[ SECRET POST #1907 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1907 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Disney's Gargoyles]


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[X-Men: First Class]


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[keanu reeves]


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11. [SPOILERS for Death Note]



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18. [TRIGGER WARNING for sexual abuse]



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19. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]



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Comments

[vethica.livejournal.com]

I'd be glad to discuss it with you, anon.

[(Anonymous)]

please do explain to me how a sexual identity that is built around "i only want to have sex with people i have deep feelings for, not like those other sluts" is not slutshaming

[(Anonymous)]

npyrt

It's not "I don't want to have sex with them until I know them better", it's "I'm not sexually attracted to them until I know them better". Big difference.

[(Anonymous)]

oh okay

"i don't lust after them until i really know them, not like those other horny sluts"

[(Anonymous)]

pyrt

Being demisexual =/= looking down on people who aren't

[(Anonymous)]

you are just by labeling yourself that

because the label is unnecessary and slut-shamey

[(Anonymous)]

how do you think things work for non-demisexuals? the vast majority of people feel the exact same way about sex as you do. why do you need a label for it?

[vethica.livejournal.com]

Because sexual attraction, as mentioned upthread, is not the same thing as sexual behavior. You can have sex with someone without being sexually attracted to them, and, as I'm sure many of the people in this comm who are attracted to celebrities and fictional characters can attest, you can be sexually attracted to someone without having sex with them.

What all this means is that being demisexual (or anything else) has no bearing on when or with whom you have sex. It's probably going to influence your choices, but that's true of every sexuality. Demisexuality refers to sexual attraction only, and I'm sure you'll grant that people can't control who they're sexually attracted to.

[(Anonymous)]

blah blah LOOKIT ME I'M A SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE


you are the reason no one takes asexuals seriously

[vethica.livejournal.com]

Well, I tried. It strikes me as somewhat rude to request an explanation and then not respond to it, but suit yourself.

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npyrt

There are some people you just aren't going to convince no matter what. If this is giving you a headache, just stick to educating the curious, like the anon below us.

Of course, if you're having fun, then carry on :)

[(Anonymous)]

That makes very little sense and doesn't really defend demisexuality at all. It actually seems to make it so it's not important and is unnecessary as a label.

But kudos for staying reasonable and calm sounding in the face of ridic anons.

[vethica.livejournal.com]

Really? I'm interested to know why you think that. I think it helps reinforce the idea that demisexuality - like, as I've said, every other sexuality - is defined only by who you're sexually attracted to, not anything else.

[(Anonymous)]

how do you think things work for non-demisexuals? the vast majority of people feel the exact same way about sex as you do. why do you need a label for it?

[100101011.livejournal.com]

i literally had never heard of demisexuality before this thread, and i don't really know what i think about it, but what you're saying is logical (and i'm not sure if others are understanding it?). demisexuality could probably be used as a form of slut-shaming, and for all i know, that's all it IS used for, but a slut (not condoning the word, just expressing general opinion of the definition) is somebody who has sex for the physical pleasure of it, where 'deep' feelings are incidental. but the word demisexual seems to define not somebody's sexual choices (as in, they choose not to have sex because they think it's wrong without deep feelings), but rather their actual proclivities (they have no attraction whatsoever without deep feelings, no choice involved). so, i mean, while demisexuality may or may not actually exist, demisexuality is not, by definition, slut-shaming. it could easily be used as such, obviously. but anyway, what you're saying does make sense, at least logically speaking (going off what little information i have gathered from this thread).

[vertigomac.livejournal.com]

This is what I'm getting as well; it in itself, by it's existance, is not slut-shaming. But it can be used as such by the insecure.

[(Anonymous)]

some people don't need super duper deep feelings for someone before feeling sexually attracted to them. demis aren't saying they're better than the people who can feel sexual attraction w/out feelings, just different?? idk why you would arbitrarily tag on "not like those other sluts," i'm sure some demis think like that but it's not the demisexuality doctrine

[(Anonymous)]

DA

I'm bisexual. That means I'm attracted to both men and women, NOT LIKE THOSE OTHER INTOLERANT PEOPLE WHO ONLY PICK ONE.
Because a judgment of other peoples' choices is inherent in my label for myself, right?

Me identification as an atheist is a judgment on people choosing to be religious. My previous label, buffet Catholic (buffet coming from "picking and choosing" what rules to follow) was just attention whoring, because plenty of religious people pick and choose what religious rules to follow without ever accepting a label!

[heavenonhigh.livejournal.com]

Mother of god, this.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm curious, and since you seem to be the only person defending it, how does "I only want to have sex with people I have an emotional connection with" count as a sexual orientation rather than a sexual or personal preference?

[vethica.livejournal.com]

See my response to other anon (http://fandomsecrets.livejournal.com/860818.html?thread=533251730#t533251730) for an explanation.

[(Anonymous)]

an inflated sense of self-importance and a desire to appear different, specialler and more pure than other people out there

[(Anonymous)]

@previous anon: If you're actually curious and not just saying "yeah, right, give me one good reason why I should believe this", feel free to ignore ignorant!anon over here.

[(Anonymous)]

If you could explain how "demisexual" is at all unique and not just "how everybody operates" that would be swell.

Also "demi" means "half" so shouldn't you technically be attracted to cyborgs or chimeras?

[(Anonymous)]

Also "demi" means "half" so shouldn't you technically be attracted to cyborgs or chimeras?

This is an epic interpretation.