[ SECRET POST #1941 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1941 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Carnivale]


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[Cabin Pressure]


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05.
[Fallout New Vegas]


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06.
[My Neighbor Totoro]


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07.
[Kuroshitsuji]


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08.
[The Devin Townsend Project]


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19.
[Glee]


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20.
[Super Meat Boy and The Binding of Isaac]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 022 secrets from Secret Submission Post #277.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

16. http://i43.tinypic.com/2ms0sww.png

[(Anonymous)]

I feel you, OP. I've got a 1500 word essay due in 4 hours and here I am.

[(Anonymous)]

I could swear I didn't put a secret into this submission post, and yet here this is. I must have written it. For it is me.

In short:

Yes.

[(Anonymous)]

I know that feel.

just what the fuck am i doing with my life?
Im pretty sure the day my mom gave birth to me she didn't think: 20 years from now I hope my daughter will be obsessed with fandoms!

[anonlulz.livejournal.com]

I thought I had it bad, reading fanfics just before a final, but wow!

[(Anonymous)]

That isn't fandom's fault. Fandom didn't make you neglect school and friends. You did that yourself, and it would've happened sooner or later with some other interest if you hadn't discovered fandom. Take some responsibility for yourself and stop projecting all your personality flaws onto a hobby.

[tane-the-insane.livejournal.com]

How do you lose your RL friends because of fandom?

[(Anonymous)]

No, you wrecked your grades and lost your friends. Fandom can't just do things like that to you without you having some part in it.

[(Anonymous)]

Fucking this. I love fandom, but sometimes I wish I never discovered it. I can't even list all the ways I let fandom ruin my life.

[(Anonymous)]

You ruined yourself, don't make stupid ass excuses. Learn how to balance real life and fandom.

[cysfics.livejournal.com]

Fandom has brought me my romantic partners and many of my good friends. It has also made my mental illness a lot worse. Still not sure if it was a fair trade.

[(Anonymous)]

I understand where you're coming from, but it's not really fair to blame fandom for your choices. It's just like any hobby, albeit with an almost endless amount of things to do, but you still make choices with how to spend your time and how you treat your friends.

Not trying to be all judgy, anon, because I feel you, I really do. But it might be time for a perspective change and/or a reality check. You control your life and choices; your hobbies don't control them for you.

Good luck. :)

(P.S. I've struggled with grades and used fandom as a crutch, but it's not the direct reason. I'd find something or other to waste my time on. Fandom has actually helped me make and maintain friendships irl, so that probably depends on who you talk to and how you handle it.)

[faeiri.livejournal.com]

Should I start taking bets on how many of the above string of anons are the same person? :|

I can definitely understand this, since my first real foray into fandom with full access to the Internet was swiftly followed by the most useless year of my life so far. I got obsessed and it made me miserable. I'm going to say it's not the fandom's fault--it was probably caused by the way you reacted to it. Fandom isn't sentient, and that means it can't control you. But that also means you have somewhere else to go. I don't think you're "chickenshit", anon. Sometimes inanimate things can push you toward the wrong roads, and you just have to learn what to personally avoid.

[dethtoll.livejournal.com]

booooo hoo hoo hooo hoooooo

Nice job shifting blame for your own fuckups.

[(Anonymous)]

Considering the problems you list (minus the kinks) appear to be time management things, I think you're the weak link here. A lot of people manage RL and fandom just fine; don't blame us for your own issues.

[intrigueing.livejournal.com]

Fandom didn't ruin your life, you did. The fact that you used fandom to do it doesn't make it fandom's fault. If you had never discovered fandom, you'd have found some other way to ruin your life, mark my words. Maybe you'd have gotten into something a lot less harmless, so be thankful. If your priorities and issues were all sorted out and you had a firm grasp of your life and on what was important, a silly little thing like fandom would never have been able to take over your life and ruin it. You seriously think that if your priorities were in order, you'd be reading fanfiction instead of keeping your grades up? There's a reason fandom is so much more important to you than your education and friendships, and that reason has something to do with you. Fandom is not crystal meth. It's not something that has the power to really ruin someone's life unless their life is already very fragile due to other problems. Your fandom obsession is a symptom, not a cause, of your unhappiness.

My advice: figure out what issues you have that you're using fandom to avoid dealing with, then deal with them. Fandom will revert to a more appropriate place in your life if you do. And if your life really sucks for reasons that are out of your control? There's nothing wrong with burying yourself in fandom as a coping mechanism as long as it doesn't stop you from pursuing opportunities to actually improve your life.

(However, I kind of agree with you on the kinks thing...although looking back I can see the unsophisticated, innocent seeds of my pre-fandom kinks present in my childhood preferences. So I guess they would have bloomed at some point even if I had never discovered fandom).

[amethyst-wolf.livejournal.com]

Bro, you have my feels, but - and I'm trying to put this as delicately as I can - you're kind of making excuses for yourself.

Don't get me wrong - I've been in that situation; for a few years, in fact. I put everything that was much more important on hold to toss myself into whatever fandom I was currently in. I had depression and had a shitty life IRL, and fandom/message boards/whatever was the only thing that was making me happy.

The thing you have to realize is that fandom isn't the answer to everything. You can certainly make friends and discover some great fanworks, but fandom isn't your life - and it shouldn't be, ever. And I think that the sooner you come to the realization that fandom can actually contribute to further isolation and depression, the better off you'll be.

Try slowly moving away from it. See how much time you're really spending in fandom, and try to do things here and there to pull yourself away from it. Maybe take a hiatus if you can. Just do something to correct the situation before it really hurts your life.

Don't put your life on hold for fandom. It's not a fun road to go down.

[kallanda-lee.livejournal.com]

I'm pretty sure you had those kinks to begin with, but fic just opened your eyes.

As for wrecking your grades - that's about self-discipline. If it wasn't fandom, it might as well have been any other thing you use to procrastinate. And I say this as someone who excels at procrastinating. Inn fact, I'm pulling an all-nighter to finish some work stuff. No sleep for the wicked.

[(Anonymous)]

It's easy to blame fandom; it's harder to take responsibility for your own actions.

[(Anonymous)]

That's funny - I credit the excellent education in close reading, queer theory, and postmodern concepts I received as a teenager in fandom with getting me into my PhD program. I guess it all depends, huh?

[(Anonymous)]

"My own complete lack of self-control has ruined my life."

fixed that for you

[hunter-san.livejournal.com]

Well, not to be harsh but that's kind of your own fault. Can you limit yourself in the amount of fandom? Like set aside so you spend 1 hour a night diving into fandom, 2 hours for homework or whatever and set up a schedule until you can manage your time appropriately so it doesn't impact your life? Kind of a skill you need to learn anyway. Otherwise anything can take over your life.

[(Anonymous)]

Am I the only person who completely lol'd at this secret?

I literally started cracking up. Tears formed in my eyes. XDDDD

KINKS I WISHED I NEVER HAD. AHAHAHAHA

[(Anonymous)]

do you guys actually read other comments in the thread? cause i'm pretty sure saying the exact same thing as the anon above you is pointless.

[nomorefrostbite.livejournal.com]

Well done, OP, for realising that you as a human being have absolutely no responsibility over your own fucked up life, and that you exist at the whim of the non-sentient entity known as 'fandom'.

Fandom commands you to go and shove your hand into a fire. You are compelled to do it. Go. Go now.