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I'm an adult and in more recent years I've come to suspect that I have ADD/ADHD. Growing up I wasn't always hyperactive, but I did have difficulty keeping myself concentrated on almost anything. Often, I'd have to have things repeated several times to me before I catch onto what is being said or done (I can recall during my freshman year in high school a friend emailed me saying that she got annoyed that I was always asking, "What?" a lot and she felt like I didn't pay attention to what anyone said and she hated repeating herself so much). I mostly was average in school, and I tended to do very well in reading and writing so I don't think anyone ever suspected that I have ADD or anything. I have a younger brother who's 9 years younger than me, and when he was about 7 or 8 I began to wonder if he had ADD so I began doing research on it, and that's when I began suspecting that perhaps I had it.

Yesterday, I forgot how I got to it, but I was reading up on ADHD and BPD and I began wondering if perhaps I have BPD as well. It's kind of freaking me out, but I don't know how to seek professional help, because I know I shouldn't be self diagnosing. I'm just wondering if anyone here can help me find the right places and people to help me out and do legit diagnosis on me.

And before anyone can ask about my parents...my parents grew up in small farms and then refuge camps before coming to America as teens. They don't speak English well and aren't highly educated so even if they suspected that I or my brother might have been "different" from other kids, they'd want to keep it "in the family" rather than have everyone find out that their kids aren't normal. They didn't know that they should talk to the school administrators to find out how to help us out.
As for my brother, he's doing relatively well in school and will graduate this year. If I am able to get myself diagnosed, I might talk to my parents about having my brother diagnosed.

Well, if you have insurance, you should be able to call them for a list of doctors [psychiatrists specifically] that accept your insurance and you are generally able to look them up online and see what patients have said about them on a couple of different sites [google will bring them up if you look up 'psychiatrists in -zip code-'].

If you don't have insurance, you can try going to the local People's Clinic - and even they can't help you, they might be able to point you to someone who can.

Also, *which* BPD are you talking about? There are 2-3 different mental illnesses that have that acronym.

OP here. Borderline Personality Disorder.

AYRT

Okay, because most people - at least that I've run across offline - automatically assume BPD = Bipolar Disorder.

Speaking as someone who actually *has* Borderline, if you have it you know it almost always know it even if it isn't a strong case. It *really* effects your life. how you feel towards others [and your relationships with them], etc. So yeah, if you're worried go get checked out but I wouldn't worry too much.

your situation sounds extremely similar to mine, right down to your parents!

firstly i'd like to say, if you aren't experiencing problems/issues/hardship as a result of your behaviour, there is nothing wrong with you and nothing you need to feel anxious about or 'fix'

from what i know of BPD, it's definitely one of those things where if you had it you'd KNOW for sure...it's a pretty debilitating disorder, and though it can be managed and not all cases are 'severe', no one gets diagnosed with BPD simply by 'thinking' they may have it

i don't know how it works in america, but in my country my first step would be a chat with the family doctor who, if deemed necessary, would refer me to the right practitioner for my particular needs

don't fret! it sounds like it's something which seriously concerns you, so stay away from the self-diagnosis and try to get in to see a therapist* (or the equivalent of what a therapist is called in your country)

If you have insurance, you should be able to get connected to a psychiatrist.

I don't have borderline, but my sister does. It's a miserable thing to have. Contrary to what the other anon said, I think it is something that might be undiagnosed -- personality disorders are tricky. It's also very difficult to treat. There are some medications that might help, but the standard therapy is Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. I won't pretend to have a thorough understanding of it, but I think the main thing is recognizing distorted thought patterns and trying to correct them.

Prolly too late to the post to catch you OP but tbh it sounds like you're describing hearing loss, not mental illness. Do get the mechanics checked out first, make sure those are sound, before you go down the dark road of the DSM.

OP here, not hearing loss. It's not that I don't hear people talking, it's that I hear them speaking but none of the words register into my mind. It's a bit difficult to explain. I can be having a conversation with a person, but if I hear, for example, a car drive by behind me, my mind will begin to think about the car and I can't focus on the words I hear, even if I'm looking at the person and seeing their lips move and they're standing right there in front of me.

NAYRT

If you can, it could be a good idea to go to an audiologist just to make sure. You may have neural hearing issues (that is, difficulty processing sounds), or you may have hearing loss in certain frequencies.

I basically have to treat ADHD myself, without medication. I'm too terrified to take any, after my brother took Ritalin and suffered a severe reaction to the medication that resulted in a far more damaging and permanent disability.

It's... doable. Sometimes it makes me wish I COULD take medication and I suffer from depression, but it's doable.

Sorry, wasn't much help, I guess.

Ritalin is ugly if you don't truly have ADHD. I remember there were stories of lots of ADHD misdiagnoses and as a result Ritalin would just fuck up kids instead. I took it and was fine; also, maybe other drugs (adderall?) wouldn't cause such a reaction? I've never taken it, only Ritalin so I don't know.

If you're an adult, try Adderall. It's ridic hard to get because so many people abuse it and sell it illegally, but it really helped my ADD when I was able to get it.

If it's not too scary, look into Bipolar Disorder. When I was going through the process of being diagnosed ADD/ADHD, Bipolar, and BPD were all mentioned. They all have some overlapping symptoms but are different beasts. Also, it could be that you might not have ADD/ADHD but just one diagnosis that manifests similar to ADD/ADHD*. I have ADD (no hyperactive for me) but a few doctors have said that a lot of people, women and girls especially, get diagnosed as ADD/ADHD when really they're Bipolar, and vice versa. And then a few of the lucky ones, like me, actually have both. But they have very similar and overlapping symptoms.

If you insurance and access to, I strongly suggest seeing a doctor who can recommend a good therapist who can not only diagnose (or second it, if the doctor does diagnose) but can help you cope and deal.

*I don't mean to be dismissing your ADD, just an idea. I don't mean offense and hope I didn't cause any distress.

Firstly, for the love god, do not self diagnose. Never ever self diagnose. Save up for health insurance and go see a professional. I always assumed I was bipolar and so did the rest of my family and work colleagues, it wasn't until I actually saw a psychologist (and psychiatrist) did I learn it was something else entirely.

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