[ SECRET POST #2815 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2815 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[John Green]


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(Hemlock Grove)


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[Russell Edwards' Naming Jack the Ripper]


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Comments

[jaybie_jarrett]

I was all set to go home and get to some stuff in particular (like a note to a friend) but I ended up losing my internet til now because my mom was feeling particularly snappy and wanted to teach me a lesson about not respecting her.


On the bright side , I actually ended up doing some stuff anyway and got something else done.

[loracarol]

That sucks. :/

Yay that you were able to get other stuff done, though?

[jaybie_jarrett]

Thanks.

and yeah, that's pretty cool. The thing I got done was probably more urgent than a note to a friend tbh

[(Anonymous)]

Just how old are you precisely?

[jaybie_jarrett]

24 , but stuck living there , tied down by lack of ability to drive (was never permitted to learn) and some major medical issues.

My psychologist told my mom when I was 17, (autistic , majorly depressed due to being bullied heavily and having severe OCD) that I "should not drive" or something and ever since driving has never been an option. I have a neighbor who has Asperger Syndrome and does drive so I'm starting to doubt that my AS prevents me from being fit to drive.

[(Anonymous)]

Well that's a relief. I've contributed to some of the more elicit threads on here and for a stomach sinking secong I thought you were going to say under 18.

Man that sucks about being stuck under your parents roof. I hope you find a way out of there.

[(Anonymous)]

And by elicit I mean raunchy. English... how does it work???

[jaybie_jarrett]

Ah yeah. XD I know I probably don't seem like it sometimes (I hardly feel like it really)

and I'm working on it...

[(Anonymous)]

I've never had that thought about you until your comment about your Mom. Taking the internet away was a common punishment for me when I was a teenager. Until then I would have guessed early twenties.

[(Anonymous)]

Tough love time: You're too old to let your parents push you around like this. Yes, there's a degree of their house, their rules but they're clearly taking it to am unhealthy extreme.

[jaybie_jarrett]

I know but unfortunatley in this house when they think I"m not listening to them they get my attention

by taking things away. They've even threatened to shut my power off. *sigh* Because they go by the "it's OUR house and we get respect". Which isn't bad by itself...but when you go to some level where your kid can't wear pants OUTSIDE YOUR HOUSE(to work) that you don't like because YOUR house and "RESPECT MEH AUTHORITAY" or whatever. Then its too far.

*sighs* and half the time I'm doubting if I'm in the right for being upset or come across as a brat or selfish.

I wish I KNEW how to get out.

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry for butting in and (quite possibly) being very rude as it's really not my business, but is there anyway you can stick up to your mother about her not taking your Internet from you without worsening the issue?

Because from just seeing your threads around here it seems that it's a fairly common way for her to punish you, which to me seems awfully unfair both considering your age (and by that I mean that you are legally an adult and should be treated that way. Or being treated more like an adult at least) and that you pay rent to your parents.

[jaybie_jarrett]

"Sorry for butting in and (quite possibly) being very rude as it's really not my business, but is there anyway you can stick up to your mother about her not taking your Internet from you without worsening the issue? "

Not really. That or making me feel bad for getting upset and being reminded that "you live in our house and we provide for you.

I've tried but "it's their house and their internet" is what I get. Also according to my Dad what I pay every week is not even as much as I would be paying in the "real world" and I should be lucky I'm only paying that. Because they're trying to "teach me the living costs money"

[(Anonymous)]

I would not necessarily trust your dad's judgment on what you're paying and how far it would go. I'm not going to ask what that number is or where you are, but you might check out some cost of living sites or something to confirm his assertion.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Half my paycheck *sighs* not even a fixed amount. Half of EVERY paycheck.

[(Anonymous)]

SA
This might not be the *most* helpful site, but it could point you in a direction. http://swz.salary.com/costoflivingwizard/layoutscripts/coll_start.aspx

Also, if you want an idea, just do an apartment search to compare.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I read your reply to the anon above me as well, and I'm sorry, that seems really tough *hugs if wanted*

"*sighs* and half the time I'm doubting if I'm in the right for being upset or come across as a brat or selfish."

From my point of view, you have every right to be upset. Your parents seem to really take their control of you to the extreme, and I hope you'll be able to get out as it really does not seem to be a healthy environment for you.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah. I'm like never sure about myself here. :/


I literally feel like Rapunzel sometimes.

I replied to that TWICE. what's wrong with me.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, why did this turn into a giant thread? We get it, you have a shitty life with shitty parents. We don't need to hear about it every other day.

[(Anonymous)]

If you don't like a named user, just skip threads with username. This is like second grade reasoning.

[(Anonymous)]

She's been given all of that advice elsewhere, pretty much every last little bit, and did not use any of it then. I doubt she will now as well.

[(Anonymous)]

Dude, is your scroll bar broken? There are apparently a whole bunch of commenters above you who do care, so tuck your hateboner back in your pants and move on. Jeez.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, did you come to F!S to tell certain posters you don't give a shit about their genuine problems? We get it, you lack empathy for others. We don't need to hear about it every other day.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

It's one thing to give a shit, but this girl just will not be helped no matter who says what to her. I imagine you've all seen the pattern by now, she comes in and whines about this, that, and that other thing. A few secret posts later, same deal. Repeat to infinity, no matter who gives the advice or how good it is she'll never actually use it, even if she says she will.

[(Anonymous)]

A complete lack of support is one of the things that keeps a person from improving. No one encourages them, no one acknowledges their accomplishments, no one gets them to look at their own accomplishments and continue from there.

When you've lived a life where all you've experienced is discouragement, invalidation, inconsistent truths, and insults to your intelligence, you don't change overnight.

I'll admit to not monitoring jaybie's posts or their content, so I don't know how often she speaks of her home life, and I haven't seen how seriously she takes advice. But I can tell you this. It isn't enough to simply tell someone to "get out." For someone who's grown accustomed to a certain way of life, it isn't that easy. It can take a lot of encouragement and patience to get a person to leave an environment in which they do not flourish. Especially if they feel some loyalty to someone else in that environment. And even after that, they need to be deprogrammed of certain behaviors and responses and reprogrammed so that they do not fall back into their old ways and let themselves get taken advantage of.

Saying "this girl will not be helped" is not helpful. Is she just a lazy jerk who makes excuses all the time? That's a possibility, but blaming her for "not being helped" is not going to help her change, any more than her parents' dismissive "huh huh, you're 18, you don't have to stay here" is going to get her to move out. If you tried to give her advice in the past and failed, it just means the problem is a little greater than it seems and may require the help of a professional who is both competent and encouraging.

In the meantime, no one is forcing anyone to read jaybie's posts.