally went out and got one and IT WAS SOOOOOOOOO GOOD! And then on the way out of the diner, I put a quarter in their gumball prize machine and got a really pretty ring with a big sparkly pink "stone". That kind of thing!

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Lol same, my 20s were nothing compared to my 30s!

I honestly don't remember anyone I was friends with before HS. And those friends in HS were 100% 'hey we share classes together and have some stuff in common enough to hang out outside of school' I have one friend that I've been friends with for 18 years and that's it, I didn't think this was unusual.

I'd say go for it, if just for the actual gameplay if nothing else. But the mechanics are actually really fun and I feel like it's the best in the series from a shooter perspective. Fast, responsive, and fluid. (Even if I am one of those stereotypical Vanguard players)

And you never know, the game itself might end up growing on you too if you give it a chance. I don't think it's as bad as people say it is tbh.

That those little aches and pains that your parents complained about, the ones that you rolled your eyes at and didn't believe actually existed, are in fact real.

I made damn good tips this week at work. Then promptly blew them on, uh, fanmerch of glorious OTP. (Porn. I blew my money on porn for my ship. :P)Been getting positive compliments at work on my appearance lately too from fellow coworkers so I must be doing something right in that regard.

Same here. It's mostly colleagues in my life... but then I guess that makes sense cause I spent most of my day at work.
I do have a few internet friends I talk to daily, but everyone I used to be friends with at school is gone from my life (I do admit that it's very much my fault, too).

I got a massage today that was amazing.

Every little thing my kitty does brings me joy. She is joy.

- I'm older now than my mother when she had me and I definitely couldn't deal with a child (or more). I wouldn't be ready even if I wanted any.

- You still get acne no matter your age and those fuckers somehow hurt MORE now than they did when I was a teen

- I wish I had started to apply sunscreen earlier. All the sunburns I had as a teen haunt me now... because I feel like I'm so much more aware of my own mortality/vulnerabilty of the human body.

- People in their 60s really aren't that old at all

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