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To this day this question makes no sense to me. Aren't we all half-half? Sometimes we can afford to be impulsive but sometimes need to think rationally. And not always the second leads to the best outcome and that's the tragedy of it all. I'm very anxious so I'm impulsive sometimes... often.

Do you really not understand that people are different from you? Not a snarky question, I'm just curious. I also like the "to this day" part because it implies you get this question a lot but that is not something I've experienced and the idea of continually running into "are you impulsive" discussions and being continuously baffled just makes me laugh.

Not at all. I see this is fundamentally a socioeconomic difference as far as I am aware. Some people can afford to be rational 24/7, some have impulses that aren't really useful from a survival perspective due to anxiety, hunger, mental illness or trauma - because we're all rational animals, meaning we're all a bit rational and a bit animal. Of course people are fundamentally different, but this? No.

I actually see this question floating around the internet a lot and once someone asked this to me in a context that changed my life forever for the worse so whenever someone asks me I go "oh. oh" lol

da
this's you calling poor people animals? wtf. Poor people don't get strange impulsies because they want to eat. People died from hunger keeping their spirit and morals undefeated. It's very classist of you. Rationality is not something only the wealthy posses. You'd be right at home with human zoos they used to have in Belgium up to 1994.

Aside from twitter it seems that well articulated sentences get misinterpreted in here too. Wtf u talkin about lol

Someone else posted: I am impulsive, I purchase a lot. If this person had no money they likely… wouldn’t. Some people are compulsive buyers and that’s a mental illness - it’s what I said before, and you trying to gaslight me will not change reality. That being humans are rational animals, and whoever says otherwise is the psych equivalent of flat-earthier lol.

Being rational animals we can choose to die of hunger for our morals or whatever. But where is the rationality in that? If it’s going to win you a war then maybe you will do it because you don’t even want to survive to see the consequences. That’s an impulse called fear

People will swear they are rational because they have the nerve to suck and harm others like it’s a flex - beats me

I said people died of hunger while keeping their morals, not died of hunger because of their morals. And no, people don't keep their morals just out of fear.

Hungry people are not some animals. You're moving goalposts from 'Some people can afford to be rational 24/7' due to 'socioeconomic difference' while the others, underprivileged, experience anxiety, hunger, mental illness or trauma and act irrationally. Now you are saying you spoke about impulsive buying. As if.

That’s idealized bullshit. Have you ever starved? I have. You get psychotic. You may not act on it because you’re too well educated and conditioned so you die of starvation. But that’s not survivalist. That’s a body malfunctioning, in a sense.

Most people get some help at this point from a food bank or social circle or tips. But there is a reason why we don’t want famine to happen. They can get dangerous, and at this point it’s not their rationality speaking as much as their social conditioning. Fear of (the consequences of) stealing, apathy to end of life

Forget starvation, have you ever had to run away from an angry animal like a dog? Even if you’re a dog person you just run. It’s not about being irrational or rationally disliking dogs, it’s about wanting your leg.

Anything beyond this is just you doing mental gymnastics. I don’t follow - perhaps I’m too impulsive for it or maybe it’s too rational of me to not spend energy on this

DA

Hmm, by your logic, you cannot accurately call anybody any adjective because everyone is everything at once. There are times they are interesting and times they are boring, times they are mean and times they are nice, so any adjective you may attempt to apply does not apply, and you cannot, generally, describe anyone you know?

If someone asked you if someone you know is nice, would you say "everyone is partly nice and partly mean so I cannot say"?

Well I do avoid judgements because rarely people are one thing consistently and we often see one side and give people the meanest of adjectives for fun. I try to point out their good traits and will admit this backfires often because even if someone is 10% nice I’m preaching “but look”

But this one in particular is a Nope to me lol but maybe I am built and feel this different from most

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Impulsive =/= reactive

There are a lot of people who live comfortably and are impulsive. Your argument about people who have less due to social and economic issues are more impulsive is based on what?? Your armchair observation in the area you live in?

There are a lot more factors into people making poor choices (which is not equivalent to being impulsive) due to living in poverty but that's because they have fewer options to choose from. The poor choices can be an impulsive thing but they are not always the reason as to why someone makes a poor choice.

DA

I think something like, socioeconomics and money is a factor in allowing impulsive behavior, but doesn't necessarily do or say anything about an impulsive personality.

Plenty of people with money don't impulse purchase anything, and plenty of people without money impulse purchase on credit with money they don't have.

Sure, but this is what I have been saying. An “impulsive personality” is often the result of maladjustment, mental illness, trauma, whatever. It’s what I said before. If we’re socioeconomically safe or at least resourceful (ie trust we know what we’re doing) we tend to give in to impulses in moderation (eat when hungry and so on). Even if you’re really rich, actions have consequences, so acting like an animal isn’t ideal and doesn’t bring the best results often.

You are defining being impulsive differently than the rest of the people in this thread. Nobody here is thinking impulsive=eating when hungry. And impulsive =/= acting like an animal. You're coming at this from a very strange angle.

That’s what I said in the first post, don’t even get what this question is about. If it’s like “oh I like to wake up and travel unprompted” that’s still very socially determined. So this question makes no sense, to me.

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Not really? Plenty of rich people are impulsive and do whatever they want without a thought for the consequences. They just are able to deal with the consequences because of their money, so it isn't as big an impact on their lives. Money enables them to be more impulsive than poor people without significant consequences.

Do you think the rich people being married and divorced 5 times thing is a joke/stereotype for no reason? They're just more "okay" afterward because they have money to cushion their landing. Plenty of things to be impulsive about without it being purchases.

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"this's you calling poor people animals"

Hahahahahahahaha!

That was beautiful. 4 comments in, and we're already seeing the big wild haymakers. This thread is going to be awesome!

Please go back to wherever you appeared from, fake.

no u.

shut up, troll bitch.

...no? I mean sure, most people are going to be some combination of impulsive and rational, but it's bizarre you think everyone's going to behave in an even split kind of way. Either you're not very observant, or you haven't met many people, I guess.

I've got an older relative who's got poor impulsive control when it comes to speaking, and general decision making. She's the type of person who regularly blurts out insulting or weird things and brings the conversation to a dead stop while people process whatever nonsense crap she just spouted. She's a spendthrift and loves shopping for knick-knacks and her collections even though she's on a limited income. Her house is crammed full of impulse purchases that are mostly overpriced tat. She's declared bankrupty more than once, and carries a considerable amount of credit card debt even though she has a decent paying job. It's just that she sees something shiny that she wants, and she tries to buy it. It's not about thinking rationally, and she'll get defensive if you try and explain to her that it's more important (and rational!) to make sure she has enough money to pay her bills and save for emergencies instead of dropping $200 on DVDs of stuff she won't watch.

Ayrt

Thanks for bringing an example so I can explain what I mean by I don’t believe in the divide of rational / impulsive

By all accounts she’s someone who speaks their mind (which frankly seems like autism to me so it could be as I said above mental illness) but maybe for them it’s something like, if I don’t speak my mind I can get anxious over being held accountable for agreeing with something I disagree. As for overspending they could have a relationship with the economy that’s like - I have a good pay so I need to spend or else who will. And it could be perfectly rational.

As a anxious person I am always thinking ahead and a lot, and as a traumatized person I have great reason to because most people who say things to “be helpful” are helping themselves only.

DA

Oh, I didn't realize you had trauma. You can keep being a dick then.

Lol WTH is this gratuitous rude comment? You were NOT called mr.

Your read on my situation is incorrect, particularly the part about mAyBE oVeRspEnDiNG cOUld bE pErFEcTly rAtIoNAl!

Sometimes anxious, traumatized people are very sensitive because they want a lot of understanding and compassion for themselves, in their time of need. That's fine. But don't go too far the other way and strain yourself making far too many allowances for assholes behaving like assholes. You're going to end up with a bunch of toxic people in your life if you do, and that won't help your mental health, either.

No lol I mean exactly what I said - someone else said it’s rational as long as they rationalized it and all I am saying is well some weird behaviors are fully rationalized

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