[ SECRET POST #2199 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2199 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Dragon Age 2]


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[Baby-sitters Club]


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[The Twelve Kingdoms]


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[Dangan Ronpa]


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[Homestuck]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 023 secrets from Secret Submission Post #314.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

02. http://i.imgur.com/Dv0Ic.jpg?1

[fingalsanteater]

Doesn't sound particularly whiny to me. Not only does it suck when people you love tell you that the things you like are stupid, but not being able to talk about fannish things or things that interest you is lonely. Just talking about fandom or other things of interest with people on the Internet can be rather unsatisfying, at least for me.

[(Anonymous)]

You're not alone. My best friend's mum loves Supernatural and Avengers and Harry Potter and a billion other things and even freaking FANGIRLS them with her. I am totes jealous too, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Your parents just aren't fannish. Mine aren't either. I've always kept my fandom stuff private from them, because it's just not something that they're ever going to get. What can you do? Some people respond to media like we do, and many don't. It's inherent.

Try not to be too envious of your friends. You'll meet lots of other people with whom to fangirl over the course of your life. It's just not going to ever be one of the ways in which you bond with your 'rents.

[(Anonymous)]

My dad apparently forgets that we used to watch stuff together, when I was little. He always expresses confusion whenever he finds me watching Star Trek: TNG or Top Gear or any of the many things we watched together. *shrugs* Apparently it didn't mean as much to him as it did to me.

I feel you, OP. I would love to share my interests with dad, but the fact that he doesn't remember that we watched Star Trek TNG together for years (or maybe he thought I didn't like it?) has made my interest in that activity kinda fade.

[tyger66]

I know I got really lucky with my mom, because she's right there with me watching Supernatural, Merlin, Avengers, etc. (even though she gets kind of freaked out when I mention fanfic or shipping). It's great, and we can talk about character motivations, and stuff like that together for hours.

But with my dad? I can't even talk about ACTUAL people and events with him, much less one of my fandoms. It's sad, because he LOVES LOTR and he liked Harry Potter, but he just doesn't like to talk to me, so we don't ever have conversations about our interests.

[(Anonymous)]

My mom was horrible about it, she hated any discussion about characters.

My dad was great, introduced me to some of my early fandoms, and took interest in the fandoms I had found on my own.

[(Anonymous)]

Nope, doesn't sound whiny to me.

[(Anonymous)]

I've moved on, but there was a time when I also wanted to do that. I was so happy when my dad watched Detective Conan with me.

At least now my brother is old enough to watch subtitled anime with me, but we don't always want to watch the same thing. Recently, he wanted to watch a harem shounen anime with me, and I JUST CAN'T. If there's one genre I hate, it's harem stuff. I hate how obvious it is who the "lucky" girl will be, I hate how there are always the same character types, I hate how all the girls basically hate each other, and most of all, I hate how it's always all about some bland, annoying dude.

[chardmonster]

It does just a little bit--with the caveat that whining is okay.

The thing is, saying "that's stupid" doesn't mean "you're stupid." Your parents can like YOU without liking your cartoons. My parents think me and my boyfriend are kind of weird for watching shitty movies all the time, but they don't think we're "stupid."

[(Anonymous)]

My parents are exactly the same. Mum's embarrassed by the things I am into. try to get her into them but she makes excuses. Like last night I wanted to get her to watch this show with me..as usual..she makes excuses oh i will fall asleep. LOL you just don't want to watch it do you?
And I have had my aunt slag me off for fandoms too.

[(Anonymous)]

totally with you, anon. my parents couldn't give less of a damn about my interests. i've eventually given up trying to connect with them based around their interests, since it was just forced and awkward for everyone involved. it'd be great if i had parents i could actually talk to about, well, anything. but at least we aren't alone, right?

[(Anonymous)]

You aren't being whiny. I can totally relate to your secret. My Dad was never a fandom kind of person. He read a lot and watched tv/movies but he never got into it like some people. He did love Survivor and we would talk about it but he never got my fandom ways.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, it's not the worst thing in the world, just the way the world is. My parents are willing to feign an interest in that stuff, but honestly, I don't need to talk to them about my super-fannish stuff, I have other friends for that. I guess it would be pretty annoying if they would be dismissive the way yours are, though. That does suck.

My dad did introduce me to a few fannish things - I distinctly remember watching The Prisoner with him when I was young, and some stuff like Monty Python as well - but that's a limit on it. That's life though.

[(Anonymous)]

I actually make fun of my mom for this, sometimes. I pretty much accuse her of not being open to liking things that haven't been pre-approved by someone sufficiently sophisticated. I am legitimately still angry about how quickly she dismissed community (3 minutes, one Britta joke, turns it off, calls it sexist)
Note: the making fun of her wasn't very nice and I've stoped.

My dad is a giant nerd, but not in the fangirl/cares-about-themes-and-characters way. At least he doesn't judge :)

[citrinesunset]

I don't think it's whiny. It's normal to want to be able to talk about things you like with people you care about.

It's a shame it sounds like your parents aren't very respectful about the things you enjoy.

It's one thing not to be interested in them, personally. It can be nice to be able to enjoy things with your parents, but sometimes people just have different tastes. My mom and I don't have very similar tastes in movies or TV shows most of the time, so I take advantage of it when there is something we're both interested in.

Calling the things you like "stupid" or a "waste of time" is disrespectful, though, and I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

[silverau]

You don't sound whiny at all. It's totally legitimate to be sad that your parents think your interests are stupid. I'm sorry to hear that, OP.

[vongroovy]

It's not whiny! It's disappointing when you want to share something important to you and it gets brushed off by other people.

My relationship with my mum can be prickly, to say the least, and pretty much the only thing we can connect on is enjoying some of the same movies and books and whatever. But she doesn't get fandom and she refuses to have more than the most trivial conversations about things (like, sometimes even "Who's your favourite character?" is too much for her). Any time I ever try to discuss things a little more deeply with her, she tells me I'm being stupid and shouldn't get so worked up over entertainment. It was really upsetting to hear as a kid, because she was often the only person I knew who liked something I was into, but it still hurts as an adult. It's not great to be told, at any age, that you're being stupid for enjoying something or for being influenced by something. There are so many things I've been fannish about that have hugely impacted my life, and I know I wouldn't be the same person if I hadn't been introduced to them, but any time I've dared express that sentiment to her (even in the context of thanking her for introducing me to something), I get told I take entertainment way too seriously.

So, yeah. I get where you're coming from.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel you, OP. My parents have no interest in shows or movies or even the books I like, they also think it's all stupid and I shouldn't waste my time on it. It's not like I want to talk about shipping with them, but it'd just be nice to have an interest in common. And while my sister likes many shows I like, she doesn't want to talk about them. She'll say 'the new episode was funny' and that's about it.

I always get so jealous when I hear people whose parents or siblings are interested in fandom. It's a real drag that my parents just don't care about most things that I enjoy.

[(Anonymous)]

That sucks. Is there anyone else in your family (siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc) that you could talk about with these things instead? It might not make up for your parents dismissing your interests, but it could be like if you're looking for a family connection to the things you like.

[childings.livejournal.com]

I don't think that's whiny, it's pretty shitty to have someone constantly tell you that the stuff you like is "stupid" or a "waste of time", especially your parents.

I have the opposite problem, my mom keeps trying to get me into fannish things she likes (fantasy novels or tv shows or whatnot) and most of them I just can't get into. I finally read Outlander because she had been bugging me about it for years and I couldn't get through the second book at all, we share very very few fandoms

[caterfree10]

I could've written this exact same secret, OP. It's frustrating when I want to share something with my parents for once, but they just shut me down if I try. It sucks and the only thing we really share are cute animal pictures/gifs. :/

did I read that right?

[(Anonymous)]

(sometimes this happens after they introduced or in some cases encouraged me into an interest like cartoons.)

That's, um...

Your parents are kind of tools, op.

Like, not being interested? Okay, it happens. Disappointing, but different people have different tastes. Not much you can do there!

Thinking it's a waste of time? Parents have different views of life, so to them it probably is. A tad disrespectful to tell you so bluntly to your face, but I'm sure they mean well and only want to encourage you to be productive. (I hope.)

But, actually introducing you to something and then berating you for liking it? I hope I misread your secret, because that's some A-Grade Psycho-manipulative bullshit right there.

I mean, it is late at night. Maybe I did read that wrong? Because, uh, if I didn't, yeah, you're not being whiny in the least, OP. O_O

[velvet_mace]

Yeah, my parents are better than your parents at at least not putting stuff down, but they have no interest in actually talking about them. My parents have also kind of lost interest in tv and movies and even most books, and neither of them write stories, so we don't really have a lot of common ground for discussion. Now if I wanted to talk about plants or fish or hiking or the day to day doings of relatives, we could have a nice long conversation!

Luckily I have online to talk to people about the things I like.

[ariakas]

That's not a bad desire, OP. Your parents are jerks. I'm sure they want you to find a "useful" hobby, but they don't realize that fandom can improve your skills at writing/drawing/socializing/programming/translating/etc. - also, the friends I've made across the globe from fandom have been excellent people, and travelling to meet them has been wonderful.

...That said, anybody else have absolutely no desire to share fandom interests with their parents? I can't imagine anything more awkward than discussing ships with my mom or favourite character builds with my dad (besides, the former is way into religious fandom and the latter football fandom, and I have nooooo interest in joining either of those).