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⌈ Secret Post #4697 ⌋

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I'm just sick of pain, but I'm also sick of the way the painkiller makes me feel. It is just harder to get things done and I find myself groggy and less motivated. I don't like taking it. But I like the pain even less. At this point any weight at all on my foot is extremely painful.

Also, while I seem to be mostly better from the sinus thing, the cough and headache do not want to go away.

I don't think anyone in my life cares about me as much as I care about them.

I kind of feel this too.

Huh, that's funny. I didn't write this.

I have a friend that jumped fandoms to a fandom that I really, really dislike, which is obviously fine-- we met through a mutual fandom, but I'd been under the impression that she was more than just a "fandom friend." I didn't expect we'd stay in the same fandom forever, and again, it's fine that she's now in this one I hate, but... she knows I hate it. I mean, I'm into stuff that she hates too, so I just... don't talk to her about it, so I kind of expected the same courtesy? But instead it's a lot of "I know you don't care about [fandom], but [something about that fandom I genuinely don't care about]!"

I'm trying. I try to find the common threads and go along with the conversations, but even after trying to talk to her about the fact that I'm struggling to find things to say because of my dislike for this fandom (which she briefly apologizes for then seems to promptly forget), I'm just kind of running out of steam.

More concerning, she's slowly detonating all of the friendships that she'd made in our shared fandom. Rationally, I know it's only a matter of time before I'm next. It really feels like she's trying to "reinvent" herself in this new fandom, and... who knows, maybe that's what she'd done when she started in our shared one. Maybe this is just what she does. But it kind of hurts.

My parents recently updated their wills, after not having done so for about 20 years. My mum had previously told me (multiple times over the course of about a year) that she was going to leave me the small rental property she owns - which would be awesome, because the housing market where I live is absolute shit and I have no chance of being able to afford a house at any point in the next decade.
Well they got back from the lawyers, didn't say anything to me, but my dad called my elder brother and told him what changes they'd made - including leaving my brother the rental property.
If they'd just told me, I'd be a little sad, but I'd get over it. But they didn't! I only know because I was in the next room when dad called my brother, and my hearing is pretty good!

It's both hurtful to me that they didn't just tell me that they'd changed their minds, and irritating that they haven't considered the trouble this would cause between me and my brother if my parents died and I hadn't heard that phone call - finding out at the reading of the will that the *entire house* you thought you were going to get is going to someone else? That's the sort of thing that causes multi-generational feuds! Come on!

Wow, that's... kind of cold. Personally I don't think it's a good idea to make promises to people about your will in the first place but to do it and then NOT fufill them and also NOT tell that person... shitty. I don't know what your parents are like other than this incident or how good your relationship with them is, but it might be worth it to address the issue with them. I wouldn't mention that you were hoping for this bequest for such-and-such reasons, though. More in a "could you give [brother] and me a heads up about your will and any wishes you might have for funeral planning so we aren't caught by surprise" approach.

I published two fanfics this week, and they both are getting a moderate amount of kudos, but I wish more people were leaving comments! Come talk to me! >:(

(Yes, this is petty. Yes, every other writer on AO3 has this problem. I've been leaving comments left and right to low-key encourage other writers in our fandom to open up more. Alas. Such is the nature of the beast.)

I hear you. It's one of the reasons why I miss FFnet back in the day.

There's a new guy at my work, and he stinks. He's obese (I'd say he's 350+ pounds) and smells like he is unable to clean himself properly after shitting. He also wears the same dirty/stained clothes every day, he has three shirts and a pair of pants that also smell. This guy has made me and other coworkers gag with his stench and it lingers in rooms after he leaves, like the break room smells terrible after he's been in there. I take my lunch after he does and made the mistake of sitting in the chair he had clearly been sitting in, and I literally had to wash my clothes that night because they smelled like him. And don't even think about using the bathroom for at least a half hour after he's been in there.

I feel awful for this guy. He is a relatively nice person and he's definitely trying, he told me he has struggled with his weight and depression and has actually lost about 150 pounds. I feel for him, I really do. But I don't know how much longer I can stand working with him. I know some of my coworkers were going to go to management and make a complaint, but things at my company tend to move slowly so who knows how much longer it will take, or even what can be done about it (like I said, the guy smells like he can't wipe himself, so I don't know what good a conversation about hygiene will wind up doing).

:(

Ouch that's tough. :( I agree it sounds like a personal hygiene issue, likely stemming from the depression as well as maybe not being able to uh...reach. But not washing his clothes is probably a significant problem, too.

It's be kinder if someone who genuinely likes him could take him aside for a discreet word.

I had to unfollow a fic author whose work I really love because lately about 95% of what they write includes a kink which is a personal squick of mine. I got tired of getting alerts about a new fic only to be disappointed when I realize it includes that one kink I hate.

Oh, that's such a drag :/

Not posting my fic because I have a mild dyslexia so it takes forever to edit. It's very frustrating when I find SPaG mistakes in my old gifs or wallpapers. It doesn't bother me outside of fandom.

Get a beta reader to do it for you? You can always give a full disclaimer that you are dyslexic beforehand.

No one wants to be my beta because my fandoms are small and also because I make too many mistakes so it takes too much time.

I really could do with fewer people "speaking for everyone" when they're making a complaint, not realising that the rest of us simply didn't feel like starting a discussion by disagreeing with whatever they were grumbling about it.

(most recently, one of my fellow clarinets petitioning for fewer of us to play during the altissimo parts in "Fantasia on the Dargason" because "it's so ugly and piercing and we all think so", apparently never noticing that not a single one of us ever responded with something more than "mm-hmm" when she nagged about it within the section. THERE ARE THREE FFF IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE LOUD)

Getting reeeeaaaaaal tired of my coworker who calls out "sick" all the fucking time. Bitch, I have a chronic health condition (migraines) and I've called out fewer times in the past YEAR than you have in the past six months. And she's supposed to be my backup so if she calls out, that means I have no backup and I have to do my work AND hers.

I wish they'd just fire her because she's too goddamn flaky to have a job. (Oh, and the kicker? She was out for almost a month because she fucked up her knee, and when she came back I overheard her telling another coworker that it happened when she was "wasted.")

Fuck off. Just fuck off so that we can get someone reliable instead.

One of my favorite political thriller movies of all time is The Manchurian Candidate but one thing about it really bugs me. What does the conversation between Frank Sinatra and Janet Leigh when they're on the train mean?? It's a bunch of gibberish! If you've seen the movie you will understand why I'm asking this.

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