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[ SECRET POST #2776 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2776 ⌋

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because apparently he's doing nothing wrong and you're describing him this way…

You should leave him if you're unhappy. Certainly, I think it'd be fairer to both of you. And he deserves someone who will love him as he is rather than someone who is merely tolerating him (as you seem to be doing).

I'm glad I'm not the only one. Sure, we don't know what he's like and he might be bland and boring - but still, he doesn't deserve this if he's not doing anything wrong. After all, OP picked him.

I'll be honest too, this secret hits at a hidden fear of mine -- that someone I love might be only tolerating me and actually thinks I'm pathetic but doesn't say anything. Just…don't do that to someone. It's really cruel, even if you don't mean for it to be.

I'll just never understand the other side, too.

Like if you dislike your partner up to the point you say this sort of stuff to other people - why on earth are you with them in the first place.

Because they're afraid of being on their own? Which strikes me as pathetic, but a lot of people would rather be unhappy and with someone than be on their own. Weird.

a lot of people would rather be unhappy and with someone than be on their own

DA

I would claw my own eyeballs out if I ever, ever, even remotely, entertained anything like this.

That could be a reason. Some of it might also have to do with societal expectations/family pressure, or the screaming biological clock, or a mix.

If someone is the type unable to stand up to their own parents, they might end up marrying someone they don't love because at the time they were thinking "well, you'll do."

If an adult can't stand up to their parents, they have no business calling another spineless.

......... political marriages?

(those still happen, right? lol)

It's not quite that simple. It's perfectly possible to be totally in love with someone who just isnt right for you. A vent secret doesn't mean op's a jerk or bad to this guy.

Still, op: if you're actually unhappy and not momentarily disgruntled, let this guy go. But do it kindly. Make sure he knows he was good to you and the issue is you.

Edited 2014-08-09 21:56 (UTC)

Are you serious? OP describes him as a "spineless wimp" who she HATES and says he isn't like a man "should be." Even if OP isn't being mean to this guy, it's horrible to still be in a relationship with him when this is really what she thinks of him. He's living a lie by being with someone who, in reality, hates his guts. It's incredibly cruel on the OP's part.

...which could easily be something they felt at the moment they made the secret. They could feel differently right now. They might feel this way again. I've thought some horrible things about people when I was angry. Don't pretend you know everything about the OP's life when all you know is this one little secret.

I've thought some horrible things about people when I was angry.

...because you hated someone for doing nothing to you? And then took those thoughts and posted a nasty secret about them for all to see?

Thinking is much different from writing it down and dressing it up for presentation. Sure, it's anon, but this is someone OP claims to be in a relationship with. And it's worse because SO did nothing to deserve it, didn't backstab OP, didn't cheat on OP, didn't run over OP's dog, didn't punch OP in the face (well, judging from the secret, I guess OP would like that sweetly), nope. SO is having nasty things written about him for being his naturally vanilla self.

This secret is a lot more revealing about OP's life than you may think.

Maybe not a punch but lots of women are into being slapped.

That's a comforting fantasy for abusers, imo.

http://dirtydiabolikloversconfessions.tumblr.com/

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You're saying you don't think people have kinks? A slap in the context of explicit negotiations and safewords is a lot different than a slap because a guy is pissed off.

Those women are dumb cunts who hate themselves and need help.

That's misogynist.

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Dude, people are complex. Please stop projecting your insecurities on OP.

I fail to see how that is projecting insecurities onto OP.

Maybe you need to reread OP's secret.

Ah yes, Chard's usual "drop the guy" advice.

...why the hell wouldn't you end a relationship you don't want?

You asshat, that's the advice of everyone in this fucking thread. And you know why? Because it's good fucking advice to give to someone who doesn't like her partner!

You are trying way too fucking hard to prove to yourself that chardmonster is horrible.

yeah all of this you sound like a real piece of work OP (assuming you're not just trolling in the deep that is)

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