[ SECRET POST #2632 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Game of Thrones]


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03.
[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]


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04.
[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]


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05.
[Twin Peaks]


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06.
[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]


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07.
[Lily Allen]


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08.
[Attack on Titan]


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09.
[The Brittas Empire]


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10.
[Panic! at the Disco]


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11.
[Frozen]













Notes:

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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Meh. I don't have a lot of female friends. And I wasn't catty at all (I was sort of a pushover). It is just that I generally identified more with the interests and personalities of my male friends.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think having only male friends is necessarily a problem, but if you have to go out of your way to mention it, that's a bit dodgy.

[(Anonymous)]

This. It's the girls who hold that fact like it makes them better than other girls that's the problem.

[(Anonymous)]

I was gonna say, did you brag about it? There's "that's just the way it is" and there's the doth protest too much "other girls don't LIKE me" with the subtext of "I'm not catty/bitchy/dramatic like them, I'm Different."

[diet_poison]

That doesn't really sound like the same thing. It's one thing to gravitate towards ladies or towards men as friends, another to eschew your own gender in an attempt to rise above it.

[(Anonymous)]

This. Add to that that every female friend I made wound up thinking I was "weird" for not being interested in the same stuff as them, or stabbing me in the back so the boys would like them better, and I was pretty much put off forever.

[(Anonymous)]

Put off of what, friendships with all women forever? See, this is where it becomes a problem.

diff

[(Anonymous)]

SACRIFICE THE PERSONAL COMFORT LEVELS YOU'VE DEVELOPED FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE TO MAKE A POLITICAL STATEMENT WITH THE COMPANY YOU CHOOSE TO KEEP IS SO FEMINIST.

Re: diff

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, okay.

I'm going to make it a point to avoid all black people from now on, because in my personal experience they are all violent thugs.

Re: diff

[(Anonymous)]

Wait. You really don't see anything wrong with the statement "All women are catty and bitches and going to stab me in the back, so I'm only going to hang out with men"? It's one thing if your interests align with people who just happen to tend to be one gender or the other. It's another thing if you demonize a gender and say that you are better than the other people of that gender and thus can only be friends with people of the other gender.

da

[(Anonymous)]

It's just shitty friendships.

Get a fucking grip.

Re: diff

[(Anonymous)]

Personal comfort levels >>>>>> getting your head out of your ass, obviously.

I just don't feel comfortable around gay people, okay? A lesbian hit on me once so I've avoided them ever since!

Re: diff

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah no, what you're doing is no different than holding bullshit prejudices against PoC, LGBT people, etc. You don't fucking write off an entire group of people just because you had the misfortune of running into a few bad eggs out of the group unless you're a moronic, bigoted asshole. Literally every individual person is different from another.

[(Anonymous)]

but you don't brag about it (as if it's something to brag about, as opposed to just a thing)

[(Anonymous)]

How interesting. Secret is not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

ONLY LILY ALLEN HERSELF IS ALLOWED TO IDENTIFY WITH THIS SECRET.

[(Anonymous)]

Same. When I was in high school, most of my classmates were into clothes and movies and makeup and boy bands and I... wasn't. I just didn't have anything in common with them.

[(Anonymous)]

And now that you are not in high school...?

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, and there were plenty more like you but you wanted to feel special.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I'm learning this about myself more and more in retrospect.

I mean, I did go to a really small school and I had terrible experiences with the girls there. And even when I got to a bigger school and started making friends with fellow nerdy girls who were not into clothes and stuff* being "cooler with guys" had become part of my self-identity for so long that I still considered myself to be friends with mostly guys, even though most of my closest friends were girls.


*And then it turned out, after we were older, that some of those girls WERE into "girly" things like make-up and dresses and things, and THAT was just as alright too (but some of them had tried to hide it because being a nerdy girl also meant being a tomboy).

[(Anonymous)]

i like you

[(Anonymous)]

Given that there were all of three girls (including myself) in the Sci-Fi/Fantasy club and I was the only girl in the computer programming class? No, I really don't think so, or if there were they were damn good at hiding.

[hiyami]

Maybe they were good at hiding because they also had bad experiences when they were being open about their interests.

But what about those 2 other girls in the Scifi/fantasy club? You were not alone then. Not in your class, but at least in your school.

[(Anonymous)]

I know a lot people have ditched or avoided nerd clubs because of some of the people they can attract.

[(Anonymous)]

Same. Though in my case the circumstances also helped.

I was in environment where I both meet many guys and had the chance of spending some free time with them, so I made many male friends.

In contrast, I didn't have the chance to expend time with the women I knew and by the time I noticed, I had several long friendships with guys and no even one female friend and things haven't change at all in years.