[ SECRET POST #4201 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4201 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Sophie Turner, from Game of Thrones]


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(Hindustan Times)


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[Philip Quast in "Ultraviolet"]


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Comments

[kaffy_r]

Oh, good lord. I'm 62, was just the mother of the groom last week, and my reaction to the picture was 1) cool outfit; 2) Why is there still red+high boots=hooker math being done in 2018? 3) Why is being a hooker considered an insult?

I assume that Ms Turner knows either the bride or the groom, and that either or both know her and know her taste in clothes. so they're not going to be clutching their pearls over what she wears.

*wanders off, muttering 'kids these days'*

[(Anonymous)]

Apparently many kids these days have far more respect for their friends' special occasions and understanding of social etiquette than 60+ year old women then...

But the vast majority of coverage I've seen from this wedding has been on this particular guest rather than the couple themselves, so "Ms Turner" certainly knows what she was doing.

[kaffy_r]

Why, bless your heart, aren't you sweet? Oh, wait, you thought you'd embarrass me?

*snort*

The vast majority of coverage from the wedding is on a guest's dress? Isn't that special....

[(Anonymous)]

Way to miss the point of my comment entirely. I don't care enough about you to try to embarrass you. I was simply observing that age has nothing to do with it, despite your earlier insinuation that many of us "children" are far more prudish than your "hip" self. Some of us know how to behave at social functions no matter how young we are.

And, no, I wouldn't call deliberately calling media attention to oneself as a guest "special" at all. I'd call it pretty damn rude and selfish.

[(Anonymous)]

As a fellow old-timer... come on, lady. You're sniping at someone that's likely half your age. It's not a good look. Was it really so hard to just ignore the comment and move on?

[(Anonymous)]

da Going out on a limb here and guessing 'vast majority of coverage' is angry fans tweeting about how much they hate the boots.

[(Anonymous)]

Imagine what she was wearing as mother of the groom and let's have a moment of silence for the poor bride and groom. ;D

[kaffy_r]

Well, the light purple cotton dress and matching jacket made it a little hard for me to pogo with my son at the reception, but I managed.

[(Anonymous)]

Well that was unnecessarily personal and childish of you.

[(Anonymous)]

You want a gold star for being a Cool Granny, or what? It's not appropriate to dress in such a way as to upstage the bride, and it never has been. Dressing for someone else's wedding isn't about displaying your fashion sense, it's about dressing for someone's special occasion that is 100% not about you.

[kaffy_r]

As soon as I have a grandchild, I'll take you up on that gold star. Until then, I'll just have to settle for being cool.

It seems to me that the people who upstaged the bride were the paparazzi and Daily Mail writers who focused on one guest.

[(Anonymous)]

This. She could have been wearing a floor-length, high-necked red gown with a train and it would have been just as inappropriate.

[(Anonymous)]

I thought the bride looked amazing, it's her day and she + everyone around her knows it.

[(Anonymous)]

One of my very best friends for the past two decades is marrying this summer. She knows full well my personal style is jeans and a t-shirt. Yet, she would be completely justified in being shocked and offended if I showed up at her wedding wearing such an outfit, since it will be a costly event hosted at a formal venue attended by her extended family and professional colleagues. But I never would, because I have enough common sense not to wear something like that to a gosh darn wedding. Fuck her "taste in clothes." She wasn't going to a nightclub and she damn well knew it.

[(Anonymous)]

Congrats on your son's wedding!

[kaffy_r]

Thanks, on his and my new daughter's behalf; it was glorious and joyous.

[rivulet027]

Agreed. The only coverage I've seen of the wedding was pics of the bride and groom, and then a few things where the two in the picture we're being praised for coordinating their outfits. This is the first time I've seen someone complain.

[(Anonymous)]

The misogyny in this thread is embarrassing and awful. Sorry you had to put up with this. Women past 30 should just shut up and die, I guess? The whole tone of the replies is just gross.

[(Anonymous)]

Baby boomers are evil, I guess, and deserve everything millenials can chuck at them unless they keep quiet, dress in beige, have no contrary opinions and hand out wads of their cash to the younguns.

[kaffy_r]

It surprised me more than a little, but there were a couple of people who responded thoughtfully, and made me think, including at least someone who snarked at me first, and then got serious. I appreciated those responders. And as I said to someone upthread, my initial post was pretty snarky, and I have no right to sulk about being snarked back at.

[(Anonymous)]

yeah it's weird seeing everyone so... old-fashioned??? about it

"The implication being that white steals the bride's spotlight and red steals the bride's groom..." like jesus christ, what year is this

[(Anonymous)]

Except it's not old fashioned, just polite and appropriate. Chances are you wouldn't show up to a fancy job interview wearing a dirty t-shirt, cargo shorts and flip flops. You wouldn't show up to your grandma's funeral in Minions cosplay. If it's not your wedding day, it's not your place to dress however want. You dress and behave appropriately for the occasion and the venue because that's what mature adults do.

[(Anonymous)]

it is very old fashioned because it assumes there is an agreed upon standard of what to wear at a wedding.

you're getting outraged on behalf of the couple because it just "isn't done", even though you know nothing of what the couple thought of it. you are not acquaintance with any of the people involved.

if my grandma thought it was fun if i showed up in a minion cosplay to her funeral, who are you to tell me or anyone that i can't do that? who made you arbiter of what's appropriate at other people's personal affairs?

get your head out of your ass

[(Anonymous)]

I can agree with this. I hate how much of a show weddings are supposed to be, where they're steeped in so much rules and etiquette no matter where you go. Why does it have to be such a big production? Although I probably just can't relate, because I got married in a courthouse with no guests. I just didn't want to spend so much money and be put in the spotlight just to get married. So I can put my own life experiences aside and respect others for wanting extravagant weddings, but I can't say I get it.

[kaffy_r]

My son and his wife did their own wedding, and I'm told it was much less expensive than most relatively traditional ones, although I damned near choked when they told me the cost. Their friends and ours dressed as they thought was celebratory - lots of tatts, neon pink hair and, yes, tight red dresses, sharing the room with more traditional dress. It was glorious. and joyous. I was married in a friend's living room, wearing my mother's wedding dress, with about 15 friends and my mom and brother in attendance, so I kind of share your memories of a small wedding.

I can put my own life experiences aside and respect others for wanting extravagant weddings, but I can't say I get it.

Yup.