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Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

Thread for questions

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

Is it weird that my roommate never talks to me unless I start a conversation? Like not even a "hey" as they walk by me in the house. I was making dinner and they came into the (very small) kitchen and grabbed some stuff and never acknowledged me at all. But if I say hi or ask how their day is or whatver they seem up to a conversation. I just don't know how to read them at all.

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

Not really. Some people just aren't that chatty. Don't be so neurotypical about it.

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

I personally think its pretty rude not to acknowledge someones presence in a room.

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

Some people are socially awkward, shy or just not good at initiating conversation but are okay with participating if someone else starts. Don't know what your roommate's deal is because we don't know your roommate.

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

They might be very shy or bad with small talk. Imo, it's appropriate to ask directly how they feel about it, since you share living space and having your boundaries for alone time and social time out in the open may put your worries at ease. I find their behavior a bit weird but not a sign that they dislike you or anything unless they do other stuff that comes off that way.

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

It seems slightly rude to me, but you don't know how they were socialized; they might have had a parent who basically ignored them so they're not used to starting up conversations. Too difficult to tell why.

I wouldn't take it personally though, since they do chat with you when you get the ball rolling.

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

Eventually your roommate should talk to you 'cause that is kind of weird. You LIVE together, for God's sake. See, in this situation, I'm the non-talker because I'm probably trying to pretend I'm living alone because I hate the fact that I can't afford to do that. So sometimes I'd probably be avoiding chit-chat with you (if I was the non-talking roommate). But, yeah, it is odd & eventually they're going to have to open their mouth to chit-chat (as I would have to). I'm sorry if they seem cold!

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

If they're fine with talking to you when you start a conversation then they're probably just a quiet person. Some people are like that, I have a friend who doesn't tend to say much unless you address her directly. She'll happily sit and listen to other people talk and occasionally join in, but for the most part she tends not to talk that much and that's just the way she is.

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah it's a bit weird.
I sometimes have trouble acknowledging people because I overthink (do I know them, should I say hello, is it ok to say hi at this point etc etc). But they are your roommate so at this point it's getting baffling

Re: Ask away

[(Anonymous)]

Chiming in with they might have their reasons not to initiate conversation.

I think it'd be good to tell your roommate, "I want us to be comfortable with each other. I like to say hi when I enter a room/space. The other day you walked into the kitchen and didn't say anything. I feel awkward when this happens." And then follow up with your wants/expectations. Ask your roommate what their wants/expectations are, if they have any.

Maybe you two can come up with a compromise. Or maybe you just need to clear the air.

For me, I grew up in a household where I was only acknowledged when my parents wanted/needed something from me. Subconsciously, I can dread someone greeting me in fear that the greeting comes with expectations for me drop everything to show up for other person.

It wasn't until a couple weeks ago I read this thing where the person stated we should say "hi" to people, even if we're just walking past each other because we are acknowledging each other's existence and it feels good...that I understood that a simple "hi" is a part of human social interaction.
It's one of those small things that we should do because humans are social creatures.

Like, for me, I'm fine if someone enters a room and doesn't acknowledge me. But I've learned most people prefer to be greeted with a "hi/hey/hello" yet they likely might be too afraid to be the one to initiate the greeting, so I try to say hi to most people. I also remind myself it's OK if I'm tired and forget to greet people every now and then.

Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

The thing I hate most about summer is trying to find good recipes that don't need to be cooked. Sandwiches and salads only get me so far. Does anyone have favorite no-cook summer recipes?

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

Ambrosia salad.

Now a lot of recipes say you can use cool whip, but you can't. You have to use real mayonnaise, and don't forget to use the lemon flavored kind; although Philadelphia spread can be substituted in a pinch.

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

Not exactly no cook but in the summer I live on cold pasta and veggies dishes. I make up a giant batch of fettuccine and store it in the fridge, just dishing out portions as needed and serving cold. It’s soooo good! I also tend to make like 1/4 of garbanzo beans and toss handfuls of them into whatever I’m eating. Canned works too and means I don’t have to cook once or twice a week but a can is just 2-3 servings for more than the cost of 1lb of dried.

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

in the vein of pasta salad, where the cooking is brief and doesn't heat up the kitchen much, I'm a fiend for zarusoba. Cold soba noodles, takes about 6min to boil, then you cool it in ice water and eat cold with a little dipping sauce and wasabi. blanching and cold-shocking vegetables is also the smallest amount of cooking I'll do when it's shitty; you'll find recipes labeled salads like this, but it's not a salad-salad like a bowl of lettuce and spinach. I like elote-style corn salad with peppers and cojita cheese, radish-and-asparagus with a light dressing, pickled daikon and carrot salad, that sort of thing.

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

I like to toss a few cans of lentils, sliced cucumber, and halved grape tomatoes with a vinaigrette and keep that in a container in the fridge. Really filling.

Also, these take a little cooking, but can live in the fridge, pasta salads, salads with orzo or Israeli couscous (toast it a bit in the pan before cooking) or farro (farro is my FAVE.)

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

I just like to drizzle lemon juice on anything and everything during summer. If there's any one flavor I associated with the season, it's lemon.

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

When there are good tomatoes, I love gazpacho! Cold cucumber/yogurt/mint soup is another nice refreshing one.

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

It's harder if you're really serious about not cooking at all, but maybe consider keeping a bunch of snack type foods on hand? Think "adult Lunchables", i.e. cold cuts and cheeses, pretzels, crackers, cheese spreads, hummus, dips that go well with carrots and celery, etc.

But mostly what I do is try to cut down on oven usage when it's hot. That sometimes means cooking stuff in bulk, like marinating several pounds of chicken thighs/drumsticks in bbq sauce, then baking it and having 1-2 drumsticks for dinner, along with a vegetable. Likewise, I cook a bunch of rotini pasta, mix it with chopped colored bell peppers, onion, celery, diced ham, diced pepperoni or salami, grated parmesan and then half a bottle (or more) of Italian dressing so I can have cold pasta salad for lunches.

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

Not exactly not cooking, but try cold soups. A lot of them are smoothies and salads in disguise

Re: Summer Recipes

[(Anonymous)]

Found a recipe I used to make all the time in college (and will probably make this dish again soon). If you don't have issues or allergies with cilantro, fish sauce, mango, cucumber, sriracha, sesame seed or ginger, you can check it out.

https://www.imnotthenanny.com/2018/08/black-bean-mango-salad.html

Fellow trans F!S users, a question

[(Anonymous)]

(And please don't hesitate to tell Case to lock this if trolls come swarming)

Do you ever worry about, or have you ever experienced, others being aggressive not just to you but to your friends who gender you correctly? I've only come out to my immediate family and my best friends, and when I think about coming out entirely, I'm more worried about them getting shit from our mutual acquaintances for switching to referring to me by my correct gender and pronouns. If they give me shit that'll suck but it's my choice to be out, and it's about me. I don't want to make any problems I may get the problems of my friends and family too. Has anyone else had this worry or problem and what did you do about it?

Re: Fellow trans F!S users, a question

[(Anonymous)]

I've never had this happen, no. Maybe I'm just lucky to live in a progressive area with a very understanding friend group but even random store clerks catch themselves and correct themselves willingly and politely if they slip (not paying attention, assuming based on something I'm wearing maybe). Like. I have never even thought of this even being a thing anywhere around me, including online circles.

Have you seen this happen to other trans folks?

How early is too early to go to bed?

[(Anonymous)]

Currently deep in a depression and all I want to do is lay in bed/sleep. I've been telling myself I have to stay out of bed until 8pm...7pm at the earliest, but tonight I'm struggling. Self imposed healthy guidelines are meaningliess and life doesn't matter, go to bed whenever the mood strikes.

Anyway, do you think there is a "too early" for going to bed?

(Let us just assume we are talking about a more traditional type of schedule of getting up in the morning for work, not like 2nd or 3rd shift workers or something.)

Budget/Finance

[(Anonymous)]

Does anyone follow budgeting or similar finance accounts on Instagram? If so, what do you think is good (or not so good) about them?