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Oh, god. I just have to get this off my chest.

So, I live with my parents and my sixteen-year-old brother. My brother and I do our own laundry. My mother does laundry for herself and my dad. The problem with this is that clothes and other linens get washed, but never put away.

After a load of laundry comes out of the dryer, my mom will set it on the counter or on top of the dryer (it opens in the front) in a big pile. At first this is alright, but then another load of laundry goes through and adds to the pile. Before long, a fucking laundry mountain is born. Once in a while she'll put something away, but there is always a sizable stack on the dryer, which means that I have to basically embrace the laundry mountain in order to be able to reach around to the button to turn the dryer on, and sometimes someone will walk in and ask what I'm doing with my face pressed into the laundry pile. I never asked for this.

The things that do get selected for removal from the mountain are only my dad's clothes and linens like bedsheets and napkins. My mom just leaves her clothes in the laundry room. ALL OF THEM. She actually gets dressed in there because it's where all of her clothes are.

It's gotten so bad lately that when I needed to use the dryer, I had no choice but to set a pile of clothes down on the floor. The floor that is lightly dusted with cat litter, since the cat box is also in the laundry room and no one ever cleans in there. After I type this post, I'm going down there to start folding things. I must take up the mantle of Launderer, for none shall Launder for me.

Tell me, F!S: what are some things that the people you live with do that drive you up the wall?

Sounds like your mom needs some intervention before things get out of hand, nonny --- she totally sounds like she's heading down the road to becoming a hoarder. If she flips out after you fold the laundry and give it to her to put away, that will be your tipoff.

My mother is a hoarder, but I've managed to contain her to two areas of the house (her bedroom which is basically her walk-in closet -- she sleeps on the living room couch -- and the basement which isn't a full, finished basement anyway, so when the STUFF gets too moldy, it's all going), but yeah. Your mom is definitely showing some very bad warning signs, anon. Trust me on this. Nip it in the bud.

I have to say I don't think being messy and hoarding are really the same thing...are they? I mean it's one thing to not put stuff away if you have it, that doesn't mean she's adding more stuff to the house...

I really think you are reading too much into what OP said. It just sounds like OP's mom has gotten into a really bad habit, and doesn't realize how it effects everyone else in the house.

oh geez this thread is so relevant to my life right now

ok so I live with just my sister in a house my parents own where neither of us have to pay rent. She has a job and I'm unemployed and a full-time student. This causes problems because she spends every cent she possibly can while I hoard my money knowing that it's all I have to get by until I can find a job.
So needless to say my sister does a lot of the grocery shopping. To make up for it, I volunteered myself to do all the housework. But she still constantly bitches at me about both these things. Every now and then she'll start going on and on about how I don't buy my share of the food and end up eating a lot of the basic groceries (eggs and milk) that she buys and she never gets any. She also likes to complain about how she can never figure out where I put things when I clean and that it bothers her when I move things around for space convenience because half of the time where I put things she thinks is "too tacky looking"
It drives me nuts because I end up spending what little money I do have to make up for the groceries and I'm not sure what I'm going to do once I run out completely, and I feel constantly under-appreciated about all the housework I do to a point that it's getting harder and harder to motivate myself into doing anything. I've tried talking to her about this numerous times but I think it's going in one ear and out the other.

it seems like there's no pleasing your sister

I say save your money. Your sister needs to learn to manage her money better, and you are cooperating with the running of the household by doing chores

and also, you're studying to get a good job later on, it's not like you're sitting on your ass doing nothing all day

After 4.5 years of college and 10+ roommates, I've got three main ones:

1. Leaving the front door unlocked, especially at night
2. Leaving dirty dishes on the stove/in the sink, double points if they're MY dishes
3. Being super loud after midnight on a weekday

oh the leaving the door unlocked thing would really REALLY bug me. That's just flat out dangerous, they are literally compromising your safety.

My roomie did that once with the back door(by mistake I think) but I mentioned it to her and I haven't noticed it since. The front door auto-locks all the time and I don't mind having doors unlocked while people are home but if they went out and nobody was home yeah that would really upset me

The thing that really annoyed me about the door thing is that we lived on the first floor of a student apartment complex that had a pretty heavy crime rate. And the big kicker was... oh my god, okay, so one night, the university emergency system sent all of us alert texts that a guy had walked into an apartment in the building RIGHT NEXT DOOR TO US with a gun. Not broke in. Not knocked on the door and someone answered without checking. THEY FUCKING WALKED IN WITH A GUN BECAUSE THE DOOR WASN'T LOCKED.

So I knocked on my roommates' door, and was like "this just happened. make sure you lock the door." And she was all "okay, okay." And the NEXT FUCKING MORNING the door was unlocked again.

And I couldn't "blame" her blame her, since there were four of us in the apartment but I knew it was her since we never had the problem when she was out of town. I found out what she'd do was invite a bunch of friends over, and then the friends would leave really late at night, but she wouldn't escort them to the door to lock it behind them. D:

By far, my worst roommate ever. I got out as fast as my lease would allow because I really didn't feel safe anymore.

Oh gosh I don't blame you one bit. That's ridiculously negligent, complete flippant disregard for your privacy and safety. I hope she shaped up at some point...

I mean, I don't get it. She knew what had happened, didn't she fear for her OWN safety??

She hand-waved it off by saying the gunsman knew the folk and that it probably had something to do with drugs. AKA you only have to worry about home safety if you actively know you might be personally targeted or something. :\

So, how about take all the laundry up to her room and just drop it on her bed? It's where it should be, it's out of the way, it's not sitting in cat litter, and maybe she'll get a clue.

I have a FUCKTON of issues with living with my family at home, mostly because my brother is an entitled, self-absorbed, messy 20-year-old. I love him and actually my relationship with him has been improving a lot lately which is great, but I hate hate HATE sharing space with him. He leaves nasty messes in the bathroom, plays sports in the living room 24/7 (and my parents tell him he should go to the basement every now and then but he often whines his way out of it) and then will turn around and do things like watch a movie in the living room and have an absolute fucking cow at anyone else who dares to make noise on the main level of the house. Also he eats food mindlessly with no regard to fair shares.

My roommate here at school I don't have nearly as many issues with. The one thing that comes to mind when I think of "pet peeve" with her is that she never squeezes the sponge out after washing dishes, which means it's always laying in the sink all soppy and I'm afraid it's going to mildew. And it's really odd too because she's very domestic and way more of a clean freak than me in almost every area.

-Never taking a turn to buy communal items. We once went without hand soap for a couple of weeks because I got tired to always being the one to buy it and decided not to get more when we ran out.

-Not telling me if you have a problem and instead getting all passive-agressive and letting things fester until they become bigger problems in your mind than they really are. I once had some dorm roommates who arranged a mediation session with our RA to present some complaints about how I wasn't doing my part to keep the bathroom clean enough. The thing was, they'd never actually told me they thought I needed to pitch in more. When the RA finished reading their complaints and told me I could give my defense, I explained that no one had spoken directly to me about this before. The RA said I could go back to my room while my roommates stayed with her for a minute. No one ever brought it up again and I like to think the RA told my roommates to just talk to me next time instead of wasting her time.

haha I once lived in a semi-suite-style dorm where myself, my roommate, and six other girls shared one bathroom to which we all had a key (so kind of like regular dorm bathrooms just a bit smaller and other people couldn't access it). A week or so into the semester we got some really nasty, passive-aggressive signs being posted on the walls about how people weren't cleaning up ~exactly the way they wanted us to, and later we wound up with the same kind of RA-mediation thing. Sadly I didn't have a very good RA that year and she just wasn't really into it...

- Seconding anon on not telling if you have a problem. How are we supposed to solve it if you won't tell us something's wrong? Or, even better, won't say there IS a problem in the first place.

- Not doing your supposed chores. Especially if you try to frame it as "omg I couldn't I was working/studying so much~" while implying the rest of us are lazy.

- Suddenly putting stuff in other places without telling anyone else. Like the girl who put the saucers in a box under the sink because "no one was using them anyway".

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