[ SECRET POST #5798 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5798 ⌋

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[Jeeves and Wooster]


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[Devil May Cry V]


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[Vanderpump Rules]


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Comments

TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Soooo I see all these ads on TV for things to solve vaginal dryness, and as a woman in my 30s, I just have to ask--if you're not having penetrative sex, is vaginal dryness a problem? Because I'm sitting here thinking "so maybe no more discharge ever? that would be gREAT." Am I missing something? Vaginal dryness sounds like a feature, not a bug to me.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

I have had this issue even though I haven't gone through menopause yet (though I did have a hysterectomy). But I have endometriosis and vaginismus, and I'm often in pain down there. More dry means more pain.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, it's pretty awful even if you're not sexually active and can get in the way of even being aroused on your own. Which is really really disappointing when even that hurts.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[cakemage]

^ This.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[rosehiptea]

I'm post-menopausal (at least I guess it's over?) and haven't been having sex and I haven't noticed any issues. If I did decide to have pentrative sex I'd probably just use something at that point. But it could be that I'm not having the vaginal dryness issue as much, too. I haven't noticed much discharge but I never had a lot.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

In my 30s; not sexually active and occasionally dry but still discharge every now and then. I think it's another thing the beauty industry is trying to sell us on along with everything else they try to.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Late 30s and probably perimenopausal here-- definitely experiencing dryness and it's definitely uncomfortable. It feels like... hot and sticky/itchy in a really unpleasant way, like your thighs getting stuck to a chair in summer and standing up, that aggravating peeling feeling. I use a cortisone cream that helps a lot, though.

The less discharge thing is definitely nice, that said!

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

So a lot of TV ads are aimed at Boomers because that's the demographic watching most TV, and yes, for post-menopausal people it can be a problem. It can also be painful in itself because those tissues are meant to be moist, and can increase the risk of fungal and bacterial infections.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Boomers are far, far post menopause by now.

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Cisgender women have vaginas.

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Who cares?

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[rosehiptea]

So?

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Very good! Now whats 5 x 9?

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Yes...? Are you saying cisgender women aren't people?

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Quiet under the bridge tonight?

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

*slow clap*

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

As do some trans men, and a lot of non-binary people... do you want a cookie for stating the obvious?

(frozen comment) Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

nice bait, sure would be a shame if it was scientifically wrong

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[tabaqui]

It's definitely a YMMV issue. I'm 55, had a hysterectomy about...25 years ago? and very like post-menopause (hard to tell when you don't know when your periods would have stopped), and I guess - I've never been like...super 'wet' (it was a bit of an issue when I had penetrative sex all my life), so I don't notice anything. Certainly no discomfort. But again - YMMV and it could be a real, bad issue for some.

(Never had an issue with discharge, either, so....*shrugs*)

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[philstar22]

Did you have both ovaries removed as well? If you have even just one ovary left, you can still cycle, though you won't bleed.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

Erm... honestly I don't even know how vaginas work since I have BAD pains (it's related to a medical issue I got surgery for so I know there's nothing wrong it's just the way it is.) but the pain keeps me from using menstrual cups for instance. So I assume anything that causes vaginal pain could be bad for many reasons and not just painful sex. This is obviously not the reason why post-menopausal women might not want a dry vagina but yeah.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

The drop of estrogen during menopause causes the skin down under to be less lubricated. (And all the other unpleasant menopausal effects)
It can cause mild to severe discomfort. Especially hard on those sexually active, since it can cause pain. Peri and postmenopausal folks are advised to be very generous with lube bc tears and cracks also heal less quickly aka higher risk of infection.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

From a menopausal cis woman: vaginal dryness isn't just about penetrative sex, it's about the natural moisture that the vulva usually has on a daily basis. When that starts to go away, you notice! It's uncomfortable. There's more chafing than there used to be. It's not just the vagina, it's the whole vulva, so even clitoral masturbation feels more rough than it used to.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

SA

That said, though, I wouldn't trade it back if it meant I had to have periods again. I don't miss that AT ALL.

Re: TMI. People with vaginas! Menopause question!

[(Anonymous)]

PSA: if you have a vagina and you are a frequent recipient in penetrative sex: THERE IS NO SHAME IN USING LUBE IF YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE, NO MATTER YOUR AGE.

I just had to throw that in there because occasionally some people feel ashamed if their not-yet-menopausal vag doesn't slick up on command. Lube is not only for anal.