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So, alpha/beta/Omega fics are often shorted to a/b/o. And for years now, ABO. Some popular tiktok person recently made a video about how "using ABO is using a slur." Because an outdated slur for aboriginal people in Australia is "abo". I was talking to someone about how "ABO is popular on ao3 but didn't originate from ao3" and someone buts in "you are using a slur! Acronyms have to use a . or /"

I can't take people like that seriously. ABO is used by tons of organizations with any punctuation. It is used as shorthand for blood typing.

Do they not understand how context work? Charlie, spook, and coon are slurs if used a certain way. So are apple and banana. Should they just not use those words too?

Yeah, that annoys the shit out of me. I'm not going to pay attention to the language usage of a society I don't live in because an acronym in a context that has nothing to do with them just happens to match a word that means something specific to just them. "In my neighborhood 'oof' is a slur so you shouldn't use it when someone in your neighborhood falls over!" Fuck off.

Omg. I should start making up local slurs for whatever their username is. Lol.

omg i have seen this before

"that word is a slur in X country!"

ok well i'm not from x country how the fuck was i supposed to know that? don't act like i just came in and shat on the fucking rug

My personal opinion is that if you have to explain to the ordinary person that something is a slur, it's not really a slur anymore for the context reason: because no one knows it.

Don’t invite the devil in. There are absolutely people who argue you shouldn’t use those other words either.

But you’re absolutely right that it’s silly and arguably counterproductive. We’ve all got to accept that words and abbreviations are used in lots of contexts with different meanings.

For example, I’m sick of the number of people who think that “CP” can’t be used in any other context. That attitude seems so very childish to me.

"Chink" is also a slur, but it's also a perfectly cromulent word. People are often too dumb (or too eager to score Most Enlightened Person in the Room points) to take in context, but they should.

ugh the number of times I've used it correctly (e.g. chink in the armor) and then second-guessed myself for days is too damn high.

Oh man, this is a word I do my best not to use. Not because it can't be used correctly, but because any and every mention of it viscerally reminds me of a sports reporter specifically using the title "A Chink in the Armour" to refer to how the top, very Chinese player, performed poorly and cost them the game. They deleted it, but it just stuck to me. I've never been able to hear that word without thinking of that article and how very badly they fucked up.

Australian here, and while yes ABO can be misinterpreted to be that slur, it was pronounced like "Abbo". Classic putting two letters in a name (ie Shazza, Bazza, Maccas, etc)

I mean, yeah, I'm Australian and I'm older so seeing it in print does make me jump (it absolutely still is used IRL, but not in print anymore, so I would be hesitant to call it "outdated"). I would rather not see it written out without the slashes, or see it as "omegaverse". But also I'm not into that trope so I'm not going to show up and bother people when they call it that.

Do people write it in all caps when used as a slur? Also, do you tend to read acronyms as words? Like if I saw ABO I read it as individual letters (ay bee oh). I'm just curious.

Personally, I find it a little worrying that people are using the not my country not my problem excuse rather than the obvious different contexts mean different things answer. It reminds me of an author who translated their work into english and used the word Gypsy to describe a character, (a nameless wild traveling fortune teller) and when told it was considered a slur and offered reasonable other options they just doubled down and said that everyone in their country uses that word to describe people like that and it isn't a slur and they know that because they're european, or something.

I've heard that A/B/O is a slur as well before, but it's not even word, and very clearly not even a personal descriptor even when used. It doesn't take away from the feelings of people who are hurt when hearing that word, but it has absolutely nothing to do with the slur either, and rather obviously at that. Telling people to not use an acronym at all because it sorta resembles something that might be offensive to a group of people is dumb though. Context and comprehension is what matters.

It's from the Vietnam war - Viet Cong getting shortened to VC, which becomes Victor Charlie in the NATO alphabet, which then becomes Charlie.

It is petty, people get to like what they like. But I'm annoyed at how frequently these days the tag for Angbang (Melkor/Sauron) gets clogged up with Sauron/Galadriel and then with Sauron and Melkor having babies. I've blocked those tags, but it ends up some days with entire pages of Angbang being blocked for me on tumblr. And it is just annoying. But people do get to like what they want.

So tired of the struggle. I struggle so hard to just keep up, there is absolutely no chance of me getting ahead. A few years ago, I had over 3,000 in my savings, which isn't a lot, but it's something. Now, I have under $300. My checking account has around $400. And that money is already spoken for. It feels so hopeless. EVERYTHING is so expensive/needs money. Everything. I know people complain about groceries but for me it's just the expenses that pop up here there and everywhere, nonstop, that get to me. Any time I think I might be able to drop a couple hundred dollars in savings for once, nope, wrong, something comes up. I'm just so tired of it. And also physically tired. So worn down.

AND I'm terrified of losing my job, because if that happens, I have no idea what I'll do. And there have been some ominous signs at my work lately.

I feel this. I have 200 in my savings and owe 2000 on my credit card. A combination of being underpaid at my former job and having bad money habits. I'm working on it, but I also still let the bad habits get the best of me and buy things now rather than saving when I should.

I'm sorry, OP. I really hope things work out for you.

Edited 2026-02-08 21:31 (UTC)

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That was us in the '08 crash. We had just bought our place and my now-wife lost her job, so we were surviving on just my income, and I still am massively underpaid. We racked up over 20k in debt staying afloat and housed until she gave up looking for a job and started her own business. Massive suckage.

Ok, so. My work schedule has varied hours each week. My boss sets the schedule at least a week in advance, and overall I'm happy with my job. Is it perfect? No, of course not, but I don't have any major complaints.

The only time I really get frustrated with the schedule is when, on a rare occasion, my boss gets sick or has some kind of problem or weird situation going on. When that happens, she will sometimes ask, "Can you work X day instead of Y, I might need you to" and then isn't very communicative about it. Sometimes she won't let me know until 9 PM the night before whether I will work the next day.

This is definitely annoying, BUT, overall like I said the job is good enough that I'm not going to complain about it. And she doesn't do it very often. I can understand that maybe you're sick and you're not sure how well you will recover, but it is a little annoying to spend the whole evening waiting for a text to see if I'm going to work the next day or not.

If it were a frequent thing, that would be a different matter, but if this happens a couple times a year, it's just an annoying thing that I can deal with, not a big deal.

But one of my friends heard about this, and for whatever reason, she thinks it is the worst.thing.ever. SHE actually complains about it more than I do. She constantly tells me that I shouldn't put up with this, I should go to the boss's boss, I should complain, I should find a new job, etc. Like SHE will bring this up herself and then go on a rant about what I should do, even when I haven't mentioned it. Any time I'm like, well, it's not that big of a deal and I just do it because XYZ, she tries to argue with me about it.

So recently things at her job have changed, and she has gotten more responsibilities. And, on top of that, she is having to work overnight shifts sometimes to train and help out.

That, to me, is DRAMATICALLY more disruptive than having to work an unexpected normal shift. Having to work overnight? Sometimes work during the day and then have an overnight shift scheduled for 8 hours later??

So, SHE should complain, right, and tell them she won't do it and things need to change?

Ohhhh, but it's DIFFERENT in HER situation! SHE is the ONLY ONE who can do this, and SHE has to and SHE can't tell them no and on and on.

And it's taking everything in me to not point out that, hey, you're in a similar situation to the one that I am in when my boss changes my schedule abruptly! And, lookie there.......YOU AREN'T TALKING TO YOUR BOSS ABOUT IT AND REFUSING TO DO IT, EITHER.

I don't want to be that petty, but I'm just shaking my head. It's easy to tell SOMEONE ELSE what they should do, but then when you find yourself in a similar situation, it's suddenly not that simple, huh? I wouldn't even think about this so much if she didn't get so ADAMANT with me about how I NEEEEED to put my foot down when I didn't even care that much!

Your friend sounds like a real pain in the ass. I guess it's easier to point fingers and say other people aren't doing enough to stand up for themselves than it is to, well, stand up for herself. I don't enjoy hanging out with hypocrites and try to limit any time spent in the company of people who won't shut up about their tiresome hypocrisy.

Ooo I enjoyed reading this ☕️

It is very interesting indeed when Miss "Listen To My Advice" finds herself defending why she isn't doing what she keeps advising others to do.
Also, the types who are more invested in a minor issue of mine are annoying. Especially if I say something along the lines of, "Sucks but oh well. I’m managing." They keep harping on about how unfair it is, and it really isn't that big of a deal...

You've got context for your situation and she's got context for hers, but only one of you can think that through!

Okay I was ranting about gaming group especially this one guy.
I was trying not to be combative like it ever works with me. But one person in a group is decluttering her mother's flat because her aging mother now lives with them.
So she gives things to charity or ask if anyone needs (things) etc.
This guy asked why she doesn't want to just chunk it all to the dump. BITCH YOU SHOULD FUCKING BE IN THE DUMP.

Also don't start me with comments about this person's mother who has Alzheimers. Just ick ick ick.

Yeah, that guy needs to learn to not be an insensitive ass. Parental belongings may hold sentimental value, and I would think the parent or children/heirs would feel better if those belongings found a new home instead of just being tossed in a dump somewhere (though it may depend on type of object, or whether it is a hoarder situation or not, etc).

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