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I want to lucid dream, but the idea kind of scares me...

The thing is, the really jail worthy actions are usually built straight into the story - and removing them pretty much destroys the story. The realistic abuse? Not so much - plus a lot of us had to live with that kind of behavior growing up and have it written off as 'Well, they weren't *hitting* you, so it's not *really* abuse...' or something along those lines. So excusing that? Hits way too many things that are close to home.

Hell, what about when your race starts evolving into a different one and you're just a relic of what they used to be? Would you even be considered eligible to be considered the same race after a certain point? Hell, would you have any legal rights/protections at that point?

Definitely; I mean, I've seen enough people going "I don't know, Gothel was a perfectly good mother." At least OP knows themselves, and death is a perfectly normal thing to freak us out.

best description of Eternal Sunshine EVER.

But yeah, he does look good in that movie. And best performance he's ever done, IMO.

Yeah maybe ayrt missed that part. By "no reason" I meant that it was a very small volume of blood taken in a procedure that didn't register as serious to me (and that I'd had done before). I understand now what happened, but at the time I had no idea.

minor correction, the latterns only appear once a year on her birthday.

I always figured that... well, we don't exactly know how the kingdom is shaped. Perhaps it is shaped in such a way that all the getting out of the kingdom is perilous except in a small number of places which of course would be guarded well with a royal kidnapping. Maybe she locked Rapunzel in that tower with the intent of some day fleeing the kingdom, except by the time everything had died down enough that nobody would suspect her sneaking out the kingdom with a golden haired child, she was also saddled with a golden haired child with too much hair for easy and inconspicuous travel?

Well...as much as it hurts to say this [as a gamer myself] a lot of gamers at the very least *act* like sexist, homophobic and racist asshats when online. So it's possible that they don't see it that way or have been desensitized [for lack of a better word]towards it.

Not all gamers, of course, but...well...A lot do.

I'm honestly really bummed out about this. Easily my favorite critic, and one who clearly loved film and wrote what he felt, regardless of anything. I really trusted his reviews. Despite being sick for a long time, it feels way too soon.

(Anon above you who tried to explain some of these things)

I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that (and more that you didn't describe, I'm sure). I hope you were eventually able to find a way out, or that you are able to soon. *hugs if wanted* You're absolutely right that people in abusive relationships are often cut off from most or all of their escape options -- that's the nature of abuse, and the nature of a society that normalizes abuse. Neither you nor anyone else who has been through domestic abuse should ever be blamed for not getting out.

Nexus' mod manager actually makes it pretty easy.

Very well said. That sums up Season 2 Andrea pretty exactly, especially in that incident.

Wasn't there some extended Dan Savage drama about this recently? Just saying, if the opinions of FS don't satisfy your curiosity there is some reasonably fresh wank out there.

I think orientations and labels are primarily for the comfort and peace of mind of those who want them. As dumb as I think plenty of the orientations people come up with these days are, as long as they're not personally asking me my opinion I'm not going to give it to them.

Slipped on the ice last December. I broke and dislocated my ankle, so my foot was pointing nearly 180 from where it was supposed to point. I'm in pain, I don't see anyone around, but I'm still lying in the middle of the street, praying I don't get run over while I call the ambulance.

Yes. Thought I wasn't, now I am.

This.

They're basically styles of relationships/preference or belief towards relationship as opposed to 'Hey, I find you sexually attractive!' like sexual orientations are.

Right. Far better to provide a free-fire range for criminals and crazies instead of letting people have the means to possibly protect themselves.

Do I think that it will prevent all the deaths in a situation like that? No, of course not, because I do live in the real world where in a high-stress situation people (even trained police officers) do not always hit what they aim at. But it might prevent some.

How's that saying go? "If it saves one life..." Works both ways. If the teacher is going to put herself between the kids and an armed maniac (which they generally do in these situations, because they're kind of awesome like that and that's what they do), it'd be nice if she was more than a damn target.

I agree about the first part. I will only say that I think it is ridiculous to judge a person on their religion.

It's really hard to compare your visits to the Middle East against my deployments because the natures of the visits are so radically different. In Iraq, people either loved or hated us because we were the US Army. If the responded differently to us as individuals, it seemed to be based more on gender than race. My unit was based in Mosul that deployment, which was the most diverse city in Iraq at the time; it was a mix of Muslims, Kurds, and Christians. But I was in Baghdad for later deployments and the locals there had the same attitudes towards us. There were less people that US soldiers than when I'd been in Mosul, but we'd also been occupying their country for years at that point and daily life for citizens was generally worse than when Saddam was in power.

I did witness one racist incident out of my three deployments; a local in Mosul hired by the US Army for construction work refused to work when an African American soldier was assigned as their supervisor. He said many racial slurs in both his native language (I cannot remember what it was) and English. Rather than moving him to another crew, the office in charge of local hires fired him. The worker wasn't originally from Mosul and he was Muslim, but I can't remember where he was originally from or what sect he belonged to. He was on the work crew for a few weeks and he got a long with some of the other workers, but most of them didn't like him. My lasting impression of him is that he had a bad attitude, was a trouble maker, and was not reflective of any larger group's usual behavior or sentiments. I could be wrong about that, but it's unlikely I'll ever know.

DA

I don't like the emphasis on "you CHOOSE to be goth, etc." for a couple of reasons. First, it sounds kind of really victim-blamey, like if they didn't want to be targeted for this kind of violence, they should just give up this subculture/presentation that they've made a significant part of their identity (and yes, there are lifelong goths and whatnot). Second, I reject the notion that I'm ALWAYS going to be Catholic despite having walked away from the religion. Besides which, it implies that converts cannot be the target of violence on the basis of their adopted religion, even if they are dressed in a way that clearly identifies them as a member of that faith (for instance, Muslim converts wearing hijab).

For me, the defining factors of a hate crime are (1) that it targets people based on membership in a group that forms a significant component of their identity, whether innate or chosen, and (2) that it targets them specifically and solely because of that identity characteristic, in a way that implicitly threatens and intimidates all members of that group. It's that implicit threat that makes it a hate crime, and as long as the group you're threatening has a single, unifying identity, I don't see how it becomes a "lesser" form of terrorism if the identity is a chosen one.

That was me. It took me so long to type that my login expired.

*There were less people that liked US soldiers than when I'd been in Mosul

+1

TV needs more of them.

Yeah, I just signed up for a fic challenge thing, and what am I thinking of writing for it? Vagrant Story and Suikoden. And then in two days I'm going to be at a con cosplaying Get Backers, which I first cosplayed in 2003 (just made my THIRD VERSION of Ban's shirt)... It's not that I'm not a gamer/fan anymore, just I'm still a gamer/fan for the same darned stuff over and over. XD

Actually hashing this out in the comments here makes me feel a little more validated. Much like the secret's OP, I was kind of wondering if I should still be calling myself a gamer... but even if I'm not playing the new ones, gaming is still a HUGE part of my life. Half the people I've friended on Facebook are people I met through video game cosplay. XD

If you're willing to talk about this further, I am intrigued. *chinhands*

From my reply to you below:

For me, the defining factors of a hate crime are (1) that it targets people based on membership in a group that forms a significant component of their identity, whether innate or chosen, and (2) that it targets them specifically and solely because of that identity characteristic, in a way that implicitly threatens and intimidates all members of that group.

There's a difference between a hobby and a subculture/lifestyle. The reason we punish hate crimes more harshly than the equivalent "normal" crime is that hate crimes terrorize an entire community in addition to the physical harm they inflict upon the victim. I think explicit anti-subculture violence fits that description.

Thank you. I was able to leave the situation some time ago but sadly, I know my former partner has continued his cycle with other individuals. (the last of which I can happily say recently escaped and has made a fabulous life for herself far, far away)

I thought your explanation was much more concise and pleasant than mine, and I'm glad to see I'm not the only one to think this way.

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