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What are your pet peeves?

When I tell someone something, and they reword it and then repeat it back to me like it was their idea. I had a stressful week but it's over now, and I don't have anything going on this weekend, so I'm going to just drop my worries for the time being and try to relax. It's been a few shitty weeks, and I had something big to deal with Friday, and I want to have a few days where I just do chill stuff without worrying. I told my boyfriend that in a text. Then, he called a few minutes later and was like, "Your stressful stuff is done, now you can just relax over the weekend" and I'm irrationally annoyed by it. Yes, that is what I said in that text to you. You just repeated what I said right back to me. I'm sure he meant well by it, but I'm tired of him doing that, because he does it way too often. If you want to agree and say "Yeah, that's a good idea" that's one thing, but it comes across like he thinks he just came up with it on his own.

This... kinda sounds like something that could be innocuous, like he's trying to agree with what you said by repeating something similar and omitting "just like you said earlier!" because obviously you said it.

Now I'm wondering if some people are taking my repeating their words to them as affirmation, as me trying to steal their ideas or something...

Re: Pet peeves!

(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 20:36 (UTC) - Expand

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(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 22:24 (UTC) - Expand

When a business or establishment has information that their patrons/attendees would benefit from knowing, but nobody has taken it upon themselves to just make a quick little announcement.

A few examples: if a particular form of payment is not working, and there's a big lineup of people, but they're only informing each person as they reach the front of the line. Or if a specific item that is very popular is not currently available (like say anything espresso-based at a coffee shop). Or if they KNOW that lots of people are getting in the wrong lineup, and there's no signage or the signage is very unclear, but they just let all those people stay in the wrong lineup.

Just make a quick announcement. If I find out something like that as a patron, I will always just raise my voice and make the announcement myself, so that nobody ends up wasting their time unnecessarily. I keep it short and I don't embellish in anyway, just: The situation appears to be [X], in case that affects your plans.

SA

(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 21:58 (UTC) - Expand

Ugh, this. Honestly, it might be partly a gender thing because I see SO MANY women (in a workplace situation) talk about how they'll say X and then nobody pays attention until a man says it, and then everyone is oohh, great idea!

Re: Pet peeves!

(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 23:36 (UTC) - Expand

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(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 23:49 (UTC) - Expand

When someone posts something online and people don't read/comprehend it. I read a comment on Reddit that was 3 sentences long, 78 words in total. It was concise, it made sense, it seemed that it had been written by a native English speaker, or someone who is 100% fluent in English. It was written at an easy-to-understand level. Yet no fewer than FIVE PEOPLE replied to it totally missing out on something that was in the middle sentence. Why bother to reply to something you didn't read?????

"he went to go pick up my father and I"
ME, GODDAMNIT! I hear this one all the time!

These kids and their newfangled replacing of irregular verbs with regular versions. You can pry my knelt, dug, dreamt etc, out of my cold dead hands. *shakes fist at clouds*

There are people out there saying 'digged'?

Re: Pet peeves!

(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 20:51 (UTC) - Expand

Yeah, that’s one of those things where I understand how and why it happens, I know it’s a process with a long history and is probably inevitable … and I still think it’s a shame to lose some of the unusual fossilized forms in English.

However, my opinion changes radically as soon as I get back into “teaching ESOL” mode. Then I want to regularize the fuck out of everything and finally fix English spelling/pronunciation rules.

'gifted' as a verb.

*shakes fists at clouds*

Re: Pet peeves!

iff_and_xor - 2026-03-28 22:34 (UTC) - Expand

Very basic pet peeve but people standing in doorways AAAAAHHHHH GET OUT OF THE WAAAAAAAAAY

And how OFFENDED some people get when you ask them to move! Like YOU are in the wrong for wanting to enter/exit a building!

For me, the constant worry of “am I in someone’s way?” is so second nature that I find that kind of behavior almost alien.

The version I run into most often is a small group of people standing in a way that takes up the whole sidewalk. When I feel bolder, I sometimes walk right through the middle of their conversation rather than try to squeeze past at the edges.

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(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 23:48 (UTC) - Expand

This triggered Ursula voice in my head.

"One mustn't linger in doorways. It's rrrrude."

Add in the dweebs who decided to have whole conversations with friends, complete with carts, in the middle of the grocery aisle. CATCH UP ELSEWHERE, PLEASE.

Showing up to a scheduled event and finding there’s almost no one else there.

I prepped a thing to bring (an art project, a dish, etc) and I was ready to be friendly and social with strangers. I even made an effort to be there a little early. I was not ready to be one of only four people present and have to actively smile and small talk for a full hour.

It’s happened a couple of times in the last few weeks and I hate it.

That sounds really frustrating! I would be so annoyed.

People who give unsolicited advice about things they know nothing about. My dad does this incessantly and defends as "I'm trying to help!" Really? Spouting total nonsense with great confidence is helpful how? He will eagerly and insistently tell people stuff that's wrong and then argue about how he's right until you can prove it to him, then it's oh whoops, just trying to help, dunno why you're so ungrateful, etc. etc.

This drives me crazy. Especially if someone knows absolutely nothing whatsoever about the situation, and then gives their "solution" like they have all the answers and you're an idiot for not having thought of it yourself........

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(Anonymous) - 2026-03-28 23:51 (UTC) - Expand

Reminded of this by someone in another thread: trauma-dumpers. In any situation, but when I got my cancer diagnosis (treated promptly, surgery only, dealt with as far as they know) the number of people who thought it was appropriate to tell me aalll of their problems, past and present, eventually made me laugh. I'm in pain and exhausted from the scans and waiting-rooms and knives, you know this, people! Now is not the time!!! Circle theory is a thing, but also, apparently, it's supposed to work the other way.

Yeah, they think they are dumping out...onto you! I'm also a cancer survivor and I work in healthcare, and I have to keep remembering to put on my work persona when people not at work do this.

I worked retail for 4 years when I was in-between admin jobs and the number of upsetting personal things people would tell me was far, far too high. It's like those customers did not understand that staff are not actually able to excise the right to tell someone to fuck off, so I'd have to stand there and wait for them to be done with a fake smile on my face as customer number 356 would spend 10 mins telling me about their kids messy divorce or some horrible health problem they or a family member had.

I don't miss that at all.

Mine is specific and probably a little weird.

I frequently see some form of this advice posted online:

If you meet someone new and want to find out what kind of person they are, go out to eat with them, go to stores with them, and see how they treat the waiter and the cashiers. If they are rude to them, you know they're an asshole, but if they're nice, you've found yourself a Good Human Being.

Now, the first part of that, I don't disagree with. If you go out to dinner with someone and they treat the server like shit, yeah, chances are they're an asshole.

But the other part IS NOT ALWAYS TRUE. My ex was abusive to me, and treated his family like shit, but he was flawlessly polite to service and retail workers. He was helpful and generous and so great to his friends, he was kind to his acquaintances, coworkers, neighbors, etc. But when he felt the most comfortable with you - his romantic partner, his family - THAT is when you get to see the person he really is.

And seeing this advice passed everywhere and praised and upvoted and awarded and shared just makes me a little bit crazy. Again, I totally agree that being rude to service workers is the mark of a horrible person, but being nice to them isn't a guarantee of goodness. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. How often does it come out that someone is a sex offender or a murderer and all their coworkers and neighbors go "Oh I had no idea! I can't believe it! He was such a great person!"

Yeah, you didn't really know him.

Being nice to retail workers is a green flag, but it's not a guarantee. Share the first part, but leave off the second part.

Agreed. Unfortunately I share blood with people who acted like your ex. Everybody else thought they were just the most wonderful person ever, but up close they were the world's biggest asshole who only pretended they weren't in public because appearances were sooo much more important than treating loved ones like you actually love them.

The language used on social media, especially tumblr, in posts where someone actually has something serious to say. It doesn't matter how much I agree with what they're saying. I could think what they're saying is super important to spread the word about, but if they use phrases like "I am so serious you guys fr fr I'm not kidding" or "Look, you all need to get comfortable with (concept)" I start grinding my teeth.

Maybe it's a tumblr thing or maybe it's a Gen Alpha thing and I'm the old man yelling at the cloud, I don't know anyone that age IRL so I wouldn't know.

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