[ SECRET POST #6499 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6499 ⌋

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[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

I miss being able to make friends. I just don't have the energy to spare having conversations on a regular basis anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

The only space I was ever able to make legit online friends was LJ. Oh, and a couple of specific old private forums. I just can't seem to connect in this wider world that fandom and online interaction has become.

[(Anonymous)]

Same.

[(Anonymous)]

I was late to the game on LJ, but DeviantART and some forums was where I thrived. Nowhere else. It's been over 15 years and it's too different now, I'm too paranoid now.

[(Anonymous)]

Not sure if this is what you meant, but paranoia is part of it for me because I hate how open fandom spaces are now. I liked my private individual fandom forums and friendlocked journals and separate spaces and smaller communities. Everything is just thrown out into the void for all the world to see/find now.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not, but I do relate. Niche stuff breaks containment and the wrong people see it too often on modern social media.

[(Anonymous)]

Current fandom spaces, other than Discord perhaps, feel too much like shouting into the void and hoping someone shouts back, rather than having a conversation in a set-aside room with anyone. And too often someone who you didn't intend to hear you responds instead. It's just exhausting, rather than the fun it used to be. But it's not just the spaces that have changed, but myself and the fandoms I am into. There's no way to go back to what used to be.

[(Anonymous)]

That's a goddamn mood.

[(Anonymous)]

Same. IRC and then LJ for me but nothing since.

[sparklywalls]

I made most of my online friends who became irl friends on a band forum, but we chatted on MSN and added each other to LJ and stuff so they basically hung out in multiple spaces where I could connect with them. We then arranged meet ups etc.

I'd find that so difficult now because, for me anyway, social media is so fractured and I know some people have meet up with fandom friends via Twitter but I've actually always kinda hated the way you interact with fandom on there so don't really talk to other people.

Idk, there's also the fact I'm older and busier and MSN is dead now so I don't have the energy or method to stay up until 4am talking crap with people half way around the world anymore.

I've got a few regular folk who interact with me on tumblr but that's about it.

[(Anonymous)]

The modern equivalent to MSN is Discord (which I like despite it's issues), but I hate how that's often the only way. There's no forum to meet people -> "home base" of an LJ or something to get to know and individual better -> IMing for private or group conversations. It's all either completely public on one site or completely private on a certain app/program.

[sparklywalls]

Yeah I've not really tried Discord yet myself, perhaps I should, but this definitely fits with my overall feeling. It still doesn't feel quite "right" though for some reason, possibly my personal issues/preferences. There's just no middle space anymore is there? Even with tagging and stuff you can get people barging in deliberately trying to stink up the place (police your fun) whereas forums required some effort if you had to sign up and create topics rather than just ranting in everyone's mentions.

[(Anonymous)]

Good experiences on Discord are a matter of luck, I found my current friend groups through trial-and-error over 5 years, but if people you know or follow have a public server it's a good way to jump in. And I feel you about people stinking up the place, my blog is mostly fandom but I don't have it searchable or post in any of the main tags because people are so aggressive to strangers. Tags on Twitter and Tumblr is more of a museum, but forums and LJ comms felt more like an open dialogue.

[(Anonymous)]

It was AIM for me. I loved exchanging AIM handles and chatting with fandom friends on there. People have told me to try Discord but it's just not the same for me.

[(Anonymous)]

Ironically, people I met in smaller spaces and used to chat with on AIM/Yahoo Pager/Yahoo Messenger/MSN Messenger/ICQ/etc did move to Discord... and then never chatted with me on there (I tried DMing them a few times but the convos were short and they never initiated). Guess I stopped being interesting or something.

[(Anonymous)]

I am a dinosaur. I remember the message board days. And I made some good friends that way, most of who have moved on from the fandom I'm in. I even met a couple of them at fandom events and one I met at a cafe to do campaign stuff to keep an actor on a show we really liked. It didn't work but it was a great experience. There is nothing equivalent anymore and I'll be honest, it's f**king lonely out there especially if you're in a dwindling fandom.

[(Anonymous)]

I tried to give it a chance in recent years and it just felt like everyone was really guarded and weren't looking for friends unless they already know you or you're friends with someone already well established in the fandom.

I compare fandom/social media to high school but high school vibes are what I feel with fandom.

Maybe I grew out of those sorts of dynamics and I'm the problem and it's not fandom?