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⌈ Secret Post #3699 ⌋

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I actually get that. But you know that only works for a time, at some point you will hit the part where you feel desperately lonely and like you're missing something and that you want SOMTHING more. Of Course that passes, just like all misery, but while that's happening there's very little around you to keep you from killing yourself.

Of course the people who are in relationships equally hit those parts where they just want the love of their life to FUCKING STOP doing something. Of course that's equally miserable, but I can see how that could be more manageable a thing.

I suppose what I'm saying is that there's loads of happiness that can be brought to you through having a strong inner fantasy, but you should make sure it's not the only thing you live for.

Yes, all girls need to get married married married! Even if you say you don't wanna, it's just a phase, before you get married married married!

Wow, how far did you reach for that one? As far as I know, Wako is a guy, and guess what, guys get lonely and want relationships too...

A boy or a girl, you need to get married married married! There's no happiness without getting married married married!

You seriously have something wrong with you.

I don't think I ever said marriage? I mean, I was talking about relationships, so...

You're just marriage crazy, ain't you?

Same thing. Marriage is jsut a relationship made official.

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I wasn't even talking about marriage. This one came outta fuckin' nowhere. I mean it's not like they'd have to wait too long before I said something legitimately objectionable, they really didn't need to put this much work into it.

And yes, you are correct, I am a guy.

Trust me, sweetheart, I know what all girls need and it ain't marriage.

;)

I assume you're being 100% facetious but even as a joke this kind of line annoys me so much.

Also, going back to the very beginning, not everyone even wants a relationship in the first place.

Yup, 100% kidding. AIRT really wants to be mad at me, so I thought I'd throw her a bone. haha. Throw her a bone. Get it? It's sexual. and you are more than welcome to be annoyed by it. Me knowing it annoys you, I'll be honest, means nothing to me, but you're welcome to your feelings and to express them to me irregardless.

And yes, You're right, not everyone wants to be in a relationship. Like OP. and whatever you do want, whatever choice you have to make, you will hit a point where the disadvantages of that choice will weigh heavier on you, be it "I'm in a relationship and right now she's driving me up the fucking wall" or "I'm not in a relationship and right now I feel so lonely". I'm suggesting that OP be aware that there's no avoiding those dark spot and if you're alone you're at a greater risk than someone in a relationship.

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You have a way of talking that makes you seem like a bit of an asshole. And maybe you actually are, I have no idea. But I also think that you are, essentially, right about this. And while I understand why a couple of people in this thread responded defensively to your initial comment, Personally, I don't think "Let me mansplain to you why you will eventually need a man" was actually what you were saying.

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TW Discussions of rape.

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Re: TW Discussions of rape.

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jesus christ radfem, nobody was buying what you were selling when you were thelesbianfuturist and nobody's buying it now

I don't know what you think I'm selling, but I guarantee you it aint what you think it is.

Spoiler warning: It's child slaves.

You know, of all the people who've come and gone here, why is it I'm Radfem or the lesbian futurist? Why can't I be someone cool like Noodly?

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So if you're not in a relationship you'll eventually want to kill yourself? Good to know.

I don't even usually like wako and I still think he's mostly right: whether or not you're in a relationship, at some point being single and being in a relationship suck, and when you're single sometimes you think "dammit I'm so lonely I could die" and when you're with someone sometimes you're like "if we have to have this argument one more time I'm gonna lay down in front of a bus." It's a grass is greener on the other side problem.

how long do you theoretically have to be in a relationship to get to that point?

I mean really that's just...super stupid to me. Especially because if being in a relationship makes you so miserable, you can leave.

But they can't leave, because they will feel suicidal if they do.

And this, boys and girls, is why so many people remain in abusive relationships.

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NAYRT

I'm ace, so I don't really know, but of all the people in my life who are in committed relationships, maybe like one quarter are actually content with their relationship. And probably half are actively unhappy. Are they more unhappy and more discontent that they would be alone? I honestly have no idea.

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Um, no, not everyone exepriences these feelings.

And if you're in a relationship you'll eventually want to kill yourself as well. Or maybe you won't, maybe your feeling never reach that extreme, but whatever point is the lowest point you can possibly reach, you will hit regardless of whether you live on a strong fantasy life, or a strong relationship. A good mix of the two is the best way to cope when that happens.

The sad thing is,I believe that you're not trying not to sound like an asshole, but you aren't succeeding. It's very frustrating and cringey to witness.

Too many double negatives in that to parse, sorry. But I am not trying to sound like an asshole, but I'm not trying not to sound like an asshole either.

All assholery is accidental is what I mean. I mean, it's so easy to be seen as, called, or dismissed as an asshole, the time you spent trying to make sure no-one can call you an asshole could be better spent by doing just about anything else.

My advice is that you learn to love cringe.

the time you spent trying to make sure no-one can call you an asshole could be better spent by doing just about anything else

And this right here is why you're an asshole. You basically just said "I can't be bothered to be polite".

Why is there value in using your time to contribute to a conversation but not using just a wee bit more time making your statements not assholish?

You misunderstand. Let me highlight what I feel is the key point you're ignoring:

the time you spent trying to make sure no-one can call you an asshole could be better spent by doing just about anything else

That's not a wee bit more time. On the internet, that is an impossible challenge, because no matter what you're saying, no matter how clear or polite you are someone will call you an asshole for not doing what they think you should have done, Either because they misunderstand, or they want to misunderstand, or the way the view things is bent to misunderstand in the worse possible way. I find it better for myself to be as polite as I would like others to be to me, and if that's not good enough then fair enough.