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How old do usually people move out in your country? Just weirds me out how people are so surprised that I'm still living with my parents when I'm 21..Like how the fuck am I supposed to afford that?

Here is pretty common to live with your parents until you finish college (we don't have dorms) and from medium/medium-high class is not all that uncommon for people not work either during that time.

People seem to think that when you hit 18, you're supposed to be on your own. It rarely happens, though, and even less often now that the economy went to shit.

Two cases in my country:
- you have enough money to live on your own and you leave
- you have to leave because your job/your college/etc is too far away.

pfffttt, I moved out of my parents' house on my 27th birthday. It's hard, particularly if you don't have roommate prospects.

It depends. If you're going to university in a different town, it's pretty common to move out at 18. If you're studying in your hometown, or working, or whatever, it's pretty common to stay at home until your mid-twenties.

I think the usual answer for how people afford that is "their parents help pay for it." In a lot of cases, at least. Either that, or living somewhere the rent is really cheap and having roommates (or both).

I'm hoping to move out sometime within the next year and I'm 23 right now.

That's the same situation with me; I'm 22 and just finished college, and I'm living with my parents until I start working full time and move to a different state. It makes sense; since I want to work in the film/tv industry, I'll pretty much have to move from where I'm living, so I'm trying to save as much money as I can until I do that. But people seem so surprised that I graduated about a month ago and that I'm still living with my parents.

Everything between 17-30. Those that move out younger are usually people who are moving together with someone or need to move to another city to study.

I moved out when I was 25. My family lived right next to the University, so there was no point to move out before that.

I get a lot of crap about living with my parents at my age, too (I'm 28)... I'm what is called a "boomerang kid", in that I moved away for college and then moved to Japan for several years, but when I came back I couldn't get a job that paid well enough to live on my own. Now I DO have a job that would pay for me to live on my own (though not in a nice place or anything), but my parents wouldn't be able to support themselves without my income. It's kind of a weird situation.

In the US we have a tendency to think that once a kid turns 18 they should be booted out, or at the latest 21/22, but I think the reality is very different. The way the job market is right now it's unrealistic to think that an 18-year-old would ever be able to live on their own, or even be able to afford to be a roommate with someone.

Here you're expected to move out at 18, and the farther away from that you are, the more shit you get over it. My brother moved out at 19 and got barely any, I was 21 and got a lot. People I know who are in their mid-late 20s and older and still live with their parents are seen as complete and utter pathetic losers (not saying *I* feel that way, but people I know do).

Idk I think the norm is changing here, I know more and more people in their mid-twenties who still live at home. It sucks, though. I wish it was different.

I'm 21 and I'm starting college this fall and I fully intend to remain living here (being home) until:

1) I can afford to move away and get my own apartment(which, considering I'm jobless atm, won't be for a long time)
2) I get so fed up by my batshit family and decide to room with someone.

#2 seems really likely at this point, though.

Used to be a lot different, but these days it's really common to live with your parents well into your 20s.

I moved out when I was 18 but now I'm back because I lost my job and couldn't afford to live on my own. :( I get a lot of flack for being an adult living with my parents but whatever. You do what you've got to to get by.

In my country it's not an issue. Sometimes very old, sometimes never, hell, I have a coworker who is 56 who is still living with her 86 year old mom.

same here. you get judged more on whether you are actually doing anything (studying, working, household chores, anything) or just mooching of your family

intergenerational families (or even cousins, aunts/uncles) are not as common as they used to be, but they don't really raise eyebrows

My sister is 24 and still living at home; honestly, my parents don't expect that she's likely to ever live on her own, but there are health/medical reasons for this. I moved out at 18, but I ended up disabled with a debilitating pain condition at 19, and I am honestly not sure what I would do if not for my partner, who, while also disabled, thankfully has a tech position that they can do from home.

I see a lot more people around my age (28) either only just getting out onto their own because of job hunting difficulties after college graduation, or people having to move back with their parents because of getting laid off and not being able to find another position. It sorta sucks right now for trying to get out on your own, since while there are always the people that say "go flip burgers", even those positions are hard fought for, and that doesn't really pay enough in most places to live on one's own.

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I lived at home until... 26 I think? 25 or 26 (I'm not sure what this says about my brain that I can't remember), because honestly, the area I work in is very 'rich', and it took me that long to find an apartment that I could afford.

On that point though, I was working full time, commuting with my mum (who worked in the same hospital as me - she retired in December) and paying for gas, and I was also paying them rent, so it wasn't like I was just sponging off their good nature.

So it really depends on HOW you're living at home, I guess. To me, if you're working/in school full time, and helping out or paying rent, but you just can't afford your own place just yet and are working towards it, there's absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about that.

However, if you're the perpetual student to avoid working, or you don't work or go to school (obviously serious health reasons aren't included in this) and are just sort of leeching around the house, yeah I might side-eye you.

There's nothing wrong with choosing to go focus on studies rather than working if your parents can both afford it and are willing to keep you. Nothing wrong AT ALL. I left home at 25 (I'm 26 now) for just this reason. I wanted to excel in school, and working would have been a distraction. I know some people can pull it off, but I certainly couldn't. So I lived at home and only worked during the summers. I saved up all the money I earned then and used it to pay for my school things (books, supplies, etc) for the rest of the year. If I really needed money I used to babysit my cousins for pay. Throughout my schooling (4 years earning BA, 2 years MA) I didn't pay for rent, transportation, or food. My parents also paid for my schooling. And you know what? They were happy to. And now I have a MA and am starting an awesome career. I don't regret a thing, and if the way my parents brag about my accomplishments to just about everyone they know is any indication, neither do they.

So seriously, side-eye yourself. You have no right to be judging anyone.

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It various wildly. I know people who moved out at 18, and people who are still living at home at 28. I'm 24, two years out of college, and still living with my parents with no end in sight. Even when I was working full-time I wasn't making enough to live on my own; I had to quit my job for health reasons and feel like I'm back where I started.

Unrelated, but from your comments I thought you were in your 30s! You seem way more mature than 24.

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I went to college at 18, but my parents paid for that year. When I was 19, I moved into an apartment and paid for it myself. However, it was really, really hard to work almost full time and go to school full time and my studies suffered. I really wish I hadn't had to work as much as I did. Oh well.

Mid twenties or even thirties. See, we don't have college dorms, or even college. Instead, we study our careers directly on University. We're sort of expected to live with our parents until we're finished, unless you're studying in a city different from yours.

Not many people go out at 18, and even though of course young 'uns want to, the decision to live alone is not as easy as it seems. I started living alone at 20 and due to medical complications, have to go back to my parent's :( I want a space of my own again, but I do know I'm not prepared for it yet.

Well I'm 27 and still living with my folks.

Fuck what people say, I'll 'grow up' and 'become a proper adult' when I want to.

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