[ SECRET POST #2466 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2466 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Late day at work, sorry.

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - omgiknowthem ], [ 1 - troll ].
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Comments

[chardmonster]

That's true. However: if the OP is hurt by these actions, they have every right to drop the hurtful fandom friend like a hot potato. Though it'd be nice if they said why so they can fix themselves.

[(Anonymous)]

Rofl no. Cassie Clare didn't tell them to quit writing. She didn't take away all their notebooks and pens and keyboard and then chop of their hands so they couldn't write. That was a decision they made themselves, and it's fucking stupid.

Re: spoielrs for newest new girl ep

[sootyowl]

I'm sorry :( I don't know how to do the blackout text on dreamwidth.

I think them both breaking up with him is the right course. He wasn't being fair to either of them by not telling them the truth.

I have a feeling Schmidt/Cece will get back together, but maybe not for a while (that's just my thought, not a spoiler).

[(Anonymous)]

Sure, not only being a plagiarist and use that to get published, but also scamming people, being a bully and using her fans to bullying others is not that much of a big deal so she doesn't deserves the hate, riiiiight?

[(Anonymous)]

Not only that, but why mention that you have money to pay for yourself, and then never offer to do so during the visit? Even if the friend is shy, a thank you is still feasible & would be nice.

[al28894]

Agree!

[(Anonymous)]

This.

If you have aspirations of being a classroom teacher, you're going to need references, and no one at this place is going to give you one if you leave with a week's notice. If you do apply to teach at some point, I'd recommend leaving this experience off the record entirely.

[(Anonymous)]

The lack of the thanks is the part that really makes me go =/. Like the people above, I do agree that it sounds like she was shy, but she should have thanked you.

I do have something to add with the money part, though-- maybe she felt uncomfortable bringing it up? I'm super shy, and I've also been raised to Never Talk About Money, so I find it incredibly difficult/awkward to bring up money in any context, even if it's just, "I can pay for myself".

If someone doesn't mention it, and just pays for me, I can't bring myself to say something, even if I feel incredibly bad about them spending that money on me. But I do always, always thank them when they do pay for me. That is the absolute least I could do. So, while I can understand, to some extent, her actions, the lack of thanks is really throwing me off.

Re: ns2

[forgottenjester]

But maybe it's a classy cult.

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's either the one or the other. Either they can't stop, or their "writing" is restricted to sitting in cafes and playing minesweeper. And maybe rewriting the same scene over and over again, like Joe Gould.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

does this character play a major part in the show? because i feel like that would make me a lot more likely to watch new girl (not that i don't like it, i just don't like it enough to spend time watching it)

[bored_bitch]

I can't speak for your friend, but it sounds like hardcore social anxiety.

I've been in that position before (still kind of am), and it sucks. Because people will assume you're rude or just weird, regardless.

Having come from that, yes, sometimes a simple "Thank you" is really hard to do. Social interaction terrifies the socially anxious, and even a simple "thank you" can be a major slip up that you don't dare to take at the risk of fucking something up. It feels like a confrontation. Because the wrong tone, the wrong anything, can drive people away.
Hell, even freaking out and then having to explain that you're really anxious can drive people away. It's not an easy thing to deal with when our society has an expectation for absolutely everyone to handle social situations with calm and grace, or else they're "rude" or a "creepy weirdo."
Been there. Done that. Not fun.

I would maybe ask your friend about it, over the internet. Mental conditions like that aren't really something you can just go "hurr hurr get over it." Otherwise, you become the dick.


That being said, it was pretty dickish of them not to offer to pay anything.

[badass_tiger]

I think some people can be very shy and will act aloof about it, but man, not even a 'thank you'? I think you should talk to your friend and explain what she did wrong. If she was talking about how great it was afterwards, mate she didn't realise how rude she was being?

[(Anonymous)]

DA

That's evidence that her fanfic is plagiarized. That is pretty well established. However, there has never been any evidence that her published works are plagiarized.

[(Anonymous)]

not op

why did i not think of this before thank you

Re: spoielrs for newest new girl ep

[inkdust]

Totally my fault, not yours. I would also predict them getting together again but not for a while, even without having seen it, haha. I guess that's just a track that relationships of this genre run along. A little reminiscent of Friends. We'll have to wait and see :)

Re: n!s 1

[forgottenjester]

Oh, I'm glad I wasn't the only one to read the secret in his voice.

[dragonimp]

I dunno, I'm painfully shy and don't usually have a problem getting out a "thank you" or two, and it doesn't stop me from looking like I'm enjoying myself when I am. I don't think simple shyness can explain being that disconnected and socially absent in person.

[logicbutton]

I could see all the stuff during the visit as the result of an awful, crippling social anxiety, up to and including the lack of thank-yous or offers to pay for anything. ("Is it too early to ask to split the check? What if it is? I'd look like such a fool, oh my god it would be so awkward, what is wrong with me that I can't do this simple thing... wait, she's reading it, do I do it now? But what do I say? She must think I'm such an idiot. Oh no, now what? Is it too late? Did I miss my window? What if she's mad that I'm not offering to pay? Should I say thank you for paying, or will that just make her madder because it'll sound like I assumed she would pay? Augh, better act like it's no big deal either way...") The weird part is the behavior afterward. If it were just social anxiety, they'd know exactly how badly the visit went, and either try to cut their losses by pretending it didn't happen or disappearing on you, or apologize to you with an explanation. What you're describing is just so weird.

I think you should say something. Tell them you've been a little upset since the visit, and why. You deserve an explanation, and they deserve the chance to explain themselves.

Re: Dragons fucking cars

[al28894]

WHAT.

How...

[(Anonymous)]

Take it. You don't like your current job and sooner or later it's going to show in the quality of your work or your mental health. Isn't the required notice time written down in your contract? It usually depends on how long you have been working.

Re: How are you currently spoiling yourself? (Nonfandom, food, drink.)

[nightscale]

Super tasty red velvet cupcakes, had one yesterday and eating the second today.

[(Anonymous)]

Not this level, no. Especially considering that most of that is in the past and her published work isn't plagiarized.

Rune Factory 4

[sootyowl]

I'm LOVING it so far. It made improvements from the last installments and the plot is so good this time around. I'm also really loving the dungeons and being able to take two villagers with you. The villagers are also awesome like usual and I love unlocking all the events <3

My fav people so far are Dylas, Doug, Illuminata, Jones and Nancy, Lin Fa, Dolly, Clorica... okay everyone. I love everyone.

Anyone playing it? Thoughts on bachelors/bachelorettes?

[(Anonymous)]

But Roman Polanski didn't severely offend fandom. Claire is 100x more horrible automatically because FANDOM DRAMAZ OH NOES.