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Is it weird to live with parents because you like having someone there when you get home from work? For someone who has no plans to get married or start a family of their own. I'm more than capable of living by myself and my parents are away enough so that I am doing just that a lot of the time.

Whenever discussions about this happen everybody focuses on economics or maturity and nobody brings up that some people like having company or family around.

If you are Forever Alone(tm) enough to actually want to live with your parents forever, then go right ahead. For most people (in European/North American cultures), getting out and living by themselves represents a step toward a fulfilling and independent life.

Oh fuck off.

Don't be a dick about it, dude.

Yes, I love a fulfilling life of living hand to mouth because of how expensive rent is. :D

Does it count as Forever Alone if you have no interest? Idk, while I could live alone, I don't enjoy being alone. I would rather stay with family than a roommate. You could say I have the option to start a family of my own but I have no interest in marriage and children and I don't think that's the means to a fulfilling life for me.

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6/10 for getting people to reply to this. Points deducted for use of 4chan memes.

I'm from Asia, but here, it's seen as a pretty noble thing to live with your parents, even when you're married. My uncle lives with his wife and children in my grandmother's house. True it's to take care of her now, but he's lived with her pretty much most of his life and they're pretty happy.

Just throwing it out there.

You Americans/usians are so weird... I live with my 70 year old parent And we share both the chores and rent. It's pretty common here to live with your family or close even if you have a family of your own

I think that's fine, and makes sense, if you have a good relationship with your parents. and really historically is closer to the norm.

Eh, historically that really depends. If you look at Europe for instance it was the norm in the south, but not as much in the north. Can't say for people elsewhere.

People should stop acting like there's a proper arrangement that everyone should work towards. If you and your parents are all happy with you living with them then that's great. Do what makes you happy.

This. As long as everyone is satisfied I don't see the problem.

I don't think its weird if you have a good relationship with your parents! I don't buy into the weird American (western?) concept that living with relative automatically makes you a ~loser~ or whatever.

Yes, we're in the US but immigrants not from a western culture. My parents are getting older and I plan to stick around and help them later on - they are already having trouble reading small text or lifting heavier things for example.

That's not weird at all! I wouldn't mind living with my parents forever either, but we live in different countries right now. Still, if they ever moved where I'm currently working, I'd definitely ask to move in, or at least, live very close by.

I know western cultures do see it as a maturity and independence thing, but if you're helping to pay the bills and take care of the house, I don't see how that makes you any less independent than getting married and having kids of your own.

I don't pay the bills - my father does most of the family budgeting - but I do a lot of the physical chores like cooking, cleaning, groceries - I do pay for our food - laundry and other things that they're getting older and having trouble with. I own my own car and work full time as well. Nothing is stopping me from living alone, besides that I don't like being alone and I like my family.

The reason I feel weird about it because "I like my family" is almost never given as a reason to live with them.

I want to say a +1 for helping out with bills and taking care of the house part. For me living with parents as an adult (mid-20s-ish?? Done with school, makes some money) and not contributing at all, whether that is financially or just doing chores, that's when living at home still gets a bit weird for me, because for me doing those things is part of being independent. It also makes me question a bit what people are going to do when their parents aren't there anymore if they aren't used to help out at all, but it's not my place to judge anyhow.

But really anon, as long as both you and your parents are cool with your arrangement that's great.

Are your parents okay with you living at home? Do you contribute, financially or in chores around the house (or better, both)? Then awesome. I don't like living alone either so I know what you mean.

Good point. I don't have a significant other, don't plan to have children, and would be perfectly happy being single forever, but that doesn't mean I want to live alone. I enjoy the company of my parents and siblings and they enjoy my company, so why should I leave them solely for the sake of a cultural value that wasn't even part of my culture until recently?

Moving out doesn't mean that you have to stop seeing your family though? I see my parents and brother pretty much every weekend even after we all moved out.

A dog will also be there when you come home from work. Or a cat.

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I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but I think there is a lot of life experience you don't get living with your parents. And the maturity angle comes from the fact that most people can't learn to be an individual and fully mature into their own person until they break away from their parents and get some physical, emotional, and financial space from them.

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Kind of weird, but if your parents are okay with it I don't see why not. Your views may change in a few years or not.

Housemates are always an option, there are people out their who think similarily. Don't want romance or kids, just a companion. You would have to suffer the initial moving in bumps and thumps of new housemates though, like everyone else, until a routine is developed.

I'm in a similar position, OP. I'm asexual/aromantic, I live with my father, and for the most part I would like to continue living with my father for as long as possible (i.e. Until one of us dies). My father is my favorite person. He just is. I have solid friendships with my peers, but he and I have been best friends my whole life. We share rent, we share housework, and we cook for ourselves (though we do sometimes share meals). I go out when I want and come home when I want and do whatever I want around the house. The only thing I wish I could do that I can't do is wander around in my underwear. I don't feel that my independence is hindered by living with one of my parents.

I sometimes think about getting my own place, but I would basically be paying a lot more money in order to not live with my favorite person in the world. So like, why would I do that?

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