[ SECRET POST #2238 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2238 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

15. http://i.imgur.com/CAWVavV.png

[(Anonymous)]

Are you a lady? Because most people don't assume women have thinning hair so much as just "thin hair." This has been my experience, in any case.

[(Anonymous)]

Exactly. Also, if you have long(ish) hair it's a lot easier to make your hair look less thin and even to hide bald spots than it is with short hair (which is what most balding men have to work with). Just go to a good hairdresser, OP, and ask if they can find you a haircut that makes your hair look less thin.

[(Anonymous)]

This has not been my experience at all, anon. In fact, back when my hair was only slightly thinning and still reasonable, I had a friend exclaim to my face "OMG, are you balding???" I have ever been so mortified. And now it's far thinner and I'm constantly panicking.

[(Anonymous)]

OP just try to understand that it's more common in women then you think (I assume you are a woman since you are talking about a woman in your secret.)

I lost a bit of hair a few years ago, my Doctor said I was not going bald, and while it's true I didn't lose more, it also didn't grow back :/ So now I am very limited to how I can style my hair and I spent a lot of time being extremely depressed about it.

Maybe it wouldn't bother me so much if I weren't so ugly in so many other ways... but man I understand, it sucks.

[(Anonymous)]

Can I just offer an internet hug, here?

I won't be patronizing and say 'Aw, I'm sure you're beautiful, everyone's beautiful!', because I hate that kind of thing myself. Nothing's *wrong* with your looks, or mine, but it's annoying when people pretend that there *isn't* a bell curve of generally-understood attractiveness, that for every movie star there's a girl who just isn't going to turn heads when she walks into a room, but who still deserves to come to terms with herself and feel valued.

From someone else who's still working on that, you're wished all the best.

[(Anonymous)]

I would be very surprised if we haven't got a decent solution within the next decade. Just a matter of holding out until then :(

[(Anonymous)]

I have 'thin' hair. (I prefer to call it 'fine' because 'thin' has a more negative connotation attached to it) I've never had anyone say to me that my hair looked bad or unhealthy or that I was balding because it's thin?

I dunno, I feel pretty with my thin hair, I didn't know I was supposed to feel otherwise. :/

[(Anonymous)]

Same. Hell, it's easier to take care of. I don't have to run a brush through it a million times, less shampoo and conditioner needed, nor do my hair ties break after three uses. (I have several very-Italian female relatives, that's a common complaint about their thick hair)

The only complaint I have is that my hair doesn't keep curls without a gallon of mousse and hair spray. Otherwise? IDGAF that my hair is as fine as it is.

Rock on, fine-haired ladies. (and dudes) Rock on.

[(Anonymous)]

I love my thin hair. It's also incredibly soft and silky. I have a lot of friends who have really gorgeous curls, but their hair just feels coarse and rough (even though it's healthy) compared to mine.

[yeahscience]

I just said this in an above comment but there are two kinds of "thin" hair: fine hair and sparse hair.

[kamino_neko]

Fine hair and thin hair are both things, and very, very different things.

Fine is hair texture, thin is hair density.

You can have thick, fine hair, or you can have thin, course hair, or thin/fine or thick/course. And, of course, both are in degrees.

[(Anonymous)]

well, that's kind of the point, isn't it. the OP doesn't have fine hair, she has thin hair. you probably actually do have fine hair. they're two different things and they look different (at least i can tell the difference - i have a friend who is extremely insecure about her thin hair).

[(Anonymous)]

Is that pic what you call "thin" hair? Looks normal to me?

[supermanda]

OP! Don't hate your life :( I've had alopecia since....well, I don't remember a time I never had it. I can remember as far back as 3 years old (I'm 19).

I used to just hate myself for it too, especially when I hit junior high. I hated myself, but then I questioned why that was. Sure, I had a few spots here and there, and my hair was really thin - but why hate myself for it? Because other people wouldn't find that attractive or appealing? I say fuck 'em. I do still hide it, but that's not because I'm ashamed, necessarily. It's because I just don't want to hear people's comments. They will comment. People take out their insecurities on other people. It's such a disgusting, hateful thing to do, but such is life.

You're not alone, OP!! You are most certainly not alone at all. If you ever want someone to talk to, I'm here!! I would LOVE to have someone to talk to about it myself!

Stay strong <3 Life is full of amazing opportunities. Don't dwell on what you don't have. If it helps any, focus on how much you appreciate the hair that's stayed put. That's what I do on bad days :)

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP, but I want you to know that this has been incredibly inspirational. I've been losing hair since my mid-teens and I was only able to confront the problem head-on a few years ago and I'm still struggling with it emotionally.

Thank you.

[(Anonymous)]

Pauley Perrette (Abby on NCIS) has fairly fine hair and she rocks it.

[(Anonymous)]

Aaaw OP, you rock that thin hair! Think of how much cooler in hot weather you are, and you can brush it so much quicker! Long hair will hide the bald parts easier and maybe you can find some really cute hats if necessary.

And you can braid your hair much easier! I used to have thick hair and it was so hard to braid. It's thinned since then and I can actually braid it!

[(Anonymous)]

OP, this has been said before but it's worth repeating! Long hair tends to weight down the rest and make bald spots more visible. if that is how your problem is manifesting, look into keeping a short hair cut and discuss it with a hairdresser if possible.

[comma_chameleon]

My hair used to be super thick, but I've been really ill for the last five or so years and it's gotten very fine and delicate, and I actually find that the shorter I keep my hair the less it falls out and the less "ill" or "thin" my hair looks.

I think if it's something you're very self conscious about, find a stylist that really listens (it took me decades and another country to find one who actually listens to me) and they'll often give you all the help and advice they can.

Also, washing your hair less frequently (every other day or every two to three days), and washing it in cold or cool water as opposed to hot water will also help it fall out less during the washing process.

[yeahscience]

the shorter I keep my hair the less it falls out and the less "ill" or "thin" my hair looks.

Seriously! I just hacked almost all my hair off and this is the best it's looked in ten years. People can't seem to stop telling me how much better this is...

[yeahscience]

On the one hand, as someone with thinning hair, I totally feel your pain. On the other hand... I've never thought of Alyson Hannigan as having thin hair, and it doesn't look especially thin in that photo to me, so I am confused.

[silverau]

I'm glad you have something to help you feel better!

[(Anonymous)]

Hey op I didn't see the I hate life comment when I commented earlier. Obviously I can't tell you to stop hating as it doesn't work that way, but perhaps there are things you can do to help yourself feel better and make life a little better. Maybe try a new hair style to hide the bald spots and give yourself a new look, or try wearing different outfits to what you usually do.

Probably no-one remembers but I posted in the GC last year about suddenly losing hair. It's still happening and I rather hate it too, having the choice taken from you. I've started wearing hats and beanies reluctantly and it was nice how people commented on how cute they are. I got a bob cut too, so its long enough to hide any bald spots, but not so long it weighs down and shows them and also the...poofy? the poofy of it helps give an illusion of thickness (it is a haircut I used to avoid because thick hair = REALLY poof but now it's acceptable poofy. kind of looks like girl in secrets hair)

I think my alopecia is lessening. If it helps OP, mine was caused by a combination of night shift work and Vitamin D deficiency and probably not enough protein because I forget to fead myself properly. o foxed the d3 deficiency first and it didn't stop hair falling out but those that had started regrowing so hair would fall out cause already damaged and a week later would be growing back. the spots that fell out before i fixed the deficiency needed injection help to grow. turns out d3 is part of the indicator telling hair to grow. protein is what your hair is made out of so i eat more of that since during nights i basically just ate bread.
stopping ngiht shift has stopped my hair falling out (as much, I find it takes about 1-2 months for anything i do to affect my hair)

but i hope some of that helps you out OP. it really sucks. I'm glad she's making you feel better about your hair

[(Anonymous)]

p late to the party I'm sure, but have you tried seeing a doctor about it? I started losing hair at an alarming rate in my early teens, and in females it can be a pain to figure out the cause. but i've been using mynoxidil for like three years now and right now, it looks pretty much normal (maybe got back like 75%)