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I have no idea why, but I've developed a really bad habit of doing nothing on weekends until the late afternoon. I know it sounds like bliss, but honestly, it isn't. It's 3 here, the day's half over and I've just showered.

I don't even sleep in. I was up at eight. But it's like I can't get myself moving. Or I get into things - reading, admittedly usually internet stuff - and I can't snap out of it until I realize half the day's been wasted.

Tips?

To do lists?

But if you're not leaving things undone (just getting a late start) and you're not regretful come monday that "I didn't do 30x things this weekend that I wanted to because I lazed around until 3pm" I wouldn't fret.

I am a later-active person. I get this burst of energy after 7pm to DO ALL THE THINGS, it's just how I am, so on my days off I will often chill or watch TV/read until late afternoon.

Re: I've developed a bad habit

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Set alarms? If I'm having a bad day I'll set my phone to ring every hour/two hours to remind me to drink/stretch my legs/go do something else.

I don't know. The only real answer is to find a way to consistently get out of bed. I think a lot of it is just getting into the habit of doing it consistently. Maybe set hard limits for yourself (IE, getting out of bed by 9:00, no matter what) with rewards and/or punishments (IE, I will allow myself to get a donut if I get out of bed by 9:00 AM), or find things you like to do early in the morning. Maybe try setting looser limits at first - don't force yourself to jump out of bed at 8:00 and go for a run, but set more achievable goals like saying you're going to get out of bed by 10:00 and accept that's OK because it's better than getting out of bed at 3. IDK.

but...is it necessarily a bad thing?

I mean, if your weekend is for relaxing and maybe catching up on things (reading, housework/yardworks, etc) what does it matter if you start at 3 or at 7pm? As long as you're doing what you want to do, and get what you need to do done before you go to bed Sunday night, does the schedule actually matter?

my partner and I started, last year, to schedule ourselves to do one thing outside the house every weekend. it can be as simple as going to the farmer's market or making our Joann's run, or it could be an actual event in the city, either way. it did get us off our asses. but at the same time, it sometimes causes schedule interruptus, where shit that needs to get done around the house doesn't get done because we're "out." I'd rather get 2 hours of sewing in and spend the rest of my Saturday on my ass than get up at ass o'clock to do a Thing and then come home exhausted and unable to do any of my chores.

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Maybe go to a yoga class that starts early? Even if you don't necessarily love it, it would be a way to force yourself out of the house with a hard time deadline.

What nice things have you attempted to do that backfired? (Majorly or minorly.)

- Remember when everyone said "not" sarcastically? My big sister was really self conscious about her looks, and I (being maybe seven or eight at the time) felt bad because I thought she was pretty. So I randomly told her one day, "you're ugly-"

She got pretty offended, and didn't let me finish with the "not" part. I didn't bother explaining what my intent was.

Fortunately we're still close. I was kind of a naive kid so I think she worked out one way or the other that I hadn't meant to insult her. (I should note she was much older, about eighteen, it's not like she was also a child.)

This actually happened TO me. My mother died last summer, and I tried enjoying the holidays despite everything. Which actually worked.

Except people - very kind, well meaning people - kept messaging me. How was I? It must be so HARD, but at least I can know this Christmas that she's not suffering.

No one had any idea that by trying to help me, they kept bursting the bubble that was acting as a safety helmet.

(I'm dreading Mother's Day. Seriously considering deactivating Facebook...)

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I'm not a big greeting card person, but I know for some people it's a nice gesture they appreciate and it's relatively low effort on my part so I try to keep a few cards on hand for various occasions like birthdays, get well soon, etc. My long term partner's mother is one of those people who loves cards. Partner is not into sending them and never did before we got together. But after we got together, I started sending them to his mother (we'd both sign it) fairly regularly. Well. Last year, I forgot to mail off her birthday card and it was like, a week late. She sent this big whiny e-mail about how she was SOOOOOOOOOOO DISAPPOINTED and how could we do this to her blah blah blah was it because we were maaaaaaaaad at her blah blah blah. It was seriously over the top melodramatic and quite hypocritical because she forgets stuff all the time and nobody holds it against her because we're not assholes. When the card arrived, she did a total 180 and got all sweet again and thanked... MY PARTNER. Whose major contribution was to sign his name.

Guess who's not getting a birthday card ever again?

When my sister and I (i am also female) were teenagers, she had this one annoying dramatic friend. One day we were at the beach and A.D.F was nonstop whining about how faaaat her legs were and how uuuugggglllyyy they looked. I was tired of hearing her whine, so I told her she had perfectly nice legs hoping the compliment would make her happy and she'd quit bitching. Couple days later my sister told me that A.D.F. was going around telling people that I was a lesbian molester who was hitting on her at the beach. Bitch please, your obnoxious ass should be so lucky. Important note: where we lived, being Teh Gay (or no, like I actually am but was NOT out at the time to anyone) was something you hid if you had the common sense of bird gravel. There could have been consequences if the wrong people had believed her narcissistic ass.

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I let a nice old lady go before me at the bakery and she bought out the petit fours I intended to get for my mom's birthday. I bought something else, but those were my mom's favorites.

I was in my late 20s when I was working a shift alone in a clothing store. Very slow day w/no customers so I was looking out the window people-watching when some lady drops her wallet on the sidewalk and keeps walking, apparently not noticing. I ran out the door and called to her, trying to get her attention, and she kept walking. Two seconds after I did this, another woman ran into the store and started trying to grab stuff, so I ran back in and she took off real fast. Shit.

I held a door open for a little old lady at the store today and, before she went in, she looked me up and down and said, "Girls these days don't know how to dress. You have a cute face, but you'll never land a man looking like that". I felt the weirdest mixture of annoyance and confusion, especially since I actually put some effort in my appearance because I have a date today.