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⌈ Secret Post #2591 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I don't want to be a dick, but, why would you take a baby to a movie theater?

You know you might ruin the movie for some others (including yourself). Why not get a babysitter for just a few hours or have the grandparents spend time with the baby while you go see the film.

[(Anonymous)]

Not who you're replying to, but I don't know of any babysitters suitable for a young baby (no, really, even qualified), and the grandparents are out of state. Believe me, and I've only gone to the movies if I'm desperate to see something and there's no other option, if the baby cries, I am out of the theatre at lightning speed.

[(Anonymous)]

If your desperation to see a frickin movie overrides your good sense as a parent I see you as at best, needing guidance and at worst, a self-centered asshole.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh dream on you dickhead.

[chardmonster]

Hi, teenager

[(Anonymous)]

Unless she's formula feeding, there is no way a mother can be parted from her newborn for very long, and even then it's damaging to both. Also, immediately after birth is when a lot of hormone-fueled animal instinct kicks in and you just don't want to be away from the baby in case you have to defend it from predators.

But honestly, I think you should pirate, OP. You'll have just made a human being, take a small indulgence.

[chardmonster]

...FOR TWO HOURS?

YOU BELIEVE IT WILL BE DAMAGING FOR THE BABY TO BE SEPARATED FROM THE MOTHER FOR THE LENGTH OF AN X-MEN MOVIE?

ARE YOU A BIOLOGIST FROM ANOTHER PLANET

[fingalsanteater]

It's like these people don't realize that new mothers typically don't really get maternity leave. I've never worked at a place where a new mother stayed out more than a month after the baby was born.

[(Anonymous)]

Didn't you know? If someone is separated from their baby for more than an hour the baby no longer recognizes their scent. You've lost your baby forever at that point and you might as well start over.

[nyxelestia]

...they can't be parted for 2-3 hours? Really? I'm calling bullshit on this one.

[toshi_hakari]

Unless she is suddenly in the "Universe of the Four Gods" from Fushigi Yuugi where an hour in our world is several weeks in the FY-verse, it won't be damaging to the baby, believe me.

[(Anonymous)]

For a newborn infant under one week old? Uh, yes, a 90 minute action movie can absolutely be harmful.

[toshi_hakari]

I wasn't referring to taking the baby to the cinema, but being separated from the baby for two hours. I would never take a baby to the cinema, because, as you said it, it's harmful to the baby's hearing.

[diet_poison]

There's nothing wrong with taking a baby to a theater.

The problem is when your baby starts fussing and you refuse to leave the theater with him/her.

Sounds like ayrt is considerate and wouldn't make other people sit through the movie with a crying baby. (Or if she has the theater to herself, it won't matter that much.)

[(Anonymous)]

There's everything wrong with taking a newborn baby to a theatre. It's rude for one, and potentially not good for the kid either.

Some people with kids are such entitled dicks. Stay home and be good parents if you can't get a sitter.

[diet_poison]

There are plenty of reasons not to get a sitter for a newborn. Implying that mothers with newborns should just Stay Home and Be a Good Mom is kinda shitty imo (basically saying you think they should be houselocked for weeks on end).

How is it "potentially not good for the kid"? And how is it rude as long as your kid is silent? Is it just one of those "ewwww, how dare people expose me to yucky babies" things?

[(Anonymous)]

Taking your newborn, still-developing infant to a loud-ass movie theater isn't exactly good for them whether they're silent or not.

[(Anonymous)]

Babies are not pets or accessories. They are fucking inconvenient. Anyone who chooses to have one should be prepared to deal with the fact that it is indeed a full-time job in the beginning and do what's best for the human being they have chosen to create, even if it's no fun for them. Not to mention that taking the newborn to a theater likely isn't going to turn out to be as much fun as it sounds or particularly good for a sleep-deprived new mom, either.

How would you like it if you were still getting used to being out of the womb, you had no reasoning skills or ability to grasp what was going on around you, no way to communicate except crying, no way to leave under your own power, and somebody took your ass into a place full of strange smells, flashing lights and very loud unfamiliar noises for several hours? I bet you'd say, "WHAT THE FUCK, DUDE!" which is exactly what a crying newborn in a theater is doing.

It's not just rude to other moviegoers, it's rude to the kid. If you're lucky enough to have one who's chill about it, that doesn't necessarily mean they're enjoying the experience, just that they can deal with it.

[(Anonymous)]

Eeeeh, actually you are very goddamn wrong. The sounds and lights of an X-Men movie can easily overstimulate an INFANT. It's not about others--that is risking hearing damage and possible problems for the infant. So yes, it IS selfish. Because you are running a very good risk of HURTING THE FUCKING KID.

[diet_poison]

*points to rest of thread*

yeah, I get that now. having not known specifically about sound sensitivity for infants, I missed that part.

[(Anonymous)]

I came here to ask this too. I get really wanting to see a movie even though you have an infant, but other people want to see the movie just as badly and if the baby starts crying at a pivotal moment it might break the tension or make important dialogue inaudible for her and at possibly everyone close to her and ruin the movie experience for all involved.

A sitter of some sort just makes more sense than going to the theater with a newborn. Sure, some people say their baby will sleep through the movie and even has before, but that's no guarantee that another baby will or even that those babies would do it more than once.

It just seems more courteous to the other people who paid to see the movie too, and there's no chance the mother would end up having to pay for a ticket then have the money wasted by having to leave half-way through. Plus, I imagine it would be more relaxing and enjoyable to not have to be constantly alert to the baby.

[(Anonymous)]

A sitter for a young baby? Really? REALLY? A paid one? It's not like most of them settle for the night either. If you're lucky, you might have a trustworthy parent and perhaps the means to stockpile breastmilk if you do that (no, supplementing is often not an option).

Having a young baby can be a very isolating experience with a high risk of depression. Not everyone can tag team with a partner either to go out. If occasional trips to the cinema with baby are what it takes to help maintain sanity, well, balance that against possible momentary discomfort from other patrons. It is a balancing act.

That said, I would avoid later afternoon/evening sessions myself.

[nyxelestia]

Isn't that the point of baby-sitters, to take care of young'uns you can't or do not want to watch for a bit? And seriously, how much stockpiling would you need to do for a 2-3 hour movie?

[comma_chameleon]

Or *GASP* one bottle of formula if the baby can't go that 2-3 hours without eating.

Contrary to what breast milk fanatics will tell you, formula is not fucking arsenic.

As someone who was allergic to breast milk and was raised on formula, I think I turned out pretty A-Okay. Not saying you shouldn't try and breastfeed if you can (it's beneficial and a good bonding experience too), but one bottle feeding isn't going to kill the kid (and if Dad isn't going to the movie, he can do the feeding, making it a bonding experience for him and baby too.

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed -- wouldn't the loudness of the theater be damaging to baby's ears? :\

"In fact, movies are very loud and that might be one of the strongest reasons to not bring a young child. The decibel levels at theaters vary greatly, but the Center for Hearing and Communication warns that theaters often have the volume turned up well beyond 90 decibels. And that's too loud for anyone, but it's especially dangerous for young children whose ears are still developing."

http://babyparenting.about.com/od/parentingnewsandissues/f/toddlers-at-the-movies.htm