[ SECRET POST #3418 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3418 ⌋

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05. [SPOILERS for Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood]




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[fscom]

09. [WARNING for rape]

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry that happened, maybe you should see a therapist (if you can afford it).

I suspect your issues have more to do with the anxiety than that book.

I've read that book, and never had any issues.

[(Anonymous)]

Ain't about you, mate

[(Anonymous)]

But this isn't about you, you arrogant fool. If you want to phrase it nicer say "this is probably a result of anxiety. The book might have stirred the pot instead of creating the problem. As someone who has read the book, I never had this situation occur. If you can afford it, seeing a therapist might help you work out this issue."

[silverr]

*hugs*

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, is there anything else to say to this secret other than go see a therapist if you aren't already? sorry, OP.

yeah, there is...

[(Anonymous)]

You could tell her that books are separate from reality. Yeah, recommending therapy is an option, but it's not the only thing to say. It's not like you can remove OP's anxiety from her, but you can always tell her that she cannot let one piece of media ruin her life and that there are plenty of ways to reduce stress that comes from reading something upsetting. It's the same way with children. They might be scared for a long time that a show on TV is scary, but once they fully understand that it is fiction they learn to reduce their fear. Same with a bad dream as an adult. Scary to experience, but you calm down once you're aware that you're awake.

[(Anonymous)]

I've never read that book but I've had that dream where I feel like I need to scream out for help but can barely make a sound and I can feel the scream trapped inside.

[(Anonymous)]

...I've had dreams where I'm in a confrontational/intense situation, the type in which I have difficulty speaking up because I fear the social consequences IRL, but I become stammering to the point of out of breath trying to get the words out while people laugh and don't realize how incapacitated I am. It's intense because I know some people literally do struggle to speak under extreme stress and it doesn't feel impossible?

Anyway, I don't know if I gained any phobias from Speak or anything, but that book definitely gave me a more vivid fear of rape as something that happens between people who know each other.

[(Anonymous)]

:(

feel better

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed that maybe you should see a therapist, since reading a book shouldn't have that kind of an affect on a person, but I'm confused by the, "Being female in society." as a reason for having a phobia of being raped.

Do people really wake up every day all, "I'm a woman, I'm sure someone today might try and rape me."?

[(Anonymous)]

Only if they spend a great deal of time on tumblr or in similar environments.

[(Anonymous)]

Only if they know how the world works.

But it's less of a fear that we will be raped for being a woman, although we are at a significant risk of that, it's more about the fact that the world will attack us for being raped. That no-one will believe us, that police will interrogate us, That our families will hate us, and every man around us will call us liars. The rape is only the start if the suffering for women in our society.

[(Anonymous)]

In some countries maybe, but I'm pretty sure OP is not from any of those countries and the only reason she has that fear is because of the scaremongering that's so common in certain sites.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe the anxiety comes from the statistics on how many women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime, or not even needing those stats to feel unsafe because they know women who are victims?

[lb_lee]

Enh, I'm a trans guy, but I actually see rape as a very normal part of my life, which I DID associate with my assigned gender.

Then again, I faced regular rape from the ages of five to nineteen, and was not the only victim in my family. I mean, with that many years, victims, perpetrators, and events, after a while, you DO kinda come to expect it. But I understand that I come from an unusual background and presumably that doesn't happen to most people.

For me, reading 'Speak' was oddly a numb experience. To me I guess it just seemed... I dunno. Normal.

[(Anonymous)]

I have a fairly severe anxiety disorder (to the point where it has had a major negative impact on my life) and I've never once been concerned about that. The worst thing that has ever happened to me in that regard is construction workers wolf-whistling at me as I walked by, but even that wasn't bad because it wasn't as if they were making any sort of physical advances on me.

[arcadiaego]

I mean, they might, but no, I don't worry about it on the regular. To be honest the fact of it being so present in society means if I *did* worry about it I'd never talk to anyone or go outside.

[(Anonymous)]

If you have screaming nightmares on a weekly basis (at the least), then I think you really owe it to yourself to try getting professional help for them. That's no way to live

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[(Anonymous)]

Considering lots of people who have actually been raped said the book helped them, you're being selfish and short-sighted to anti-recommend it.

(frozen comment) you sound like a dick anon

[(Anonymous)]

So if a bunch of rape victims liked the book it's wrong for a person to have a negative opinion on it because of how it effected them?

It's not like the person they're anti-reccomending it too have to listen to them. They can get a second opinion.

[(Anonymous)]

Imo I actually kinda like that book because it really resonated with me as a sexual abuse survior. But I can see why it would upset peope and honestly I dont ever plan on re-reading it because I feel it would trigger me too much.

That still sounds like a really fucked up problem OP. Sorry to hear that :/

[crossy_woad]

*hugs*

I hope you find something that helps, whether it's talking to someone, or perhaps...have you tried a isochronic tones (like through a sleep app). There's one for dreamless sleep. I used it a lot and did find I was having dreamless sleep. I'm not prone to nightmares, so it wasn't an issue for me, but I definitely need sleep.

There are also binaural beats for dreamless sleep but they require a headphone, and I don't do headphones, especially for sleep.

The app I use is called "relax melodies" but I'm sure there are others.

On a side note, I've stopped using that setting (the dreamless sleep thing) because I'm sleeping better and I actually missed having dreams. I'm more creative when I dream. :)

[lb_lee]

Yeeeeah, seconding all the advice to get pro help if you can, OP.

I mean, I have nightmares multiple times a week and am on medication for them, and I know how much they suck. (And hey, I have regular nightmares about being unable to speak or scream too! We can be nightmare buddies!) Seriously, there IS medication that can help with that.

[(Anonymous)]

The book didn't do that to you, OP. You clearly have mental issues that need to be addressed and worked through to figure out WHY you have those particular fears, because they aren't normal. Mentally-healthy people do not have those fears to the degree that you're having them. Something is clearly off, and it's in your best interest to figure out what it is so that you can find a way to treat/control it.