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⌈ Secret Post #3627 ⌋

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Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Things just got a lot worse.

Tomorrow my parents want me to discuss medication (specifically a form of medication to slow my brain down) with my therapist to treat my learning disorder (Nonverbal Learning Disorder). I know all the advice I've received here is to not let him prescribe me anything, but if I'm forced to take medicine by my folks I may have no choice. I would seriously consider leaving home if I had a job/a place to move to/a friend to stay with. They brush off all my discomfort with him - my mother moreso than my father. She defends him and his methods aggressively while he's the one who offered me a possible out in late January (although he still wants me to see the therapist in the interim, and both of them have threatened to "stop cooperating with me" if I don't comply when I cited my right to refuse treatment). My disorder carries the qualifier that I not be teased or bullied for my mental health - the therapist and my mother justify his behavior because he says he sees me as "more than my disorder" and wants me to grow up and "overcome" it, as if it's a treatable disease.

They caught me on one of the websites you guys linked me to. I was told not to report him because 1) they think he helps people (including me) and trust him and 2) it could get them in legal trouble. So that option's closed off. Apparently I also have to go to serve as a good example for my estranged brother who the therapy was originally for, although he could care less and has stopped going.

In the background to all this I'm struggling with anxiety, and it's grown worse recently, partly because I've grown to feel that the people closest to me don't listen to me, are dismissive of my interests and concerns, and aren't really "on my side" emotionally. Added to that, it feels as if the world's grown into a much darker and more uncertain place - Trump and his hangers-on are part of that, but it's also the fear that I may not be able to mature in time and succeed. My parents talk about how if I don't "grow up" and fail to get a job I'll have to go to a home and basically be screwed for life. They've not taken me seriously when I mention my depression and anxiety and how they're sapping my will and energy, only saying that I have more important worries and need to focus on them. Rather than help, therapy's making me more anxious. (They're especially dismissive of fandom, although fandom's played a large part in keeping me together at all.).

On the other hand, I learned that there are two other group members who are there on the wishes of others rather than their own will (at least one disagrees with his politics, although both of them keep quiet). I'd try and connect more with them, but he's very stern about not talking to or interacting with group members outside therapy. He knows I want to leave (I expressed the sentiment that I was not there by choice) and seems even more determined to keep me in group therapy because I'm oppositional and "need" it to the point where he guessed I would deliberately act up to get myself thrown out of the therapy room and closed that possible way out to me.

The whole thing is very strange - among other things, he says most of the world and most people are "unhealthy" and live in an "unhealthy" state, ace people don't exist while lesbians became lesbians because of liberal arts education, depression is a good thing, and women don't stand up for themselves in conflict.

I don't care how I do it. I want out.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Can you please start waiting for comments to collapse or something? So the FIRST thing we don't see 3 times a week is a wall of text about your Trump Therapist woes.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[kallanda_lee]

2) it could get them in legal trouble.

THIS RIGHT HERE IS A RED FLAG. YES, it COULD get them in legal trouble, because they are forcingb
£t you to see a hack and they KNOW it. Report the fuck out of him.

If they are forcing you to take medication, and you are of sound mind, this is another reason to report.

but he's very stern about not talking to or interacting with group members outside therapy.

Giant red flag again. If you have nothing to be scared of, you don't mind people interacting outside your influence.

The whole thing is very strange - among other things, he says most of the world and most people are "unhealthy" and live in an "unhealthy" state, ace people don't exist while lesbians became lesbians because of liberal arts education, depression is a good thing, and women don't stand up for themselves in conflict.

So basically a hack AND an asshole.


Look, I'm even willing to report him on your behalf, but thing is when push comes to shove, ou must stand up to this.

Ps: do not take any drugs. Fake it and feed them to the plants if you must. Read up on side effects and complain about those.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, if you are over 18, no one can force you to take meds.

You mentioned distant cousins before. Would any of them be able to take you in if you asked? Surely they'd understand in this case.

If nothing else, is there a shelter you can go to? I know that sounds extreme, but your safety is key here.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like both your parents and your therapist are making you feel like you have no choices in these matters, you do.

You don't have to take medication, you don't even have to tell anyone you're NOT taking your medication. If it makes it easier, pretend you are and throw the pills out.

You also can report this person, it's highly doubtful they'd get in any sort of legal trouble. This is about you and your wellbeing, not theirs. If you think it's worth reporting, do it.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Told you to just roll with it, you wouldn't be in this mess if it wasn't for those confrontational yahoos. This is what happens to people who try to be a hero. Take the pills for a week so you know how to fake being on them and you look compliant and then start ditching them, then for the love of god act compliant until you are in a position to get yourself out. If you keep trying the standing up to him route the next stop is institutionalization-ville. You do not want to go there.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[skeletal_history]

1) Dismiss everything this guy says to you. It's all bullshit and he sounds like a cult leader.

2) Read this -- http://www.survivingtherapistabuse.com/do-you-need-help/

3) Google "[your state] mental health resources", call the first result that looks relevant, briefly explain your situation, and ask what kind of resources are available to you. Not just for reporting your therapist, but also for you and getting you out of your shitty living situation.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[raspberryrain]

Oh, boy. If just the last paragraph is even 2/3 accurate, you parents are really making a mistake sending you there, and this guy sounds like a bad therapist.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Do you have a number you can report this guy at? If you do, you could always ask if you could email whoever you're calling with more info. Then copy all the info you've been sharing with us, which will save you some time, and send it. Also what state are you in? I and probably other people can see if there's any way for you to email your concerns or fill out an online form so you don't have to worry about your parents monitoring your phone calls. And don't share what you're doing with your parents; they're not mind readers so you don't have to.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Virginia is a one-party consent state. If you have a way to secretly record these sessions, I strongly suggest you do so.

Resources for Trump therapist anon

[(Anonymous)]

Posting this again, if anyone knows other resources that could help, anon apparently lives in Virginia.

https://www.dhp.virginia.gov/Enforcement/complaints.htm

http://www.dbhds.virginia.gov/professionals-and-service-providers/licensing
Scroll down and there's a "file a complaint" link and instructions

http://www.centerforethicalpractice.org/reporting_peer_misconduct

http://www.dhp.state.va.us/enforcement/complaint_home.htm

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Okay here are some things:

You are being abused. You may realize that, but I just want to validate that right away: both your parents and your therapist are abusing you. You are being emotionally and medically abused. You might have to play along until you can find a way out. pretend to take the drugs but just flush them every day. I don't know as much reporting him, but ther users on here do.

Can you contact this estranged brother at all? He might understand and be able to help you out from under your parents thumb. If this is not viable, don't give up. That's important - don't give up. You will find a way out of this one way or another.

Have you looked for a job? That might help get them off your back (especially if you frame it as 'gosh you're right mom/therapist... i guess getting a job is the best way to grow up') and will help you save up enough to get out.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[dani_phantasma]

Wait til your parents are out on an errand and you're home alone if you can. That's what I used to do when calling hotlines.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[(Anonymous)]

Is your parents' health insurance paying for this, or are they paying for it privately? Because if it's their insurance then he's got some kind of license and you can report him. If you go to a medical center or hospital or whatever for your counseling then just leave during a session, go to the receptionist or whatever, and explain that you're there against your will, over 18, and at the very least would like to request a different therapist. My HMO has a customer service number and if I wanted to I could call and request a change of therapist or primary care doctor or whatever. Actually, googling whatever facility your therapy is at plus "complaint" might either net you evidence that this guy has already pissed people off, or at least provide you with another place to report him.

Re: Trump Therapist Anon Update

[soldatsasha]

There's a lot of support programs out there. Other people have linked good places to start. Call them, even if they can't help you they might have be able to tell you who can. Hell, if you can't call them and you're parents have blocked you from the internet, bundle up in some warm clothes and get the hell out as soon as possible. Walk if you have to. Go to the nearest police station, or fire station, or hospital, or a church, and explain that you need help finding/getting to a shelter.

Being homeless sucks, but sometimes it's the best option. You seriously need to start looking for work, too. I understand that it's difficult when you're mentally ill, but money is the surest defense you'll ever have. It gives you the freedom to get out when you have to and lets you get by without relying solely on the kindness of others. Even a shitty job is better than no job.

Freedom of speech

[(Anonymous)]

Why is it that people should have the freedom to express anything they want, but if you express disagreement with someone's opinion, you are actually censoring them? How do you manage to exercise your own right to free speech, without being pro-censorship? Or does everyone just need to shut the fuck up so freedom of speech can exist unchallenged?

What actors were perfect for the character they played?

[(Anonymous)]

What is worth seeing person?

[(Anonymous)]

What isn't?

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Games thread!

Book club - January recs

[diet_poison]

The poll will go up on Monday! I'm not sure how many rec posts I'll be able to make this weekend, but I will try! Title and author please :)

Recs we've received so far:

I Am Legend by Richard Matheson
The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton
Level Up by Cathy Yardley
Eagle Of The Ninth by Rosemary Sutcliffe
Lascar: A Story of the Maritime Boulevard by Stephen Tennant
The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell

Here are the books we've read so far for book club:

April: Who Censored Roger Rabbit by Gary K. Wolf
May: Maurice by E. M. Forster
June: Dragon Thief by S. Andrew Swann
July: Para Handy by Neil Munro
August: His Majesty's Dragon by Naomi Novik
September: Graceling by Kristen Cashore
October: Dracula by Bram Stoker
November: Watership Down by Richard Adams (currently reading)
December: Practical Demonkeeping by Chris Moore (currently reading)

Quick reminder - we are reading Practical Demonkeeping by Chris Moore for December!

Re: Book club - January recs

[(Anonymous)]

Persuasion by Jane Austen please!