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[ SECRET POST #2061 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2061 ⌋
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[The Girl From Tomorrow]
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18. [WARNING for eating disorders]

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19. [WARNING for pedophilia, rape, child abuse]

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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 12:43 am (UTC)(link)"I think shota is gross." <- Respectable, understandable, normal opinion.
"Anyone who looks at shota supports CP and child molestation!" <- No.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 12:48 am (UTC)(link)Fixed it for you.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 01:01 am (UTC)(link)Because that really doesn't fucking follow.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 01:47 am (UTC)(link)*tbh on a community that's like 99% women that's a pretty poor presumption anyway.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 02:01 am (UTC)(link)boner seems to be used interchangeably for men and women on fs (sometimes distinguished by saying "lady boner")
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 02:28 am (UTC)(link)"Anyone who seeks out vore supports and enables cannibalism."
"Anyone who seeks out stuck supports and enables people being surgically attached to inanimate objects."
There are many cultures in which it's likely for a person to be married by 12 or 13. Are these cultures morally bereft and full of pedophiles?
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 02:33 am (UTC)(link)There are many cultures in which it's likely for a person to be married by 12 or 13. Are these cultures morally bereft and full of pedophiles?
Yes. They are. They're forcing a child into a sexual relationship. I don't care if that's your "culture", it's hurting someone else and that makes it shitty.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 02:51 am (UTC)(link)As someone who is a survivor of rape and reads non-con as a way to cope, I'm kind of offended. Thanks, you dick
Does writing fic about murder encourage killing people too?
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 02:54 am (UTC)(link)okaaaay
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 02:54 am (UTC)(link)Why is a 12- or 13-year-old still a child? He or she would not have been considered such in our own society 100 years ago. Bah and bar mitvahs are intended to usher individuals into adulthood -- at the age of 13. Spanish culture treats 15 as the age of adulthood. Why would this be so?
We are "ready," from an evolutionary standpoint, when we hit puberty. If you're female and you're menstruating, then you are ready to have children. If you're male and you're having wet dreams, then you are ready to have children. That's basic biological fact. But we are not driven solely by biology, and so we have extended childhood. There are now people in their mid 20s who are still, socially and culturally, children. Think of how you would feel if a friend of yours got married at the tender age of 19. S/he'd legally be an adult, but I'm willing to bet you'd think, "that's way too young."
The fact is that, after puberty, what separates a child from an adult is pure construction. It's completely arbitrary. We've come to believe something different, because "adolescence" has been normalized, but it's a fairly recent concept (e.g. the past 60 years). It's not because we've become more enlightened; it's because society has become more advanced, so we can afford to pamper our offspring for a longer period of time. Observe societies that still live in the wild, in as close to the fashion as we were naturally meant to be, and you'll see something very different.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 03:00 am (UTC)(link)12-13 mentally is still a child. They are not mature enough emotionally to understand a sexual relationship fully to the point of being able to enter one willingly. Sorry.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 03:47 am (UTC)(link)There are 2-year-olds in the world who are cooking meals for their families.
There are 7-year-olds who are going on fishing expeditions.
There are 12-year-olds who are competently hunting.
There are people who aren't old enough to serve in our military who are successfully leading their tribes.
We, as humans, are capable of amazing things when we are given and expected to handle certain responsibilities. That's part of what makes it difficult to actually draw the line between "child" and "adult."
Let's take, for example, your mention of a 20-year-old. A typical 20-year-old in our society is not, by many measures, an adult. S/he is still living at home; still has no concept of how consequences follow actions; still has no sense of personal responsibility; still feels entitled to that which satiates or entertains; and still cannot handle disappointment or failure. Is this because a 20-year-old is really a child, or is it because we have decided that 20-year-olds should be treated and indulged as children? I spoke with someone not too long ago who believed that people should not be allowed to drive until the age of 21 and should not be allowed to legally drink until the age of 25, for the reason that individuals in their early 20s are, by all counts, still children. Do you agree?
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 03:05 am (UTC)(link)Brain hasn't fully matured yet.
"He or she would not have been considered such in our own society 100 years ago."
Try to remember which terrible things were considered normal or acceptable 100 years ago and no longer are.
"Bah and bar mitvahs are intended to usher individuals into adulthood -- at the age of 13."
A remnant of an older culture.
"Spanish culture treats 15 as the age of adulthood."
Preeetty sure it doesn't.
"We are "ready," from an evolutionary standpoint, when we hit puberty. If you're female and you're menstruating, then you are ready to have children."
No, pregnancies at that age are considered risky for a reason.
" There are now people in their mid 20s who are still, socially and culturally, children. Think of how you would feel if a friend of yours got married at the tender age of 19. S/he'd legally be an adult, but I'm willing to bet you'd think, "that's way too young.""
True, but shouldn't that be even more reason NOT to have children before adult age?
"The fact is that, after puberty, what separates a child from an adult is pure construction. It's completely arbitrary."
And yet no less real.
"The fact is that, after puberty, what separates a child from an adult is pure construction. It's completely arbitrary. We've come to believe something different, because "adolescence" has been normalized, but it's a fairly recent concept (e.g. the past 60 years). It's not because we've become more enlightened; it's because society has become more advanced, so we can afford to pamper our offspring for a longer period of time. Observe societies that still live in the wild, in as close to the fashion as we were naturally meant to be, and you'll see something very different."
Are you seriously suggesting we imitate societies that live in the wild? Seriously?
Now you're going to tell me that we should do like cultures that marry off women at a young age. (Hint: It's to make them stop studying and start having children and taking care of the household. No, this is not a good thing when it's institutionalized and against their will. It's very hard to argue for it even if it's not against their will. And by against their will, I mean that even if it's not a gunpoint, they will be ostracized and shamed if they don't.)
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 03:36 am (UTC)(link)The brain doesn't fully "mature" until 27. Are you going to tell people that they are wrong for desiring anyone who is below the age of 27?
"Try to remember which terrible things were considered normal or acceptable 100 years ago and no longer are."
The fact that there are some terrible normalized practices at that time does not mean that everything that was normalized at that time was terrible.
"A remnant of an older culture."
A culture in which people died in their 30s, and in which those who we would now consider to be children were not only given but were fully able to handle "adult" responsibilities.
"Preeetty sure it doesn't."
Yes, it does. Turning 15 is a rather important event for that reason.
"No, pregnancies at that age are considered risky for a reason."
I won't deny that they're risky. But they're possible and common, because that is when the body is biologically ready to conceive.
"And yet no less real."
No less real than...what? The idea that a person who is 17 and 11 months old is not able to handle the responsibility of voting, and yet a person one month older is? The idea that a person who is 20 and 11 months old is not able to handle the responsibility of drinking, and yet a person one month older is? The idea that a 15-year-old should not drive, yet a 16-year-old is perfectly competent?
It's real in the sense that, like all other constructions, we make it real. It's not forgone.
"Are you seriously suggesting we imitate societies that live in the wild?"
That is not the point. The point is that our concept of what separates childhood from adulthood is a product of the make-up of our society. When you strip away the trappings of civilization, a different picture emerges.
I'm trying to arrive at a baseline for "childhood." That, to me, involves looking at the circumstances under which we evolved and the manner in which we live when thrust back into nature. Primitive society shortens childhood, and it works; advanced society lengthens childhood, and that also works (to some extent. I'd argue that we've now reached a point where we've lengthened it too much). When something of this nature can shrink or expand depending on the context, where do you draw the ultimate line?
"Now you're going to tell me that we should do like cultures that marry off women at a young age."
When it's only women who are marrying at a young age, I think it's pretty clearly a function of how society views females, and not a function of biology.
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(Anonymous) 2012-08-25 10:36 am (UTC)(link)Yes. Yes it is.
You know what else is a social construct?
Family beyond parents and small children (and even then the forms are mostly socialy-determined). Marriage. Concept of caring for your elders.
Hell, concept of caring for your pubescent children.
Why is it exactly that parents/caretakers should provide for a 12-13-years old?
Those can work. Hell, they did work and provided for themselves not that long ago. Why should we make a sole exception for sexual relationship, huh? You can have children - so go have your own family, you are too old to be a part of mine.
And, while we're at it, how about tossing out all that birth control shit?
Nothing natural about it, after all. You can have children - have them. Lots and lots of them.
That's your biological adulthood right there.
Only we don't operate on biology only. No social species does, it's just that our social constructs are much more complicated than most.
You are saying "socially and culturally' as if it is something superficial. It isn't. These are things that form us as species much more then our biology does. Especially since it's fucking hard to separate it from them. Hell, even our sexuality is geared towards establishing and mantaining social relations as much as t is geared towards reproduction.
There is no 'naturally meant to be'. If we weren't supposed to move past the wild, we wouldn't have the ability to. Nature is not some scripture of predisposed meanings and destiny.