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In other words, you're terrified that your kids might grow up to be individuals with different tastes than your personal vision for them.

Maybe you should rethink having kids.

YOU MEAN MY KIDS WON'T BE AN EXACT COPY OF ME AND WHAT I WANT?!?!

Gotta just deal with it, OP. I think it's impossible to love something that's forced on you. Just hope they will be receptive when you're open to sharing it.

one of the worst nightmares

I used to be terrified that my (future) children wouldn't like Pokemon. 'xD

Now I'm cool with the idea that they very well might not.

I'm still kinda worried I'll never find a boyfriend who likes Pokemon though. 'xD

Yeah, that's what all good parents fear the most.

Personally, I'm afraid they'll like Twilight D:

...I didn't even think about that. D: is right!

Right.

I mean your kids in life could get hurt in various ways you can't control or even hurt someone else at some point (whether accidentally or intentionally) in life. But them not liking Harry Potter a series which has some fun things but definitly isn't perfect or for everyone is your biggest fear?

I'll parphrase a Ron line (badly as it's from old memories) and say:

You need to have your priorities sorted out.

yes

it is totally unreasonable for somebody to worry that they won't be able to share things they enjoy and are important to them with their children

they totally said that their kids liking harry potter was the most IMPORTANT THING EVER to them

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green-glee.livejournal.com - 2011-08-21 07:11 (UTC) - Expand

(Anonymous) - 2011-08-21 08:24 (UTC) - Expand

I get you, OP. One thing I look forward to when I have children is sharing Harry Potter with them because it meant a lot to me as a kid and I want to pass that on. If they didn't like it, I'd be really sad.

The solution is clear: we need to make a Wishbone of it. Problem solved. ~.^

Share it with them when you read aloud (you will read aloud to them, right?) and your love for it will shine through. Although, I do recommend that you space out the books over a few years, and let them decide when to go to the scarier ones.

They may not love it as much as you do, but that's okay. By then you'll both have other things to love together.

I want to slap you right now. Your kids are not you. If they don't like HP then so the fuck what??

THIS SO BAD.

I'm a bit surprised by some of the angry reactions to this secret. The OP presumably likes the series so much that they will be upset if they can't share it with their own kids, and has written a hyperbolic secret about it: on its own, that's hardly a sign of something they ought to be hit for, to take as a sign they shouldn't ever have kids, or to mentally rewrite the secret as "my worst fear as a parent will be if the kids don't like HP..."

This. Geez.

asimaiyat.livejournal.com - 2011-08-21 16:26 (UTC) - Expand

Hahaha oh man, I have a similar worry about my (hypothetical) kids being into SPORTS. I mean, I want my kids to be fit and if they love that stuff I'll be supportive, but doesn't every parent want to relate to their kids? I don't get sports at all, lol.

Same thing if my kids end up being jocks or something. The fact is that I'd relate better to artsy or nerdy kids. And I'm afraid that my kids will think I'm really lame and embarrassing. D:

Anyway, lots of people like HP so the chances of your kids also liking it are pretty good! And if they don't, you'll love your kids anyway. Don't worry so much.

Side-eyeing this secret so much rn. This is why I was never a part of the HP fandom. Your kids probably won't like the same things you do and will come to love something as much as you love the Harry Potter series. This shouldn't be terrifying and it's to be expected.

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p-drunkwriting.livejournal.com - 2011-08-21 13:40 (UTC) - Expand

It's not the best book in the world despite all the hype. Honestly I read all the whole series and it's not even in my top ten.

omg get over yourself
harry potter fans are so fucking ridiculous something EYEROLL

Let your kids make their own decisions.

I think that, so long as you don't force it on them too much, they at least won't get resentful about it. However, I'd also brace yourself for the possibility that they might not get into it as much as you, or that it just might not be their cup of tea.

If you force it on them, they probably WON'T like it. Just don't make it a big deal and they'll probably enjoy it for something they can share with you.

Or they won't like it. Heck, my Dad likes a lot of things I find totally questionable or just can't get into (classic rock to an extent, silly teen comedies...~~Fox News~~), but he's introduced me to a lot of stuff he's passionate about that I totally love now (like Jimmy Stewart, Frank Capra, Star Wars, Raising Arizona). It's luck of the draw, just let them be individuals and embrace whatever fannish loves they have as they grow up. Regardless of WHAT they're fans of, your kids will probably appreciate having a parent that "gets" it.