[ SECRET POST #1841 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1841 ⌋


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Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

11. http://i44.tinypic.com/25ksbjp.jpg

[the-kumquat.livejournal.com]

I back you up completely on your decision, anon. You can't marry someone who's that negative about something so simple and harmless. (Grounds for seeing a therapist? Really? That's just.... what?)

[(Anonymous)]

I would get out of that relationship. You don't need someone in your life who treats you like that and you definitely don't want to tie yourself to them through marriage.

[violence4.livejournal.com]

Not gonna lie, he sounds like a bit of tool, OP. Obviously he doesn't have to share all your interests but to regularly bash something he knows you enjoy - with the use of a word like "retarded" no less - is just petty, childish and unnecessary.

(Besides, grounds to see a therapist? Really? Really???)

[(Anonymous)]

he's a total asshole fo sho, but it's also kind of shitty of you to pretend to still love him because you can't find a job

[intrigueing.livejournal.com]

Dump the asshole as soon as you can. I mean, if he just insulted comics all the time, I'd recommend you just tell him how much it upsets you when he does that and explain to him why you like them and compare them to other "childish" things like action movies to make him understand, because really sometimes people are just ignorant, which isn't a mortal sin. But comments like it being grounds for seeing a therapist and stuff? And those kinds of comments are reflective of his behavior in other areas too? Yeah, I'd lose him fast.

[insanenoodlyguy.livejournal.com]

Your motivations for leaving make sense, but I can't advocate the fact that your obviously using him at this point.

Odds are good that while he shouldn't get to keep you, he also deserves better then that.

[mika-kun.livejournal.com]

Not wanting to stay with someone who repeatedly devalues something you enjoy when they know you don't like it is perfectly reasonable. He doesn't have to like comics too, he just has to shut up and let you enjoy them. If he can't manage that he's not going to be able to manage it in other areas of your lives either.

[otakugal15.livejournal.com]

.....his "I'm right and you're wrong" attitude sounds like a dude my bf knows and absolute despises. >>

But yeah. If he's that negative over something YOU enjoy, then he can go jump in a river. That's stupid that he can't accept that part of you. B/ I'd break it off, cause that's gonna be bad later and it may be over something else, too.

Also....what planet has he been living on in the last few years? Comics have once again become a little more popular than they used to be, what with the film industry making movies based on them.

[(Anonymous)]

well, he's a dick for making fun of your hobbies and you're kind of an ass for using him just for a place to crash. Sounds like you two might be made for each other. Good luck, you crazy kids!

[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

Money or not, marrying him is a mistake you're going to regret forever if you make it. Work two part-time jobs if you have to, but don't ruin your life by marrying this asshole.

[valenciapilgrim.livejournal.com]

The problem that I see with this guy is that he doesn't seem to accept and respect your interests as valid, and wants to change you. And I suspect that if you let him have his way over this, he will only go after some different hobby. Or maybe he doesn't like one of your friends, or a family member, and then so on. If he thought that you were WAY too in to comic books, like if you were spending a huge amount of your paycheck on them, or something, and thought it would be healthy to cut back, that would be different. But everyone is going to have some hobbies that their S.O. doesn't share, that's nice and normal and non co-dependent.

It seems like in your heart you know what you need to do. It's just a matter of finding the strength to do it. Just think of it as doing something unpleasant now to save a whole lifetime of unpleasant in front of you. Can you move in with a friend or family member for a while? You will not be able to afford as many material goods if you are on a single income, that is true for almost anyone. Is there really some magical job out there that would solve all of your problems if only you could find it?

[visp.livejournal.com]

Good luck finding a job, and just don't set a date or start making wedding arrangements.

[equius.livejournal.com]

Gonna echo the others with break it off and leave him, OP. The "number of reasons" plus his stubborn attitude towards comics just add up to an unhappy marriage.

You don't have to put up with that shit just because you're unemployed. Hopefully you've got some family you can stay with. Good luck.

[(Anonymous)]

Ow, wow, this sounds familiar. My friend's hobbies (including comics, like you) were so mocked by her fiance that she boxed all related stuff up on her wedding day and got rid of it, hoping that would make her the kind of person he would be happy with. It didn't. She suffered through ten years of emotionally abusive marriage before she got out of it, re-embraced the things that made her happy, and felt like herself. So, I don't think behavior like that is a minor thing, but a big warning sign to get out, especially if he won't have a proper conversation about the problems you're having.

Good luck, OP! It sounds like you know what you want to do, and I hope you can afford to leave soon, if that's what you choose. I'm rooting for you!

[hey-feygele.livejournal.com]

That really sucks. It's one thing to not be into the same stuff as your partner. It's another thing completely to try to make them feel shitty about themselves because of their hobbies.

I don't think it's shallow of you. Him not being into you over something petty like comic books would have been shallow. You not wanting to marry a guy who has a habit of trying to tear you down over something petty like comic books is totally justifiable and huge.

I understand feeling trapped by circumstances like finances and whatever. But I think you'll find a way out. If you want, I mean. Good luck.

[blackmare.livejournal.com]

I don't think you're being a user, at least not because you want to be; you feel stuck and I get that, completely.

I would recommend looking for a roomie situation. Most colleges have boards where you can post ads, or look at ads others have posted. You don't necessarily have to be a student in order to rent from someone who mostly rents to them. Lots of people are renting basement/attic apartments these days to help cover their own costs, and also, it might pay to look into income-restricted housing, if such a thing is available. Living with someone who's always putting you down (I don't for a moment imagine the thing about comics is an isolated incident) saps you and bruises you, and will make it that much harder to find the kind of job you want.

If you can pull yourself up just enough to start looking around for organizations that can help, or living situations that don't depend on romantic attachments, I think you'll find a way out of this soon. Take care of yourself, OP.

[rabbitucker.livejournal.com]

Well, I gotta say, that really sucks.

Ending a committed relationship over only comics is pretty dumb, but you say that there's a looooot of other stuff going on, so I say do what you gotta do, especially if he is as rigid and inflexible as you say.

There are some sprouts of "you're an ass for using him for a place to stay" on this com. While such sentiments get their authors pounced on, there is a small nugget of truth there. On the other hand, in this economy, divorces are down for no other reason than even married couples can't afford to separate, so it's a very complex issue all the way around.

If you cannot live on your own, if you are really this dissatisfied with living there, it might be in your best interests to see about getting together with friends and/or family. You say you can't find employment part-time, but if you are able to split costs of living with others, then what part-time work you are able to find might end up being sufficient in the short term.

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously anon, I'd break it off if I were you. He doesn't have to understand the attraction your hobby has for you, but if he can't step back, respect it, and leave you to enjoy it, it sounds like he just doesn't respect you, and that he has some serious control issues that are only going to get worse.

[miff-falden.livejournal.com]

If your partner doesn't respect you emotionally, then GET THE FUCK OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP.

I'll never understand why "normal" people end up with people like that, just out of looks or whatever. You can do better, find someone who will be a friend as well as a romantic partner.

[dethtoll.livejournal.com]

lol seems like boyfriend thinks he's too mature for "kiddie shit"

does he strictly play M-rated games for hardcore gamers such as himself

[kindlycoyote.livejournal.com]

Leave him OP. Call your friends, family, etc, see if there is anyone you can stay with. Offer to clean their house, play maid, anything. In this economy a lot of people are living with family or friends, and I'm one of them. Sometimes a person will be more than happy to extend a helping hand.

As for the job search...

Have you thought about the Peace Corps?

...Ok, I know, seemingly random. But if you have some appropriate experience/knowledge then you can prepare yourself to haul off for two years, do some good in the world, and get paid for it! Yes, it's not much, but in this economy if you are having trouble finding a job, I would consider it. (I personally opted against it simply because I wanted to choose where I went, and I have the proper experience and degrees to get a overseas teaching job on my own. So, whatever floats your boat).

Outside of that, I am currently working two part-time jobs, so when I was in your position I applied for everything. I am probably top-of-the-list for a full-time position should it open up at one of my jobs, so see if there is any part-time jobs like that that will at least get money coming in. (seriously. My current job with the upward-mobility is 8 bucks a hour of menial labor, but it's money in the bank while I finish my ESL training.)

[smittenlotus.livejournal.com]

I don't think you're being petty or anything OP. This guy kind of sounds like an ass, and it isn't as if the comic bashing is your only problem. I'd try to work out some sort of temporary roommate situation? It'd be better for you both to stop trying to work on something you don't have faith in anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

Do not settle! I am speaking from experience here. Never ever settle when it comes to a relationship and your happiness.

It's up to you if his attitude towards comics is a deal breaker or not, but if it's something that truly bothers you don't shrug it off and settle because you feel like you have no other option. There's always another option.

I don't know the whole story, but from what you've shared with us... your fiance sounds like a douche. I dated someone who acted just like that. Superiority complex with an ego to match. He belittled me daily and most of the time I didn't even really notice because it was so subtle. Usually he said these things when no one was around, but he slipped up and said them around our mutual friends. I'd make an honest mistake and he'd call me an idiot. I remember they were shocked and I defended him. "That's just how he is. It's not serious." It was the day I realized that he actually truly thought I was an idiot that I realized I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. If this sounds familiar, I urge you to really reconsider why you're with this guy and to possibly put some space between you guys.

I hate giving advice so blindly like this and I hate to even say that a break could be what's best. I don't know you or your relationship, so it's your call on if his behavior is abusive or if it's the product of just having a bad day or something. Either way, good luck.

[metal-equine.livejournal.com]

I've been in your shoes, or rather similar, and I know how much that feeling of being stuck with the asshole man kills just about everything. Forget the lack of a job; is there no family or friends who could help you and let you stay with them? I'd say that at the time being, that's way more important than a job,at least short term. Good luck. *offers hugs*