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⌈ Secret Post #3703 ⌋

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Comments

[kaijinscendre]

The kind of person who will break up with someone because they won't watch their tv show is the kind of person who is super pushy about their interests and won't shut up about it.

[(Anonymous)]

The kind of person who blanket refuses to even try new things could be pretentious or big headed as well.

We don't know the background either way obviously, but I dont think it's impossible that OP's bf is being unreasonable about it.

[kaijinscendre]

He watched the movies. He isn't obligated to watch the show. Chances are he knows enough about it (considering he is alive) to know he won't like it.

[(Anonymous)]

He's not obligated to do anything but I also don't think it's unreasonable to expect people to show at least some iota of flexibility and willingness to at least entertain things their partner is into

At least enough to watch a single fucking episode, and then say "nope I was right I don't like it". At least then you've given it a chance, fair enough, no harm done

[(Anonymous)]

Yep, this. If a person doesn't have even this small amount of flexibility, they're probably a poor partner in other ways, too.

[kaijinscendre]

So OP should be flexible and willing to understand her BF doesn't want to watch a TV show?

[(Anonymous)]

To me, the person refusing to watch a single episode is being way less flexible and reasonable.

That's just how I feel about it.

[kaijinscendre]

Ah. To me, the person who (based on the secret) only wants to break up with someone because they won't watch a TV show is unreasonable.

[thewakokid]

Just so I'm being clear here: I will never watch an episode of Project runway willingly, no matter how into it my girlfriend is. It's not just an hour of my life, it's a LOOOOOOONG hour of my life of boredom and... Just blergh.

I'm being inflexible, sure, but I don't think unreasonable.

[(Anonymous)]

The key here is that OP's bf refuses to try even ONE episode. That's less than a hour of your time, and it's not asking very much.

[(Anonymous)]

From the way OP sounds (considering throwing away what could [without further info] be a good relationship because their SO has no interest in watching a show they like) maybe OP's boyfriend is worried about watching an episode of a show he might not like, and then creating an argument with OP when he says, "Okay I've watched it, I don't like it."

[(Anonymous)]

OP didn't say one way or the other so you're assuming that it might be an otherwise good relationship. Personally, if OP's contemplating breaking up over a TV show (no matter how important or beloved) then I'm gonna go with "Maybe it ain't that good".

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, which is why I did say 'what COULD be (without further info) a good relationship'.

We're going off almost no extraneous info so it could be this is a 'last straw' or excuse to break up, or it could be that OP is an inflexible controlling douchenozzle. Who knows, right?

[(Anonymous)]

LOL, right. But apparently there are a few people in this thread who know for sure that OP is being dumb for even thinking about breaking up.

[(Anonymous)]

If OP didn't want us to this not watching Star Trek was the only reason they want to break up, OP should have said so.

[thewakokid]

Well, I mean, if she's considering throwing it away over something so trivial, that would point to it not being so very good a relationship. For her at least. I mean, if that's the thing that's going to do it, how would the relationship have stood against the real shit?

I do think it's a mistake, and sounds fairly impulsive and a little trivial, but if it's enough for her to decide to end the relationship, well there it is.

[kaijinscendre]

And it isn't asking much for OP not to get to mad about a stupid TV show.

[(Anonymous)]

Why should someone waste their time on something they know they aren't going to like? Personally, I hate romance movies. I have never encountered one that I liked, so if you asked me to watch a romance movie, I would say no because I already know that I don't like that sort of thing.

I think OP is being kind of a shitty girlfriend for insisting that her boyfriend watch something that he has no interest in. Being a couple doesn't turn you into the Borg; it's perfectly normal and healthy for one person to like things that the other one isn't really into. And? You're never going to find someone who likes EVERYTHING that you do. If most of your interests overlap, then I'd say that's a pretty good relationship right there.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, because successful relationships aren't built on compromise and maybe sometimes doing something you're less than enthusiastic about because your partner IS, or anything.

[(Anonymous)]

THIS.

I can't believe how many people in this thread don't get this, or just don't agree with it. Like, this isn't some kind of power play where OP is just trying to make her(?) BF watch something he doesn't like just to prove she can. This is about OP wanting her BF to spend 42 minutes of his time sharing something she cares about with her. The fact that he's unwilling to do that is understandable bothering her.

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, but she knows he likes the movies, so why not just watch the movies together? And maybe there are other things they both like together?

I mean, honestly, I'd either feel bad (or feel annoyed) if I asked someone to watch something with me and they very clearly didn't want to and/or didn't enjoy it.

I don't think people are saying there shouldn't be compromise or effort, but is this really a die worthy hill?

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe this isn't the first time OP has done this. And BF had watched stuff before and not liked it. Maybe OP is constantly pushing fan stuff on her BF and he has finally stopped letting her push him around.

[soldatsasha]

ia that relationships are all about compromise. But, you have no idea if that this isn't "some kind of power play." And you have no idea that this guy hasn't compromised or tried a dozen different things specifically because OP asked him to, and has decided to finally stand up for himself or something. There are two sides to every story, after all.

Personally ime this sounds exactly like some kind of bullshit power play. He won't watch Star Trek so I'm thinking of breaking up with him? That's nuts.

[(Anonymous)]

I dont get how you don't get that wanting to break up over a fucking TV show is in no way shape or form rational. The one set in their ways and unable to take no for an answer or compromise is OP.

[(Anonymous)]

My OH knows there is no point asking me to go running with him because I just don't want to. He is making room for me, why is that wrong? Why is it me that's the one who HAS to try it? Married 32 years jsyk.