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Comments

Giving money to strangers

[othellia]

If someone comes up to you and asks for money do you usually ignore them/apologize or give them some? If so, how much? Spare change/$1/$5? Do you act differently when you're walking with someone else vs when you're by yourself? Have you ever lied and said you had no cash money on you when you actually did?

Re: Giving money to strangers

[making_excuses]

I smile and say no (or shake my head no if they aren't Norwegian). If I had any money to spare I would probably give some of it away.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

I never carry cash, so I never give out cash. Though I should start carrying cash again.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[chardmonster]

I politely say sorry, can't, and walk on.

The problem is that once you give them money once, they'll approach you again.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

give
$5-10
no
no

Re: Giving money to strangers

[unicornherds]

I don't usually have cash on me, so I say that. I have gone in and bought people food (fruit and such) and brought it to them before. They didn't seem happy, but they were supposedly asking for money for food.

When I was sort-of-homeless I never asked people for money but a lot of people would walk up and hand me some cash, say something like "Godd bless" and scurry off. Which was pretty nice of them.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[aubry]

I give money if I have some to spare and if they aren't being aggressive. (Unless it's a bank-details-wanting chugger - then they only get a glare.)

When I lived in the city and was sometimes approached by homeless guys when I worked late I generally offered to buy them a sandwich and a coffee from Tesco instead. I don't know if that was right or just condescending, but a few of them me up on the offer now and again.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[mekkio]

Depends. Usually I say no but every so often I'll come across someone who has that, "I've been to hell and I am still there" look in their eyes. Those eyes break my heart and I can never say no to.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[writerserenyty]

I honestly rarely ever carry cash on me, and if I have any it's for a purpose (going to box karaoke with friends and the karaoke place only accepts cash).

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

In a couple instances where I feared for my life if I didn't (gas stations at night are such fun), I forked over a few bucks. If it's Girl Scouts/car wash/bell ringers/random person lurking at Walmart, I just say I don't have any cash.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

Where I live this only happens at stop lights. And it happens at every single one. If you give them anything, they'll seek you out any time you're at that intersection, even if you're 15 cars back. Some of the people will bang on cars if no one in that pack stopped at the light has their window down or opens it when the person walks up the lane. It's frightening and illegal and I wish the police would do something about it.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[fingalsanteater]

I don't carry cash, so I never have anything to give. I've probably said that I have no cash when I did just out of habit.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

I once gave some teenagers out of gas a $20 because there wasn't anybody else around and I felt bad for them and all I had on me was a $20. (I realize that they could've been lying, and $20 is a bit much, but whatever. I wasn't hurting for money then.)

I'm actually flat fucking broke right now, and there's no telling when I'm not going to be, so hand-outs are pretty much not gonna happen. I've gotten more cynical as I've gotten older, too, and with all the stories of people asking for handouts and just buying beer, if I'm feeling generous enough, I'll give food handouts before cash handouts.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

I honestly never have money on me. Then again, I think I've been asked maybe once.

But my dad always told me that if anybody who looked like they were on heroin asked me for money, I should buy them a doughnut. So I think I'd do that. Or buy a meal for someone who said they were hungry.

And yes, when I'm walking alone I don't talk to anyone or look at anyone.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[pfefferminz]

It depends..If it's one of those salvation army donation things or a guy who genuinely needs a quarter for the bus then I would give change. Most of the time though I tell them that I don't carry change especially if I see those same people asking for change every single time I go to that place.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[sootyowl]

In our family, we offer to buy people a meal if they need it instead of giving them money. If they refuse the meal, you know all they wanted was drug money. There are also chips you can give people that will give them a place to stay and a meal if they give go down to a shelter.

I have given out change once in a blue moon to people asking for bus fair (which is generally a ploy for drugs so I will offer bus tickets instead if I have them), but generally I don't even have change on my person to give money out.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[deenaa]

If I do have the money (and time) to spare, I insist on buying them a coffee or food. Sadly, many of the people begging in my area just want the money for drugs, and while they'll take the food, they'll also mutter about how you're a bitch or the like.

I've definitely lied about having money though, mainly because some of them are very obviously dangerous and I don't want them thinking that I'm worth mugging. Polite excuses, stay near people or keep moving.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[tamabonotchi]

I'll either ignore them or apologize/say I don't have any change. I'm not really charitable person and walking through a campus and downtown everyday I always have to pass the homeless or people selling newspapers for the homeless. I put my earphones on so I can't hear them ask and they'll figure I didn't hear them.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[cloud_riven]

If I'm walking somewhere, I either ignore or shake my head while I shuffle along. If I'm standing around, and being approached, I have to use my the real words like, "No.", "Nope.", "Sorry."

I think I've only ever been approached when I was by myself though. Also, even if I had cash on hand and lied about not having any, I kind of think no one needs to be privy to that anyways.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[silverau]

I really don't trust people so I usually say no. Sometimes if I have quarters I'll toss it to them from a distance but I don't like to even take out my wallet in front of random strangers. Lately where I live there have been people asking for money and then snatching your wallet and then using your information to look up your house and using your keys to break in. So I'm particularly paranoid right now.

And if I'm with other people I'm even less likely to say yes because if the other person senses I'm feeling guilty they drag me away.

But I give money to the Salvation Army people when I see them or if people are doing fundraisers or selling things on the streets I sometimes buy from them.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

Depends on my mood and whether I have any money. Sometimes I'll give them some, sometimes I'll say no (or say I don't have any). I've definitely lied and said I don't have any when I did.

I'm more likely to give money to people hanging around outside restaurants obviously intending to go in and buy something when they get enough money, and to people who have kids with them.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[tabaqui]

If i have any cash on me that's not like, a 20, sure, I'll give people some dollars or a five. I figure if you're desperate enough to beg a stranger for money, you need it, even if it's for drugs. I guess i'd rather somebody asked me for spare change for drugs than be forced to give a blowjob or something.

[(Anonymous)]

Nope. Sometimes if I have a euro or two in small change in my pocket I will toss it in for a street musician or some of those official collection boxes, but I do not give to beggars. Especially not when that involves taking out my wallet on the street.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[(Anonymous)]

Ignore them, or shake my head no and ignore them.

I act much the same way with people as without.

Yeah I've lied quite a bit because it's none of their business if I've got money or not.

I used to give money until one of the people I was giving money to decided to take all my money and not just what I was handing over. Now I don't.

Re: Giving money to strangers

[citrinesunset]

If it's something where someone needs a dollar for a vending machine, or bus fare, I'll usually give them something if I have the cash/change on me to spare. Occasionally when I'm in the library at school, I'll have someone ask me for a dollar bill so they can pay to print something out, and if I have one, I'll give it to them and won't expect anything in return.

A couple times, I've given to a total stranger who claimed an emergency, but I'm more cautious, and it depends on what they're asking for. I don't worry too much about being swindled for a few dollars, but if someone is asking for more, I'm not comfortable doing it unless I trust them. If I feel safe, I'd rather offer practical help, like letting someone make a call on my phone, or things like that.

With homeless people who ask for money, I don't give because I don't want to be continually asked for money when I walk those routes. I feel guilty about it, though.

I'm not really comfortable taking my wallet out in front of strangers who are asking me for money. How safe I feel when approached by someone depends a lot on the time and environment. A busy sidewalk? I don't feel too threatened. A quiet sidewalk? A little uncomfortable. A quiet parking lot in the middle of the night? Very uncomfortable.