[ SECRET POST #3263 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3263 ⌋

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Comments

Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

...the love of your life was a non-sex-repulsed-asexual who would have (and enjoy) sex with you but never find you sexually attractive, or them being a person who finds you incredibly sexually attractive but can't ever have sex with you?

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

The second one.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

Found the acephobe.

Re: Would you rather...

[vethica]

The former. I assume most people don't find me sexually attractive anyway. :P

Re: Would you rather...

[herpymcderp]

I don't really feel a romantic relationship requires a sexual relationship, so I would love the asexual person without needing them to have sex with me at all. As long as they weren't opposed to cuddling and massages and the like, and were all right with an open relationship of sorts.

The other situation just sounds frustrating for everyone involved.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

Okay time for me to be an idiot, I guess, but if they're having sex with me and enjoying it, what is the downside there, really?

Re: Would you rather...

[diet_poison]

it varies from person to person, but for me at least the experience would be severely lessened by knowing my partner didn't find me attractive. which I assume is why the question was asked.

if that doesn't bother you, then #1 does seem like an obvious choice

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

Second one.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

i'd find someone who wasn't the love of my life who could have sex with me and think i'm hot shit. i want my partner to be into me, i'm vain that way.

Re: Would you rather...

[diet_poison]

I don't think that's vanity, anon.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

The latter situation is kind of depressing. I wouldn't want the love of my life to have to go through that.

Re: Would you rather...

[philstar22]

The former. I don't think I could give up sex.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

as an asexual person myself, it makes no difference to me, honestly. but I'd prefer the former since the latter just sounds like a recipe for hella angst.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

I'm trying to think of a scenario in real life that would fit choice #2.

But if I had to choose, I would take the first choice. If they are not sex-repulsed and don't mind sex with me, it's okay if they don't find me sexually attractive.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

I'm guessing it could mean someone who has lost their sexual function due to illness or injury, since that wouldn't automatically mean they've lost their ability to be sexually attracted to people (in fact, I'd imagine this is usually the case).

Re: Would you rather...

[dreemyweird]

okay, I AM ace, but people choosing the second one... puzzle me so much...

"I literally prioritize stroking my own ego over the mental wellbeing of the love of my life and the healthiness of our relationship"

Re: Would you rather...

[herpymcderp]

Yeah idgi either. I think the second option is doomed to end poorly if both parties want to have sex but are completely prevented from doing so.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

What about the second option suggests it would hurt their mental wellbeing or the relationship, though? Like, all it says is they find you hot but sex between you is impossible. That's not unhealthy. Lots of people are in relationships where they can't have sex.

Nor is it stroking one's own ego to want a relationship where you're desired. Personally the first one sounds pretty awful to me. Like, you can fuck them but it's not something they're ever going to want, nor do they actually find you sexually desirable? No thanks.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

I think the second one? I can live without sex. I've been in a relationship where my sexual partner didn't find me attractive, though, and I would never do it again.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

Okay. I'm stumped on how the second one is supposed to occur... The only example I can think of right now is my friend, who finds it difficult to have sex because of chronic pain issues and gets depressed even thinking about it, in which case... why would I want my partner to go through something like that?

Re: Would you rather...

[kallanda_lee]

Asexual who has sex with me. I'm pragmatic. It's not my favourite set-up - I like enthusiasm, but wanting to have sex and not being able to sounds frustrating as hell.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

I would rather have sex.

Re: Would you rather...

[mimi-sardinia.livejournal.com]

The former sounds better to me. I am not sure I would believe a person who claimed to be incredibly sexually attracted to me, because I am quite aware that I am not in they "sexy" category of society (I'm fat and I know it).

The ace person sounds like someone I can be best buds with occasional benefits with and accept their mindset in a pragmatic way.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah definitely the second one.

Re: Would you rather...

[(Anonymous)]

I'm actually in a relationship with a asexual sexually active person. Sometimes I feel really insecure about not being attractive to them, but I have quite the sex drive so yeah, the first.