[ SECRET POST #2395 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2395 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Most Popular Girls in School]


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03.
[Welcome to Night Vale]


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04.
[Gerard Way and Frank Iero]


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05.
[Mastumoto Jun]


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06.
[Macdonald Hall]


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07.
[Downton Abbey]


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08.
[Generator Rex]


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09.
[Neil Oliver]


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10.
[Star Trek]


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11.
[Star Trek: TNG]


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[The Vampire Diaries]













Notes:

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Comments

Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

This is kind of inspired by one of the secrets yesterday, but have you ever had someone who was infatuated with you and did not know or care about your own personal boundaries or that you don't reciprocate their feelings? What did you do about it? How bad did it get?

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[vethica]

A friend had a crush on me when I was 11. I don't think he meant any harm, but I also don't think he realized just how much of a creeper he was being. He kept saying stuff to me about how he wanted to take off my clothes or whatever. I was so mad and weirded out that I broke off all contact with him for a year. The year after that we ran into each other again and started talking. Evidently he was over his weird crush. We've been friends again ever since that.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

okay I have to say that I am something of a minor celebrity (in that I make music videos on youtube and have been invited as a guest at cons) and recently a "fan" drew pornographic artwork of me having sex with a character I like and then PMed it to me :\
I'm still just sitting here wondering what to do about that...

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Tell them to fuck off.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[sootyowl]

Maybe make a tweet/post/whatever telling people that, while you are really thankful for their support, sending you pornographic artwork makes you uncomfortable and to please respect that.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[forgottenjester]

I'm about to give you bad advice.

Draw pornography of them with slenderman and cthulhu and send it to them.

As for good advice? I don't know. I don't really have any. Do you tell them to fuck off? Or do you do it in a nice way? Do you post what they did (without the artwork) and publically shame them? Or do you blur out their name and use it as an example for your other fans on what not to do? Do you do anything?

I'm not really good at this sort of thing because I would be too pissed off at the person for thinking that what they did was okay in any way.

Your best bet would probably be to ask other famous youtubers what you should do since I'm assuming some have been put in a similar position so they can speak from experience.

Anyway, best of luck. My sympathies.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[diet_poison]

ewwwwww.

First of all, tell them in no uncertain terms that that is inappropriate and creepy and not acceptable.

After that...I don't know. I've never been in a situation like that. Good luck, I hope you figure it out. I feel like that happens a lot to well-known people...I wish people weren't so damn creepy...

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Yes. He started off as a friend then started to verge towards creepy. He had muses and nymphs he wrote operas and poems to, gave chocolate to his Muse for Valentine's day and regularly gave poems to another (who had a boyfriend). He left me a message on voicemail that was over five minutes long and later when I confronted him and told him I wasn't interested in dating him he told me no. He flat-out refused to allow me not to date him, because I was nice to him at first and that meant I should hear him out and that I would want to date him. This continued for several weeks, he tried to convince my friends to intercede in his favour, kept looking at me and staring really intently from afar, later on said (as I was told) that I should have dated him to respect his feelings. We were in the same class so it was hard to avoid him... He kept trying to get close to me and was really close whenever he talked to me. After a while he understood that I would not change my mind and that's when he started to get angry. I'm pretty sure he called me every name that exists behind my back. He was seated next to me in class and he wrote things in the margins of his notes in another language (I couldn't understand it, no one could in my class). Given how angry his writing looked, I have few doubts about what it said... He would stay alone far in the back of the classroom and just stare with both his closed fists resting on the table. Once, we had a snack to celebrate the end of the school year, we were all huddled around the teacher's desk and front row, he grabbed some cake and spent the entire hour by himself, angry and silent.

Luckily, it was near the end of the school year. The following year, he took to walking past me really quickly whenever he saw me, and the year after that, he told me he was now being treated by a psychiatrist. I wasn't surprised (bear in mind that I'm giving you a light version) but I was glad he was getting the help he needed. We made peace.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[kallanda_lee]

Holy shit that's disturbing.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I was stalked for a few years by a coworker (he would drive by the bus stops I had to wait at on my way to work/on my way home and leer at me) but he never did anything physical, (he filed lots of complaints against me at work, but that backfired on him, big-time, it was epic fail!tiems for him with HR) and eventually he moved on to stalking another coworker instead (who moved out of the country to get away from him).

Once I realized that A) I was never going to get anything like police protection unless and until he actually DID something to me (this was years before the really heavy anti-stalking legislation came in) and B) after a few years of this, he never actually DID do anything, I decided to stop being afraid. Either he would shit or get off the pot, and I would have the evidence I needed to go to the police and lock his scummy ass up forever and throw away the key, or nothing would happen. Either way, I win.

Why did this buttcrack of society stalk me for over four years, you ask? Because I talked to him for five minutes in the cafeteria one day.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Blocked on all mediums, back flipped the fuck away and hoped desperately they wouldn't show at my place

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Not quite a stalker, but let e tell you the story of my creepiest admirer.

I am one of the anons (there's at least two of us) who sometimes post secrets about finding amputation hot. I'm basically an amputee fetishist (which are also called devotees in the lingo). There are also people who have a sort of body dysmorphia and want to be amputees (we call those wannbe's). When I was 17, back when the internet was far younger, I used to connect with other devotees and wannabe's online through forums and stuff. So, one time I get connected by a wannabe who lived relatively close to me. The guy was 10 years my senior, but fair enough, seemed cool at the time. We hung out a bit. Chatted. We hd another mutual friend we did stuff with. It was cool at first. But, over time I realize this guy has this really creepy idea in his head that he's going to become an amputee and that will make me fall in love with him and we'll be together.

Like, this dude is OLD compared to me, has a kid from a previous marriage, not my type and dear lord I'm just so not interested.

He went on to have like two other "girlfriends" at the same time, possibly to make me jealous, I dunno, one of which actually helped him stage an "accident" to amputate his leg. He ended up impregnating one of them, and I was even invited to his wedding and stuff. She ended up leaving him after he wanted more amputations.

He tried to contact me again over the years, but I'm glad it frizzled out. He's a triple amputee now, pretty fat and wheelchair bound. Also, lot of crazy there. I so dodged a bullet.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[pantasma]

There was this guy in my lunch group. He liked to poke belly buttons. It kind of became a play-fighting game, where he would try to catch me off guard and I would block him and poke his sides; tickle fight, right? One of the girls in my new group came up to me when he was absent one day and said to be careful, because he does that to girls he likes. Now I had just transferred out of a school system wherein I had been habitually emotionally abused for my looks, so the thought of anyone taking interest in me was beyond my comprehension. So I thanked her for her concern but basically wrote it off.

A couple weeks later, after no physical contact and the odd brief conversation, he crammed his finger as far into my navel as he could (though two layers of clothing, thank goodness, so it wasn't far). I said I didn't want to play that game anymore, so please stop. He didn't. I caught him staring at me, looking agitated and fidgety several times, and he kept trying to stuff his finger into my navel. I had to say, "You will not touch me again" several times before he finally stopped, and I just didn't hang out around that side of the circle, anymore. I still see him when all of our friends get together, but it's once every three-ish years and we don't talk beyond initial greetings.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Not really, but a guy on a bus once hit on me after asking what gender I was.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[forgottenjester]

Yeah. It wasn't as bad as any of the other people's stuff here and the guy honestly didn't know any better. I almost feel like it isn't worth mentioning but I figure there are varying levels of creepyness and if someone is dealing with something right now that isn't "as bad" as the others here they should know that it doesn't matter if it's not "as bad" as the practically criminal stuff other people here are talking about. They still shouldn't have to deal with it, no matter what level of creeper they have to deal with.

So this guy used to follow me around. Like, he would follow me all day around school and only be a few feet away at max. He also would try to gift me things. He almost dominated any conversation we were in in order to earn my affection. He stood too close and couldn't take any hint I wasn't interested. Occasionally he would say inappropriate things that scared me. (This was his rarest trait.) He denied what he was doing.

I tried a few things but the best option, for me, was to be very direct about it. Unfortunately I was too chicken shit at the time to do that myself so I had my friends help me. They confronted him and told him what he was doing was not cool. He wised up, was extremely embarrassed, and never did that to any girl ever again. We're still friends and I think not only did he learn from it but I did too. I learned about being more direct and about relying on other people when you need to. (Something that was hard for me at the time.) His social skills have only improved over the years and he even apologized to me.

So that's my really benign story.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[silverau]

I have had so many. o___0 I don't think I'm capable of attracting normal people.

The most recent one was a 30-year-old guy who started hitting on me when I was barely 18 and asked me out like 20 times... he seemed to think that "No, I don't like you that way" meant "I want to get to know you better." Whenever I said anything like "Look, I said no, you can't force me to change my mind by asking me over and over" he laughed condescendingly and said "Haha, American women always say that."

Silly American women, thinking they have the right to say "no" to a man and everything... I was kind of scared of him after that but I felt like I had to be nice to him anyway because we had class together, worked together, and lived in the same dorm and I saw him everywhere. Thankfully he graduated and went back to his home country...

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I had a friend several years back that slowly saw me as something more. I don't think he was being intentional about it, but after awhile I realized that he was being super clingy. Like we shared the same major so he was in almost all of my classes, would get there early, talked to me the second I walked through the door so I didn't have the opportunity to make any new friends, etc. His hand started to brush up against mine every once in awhile as we walked from place to place and it just felt disgusting.

I didn't even realize how bad it'd gotten until the annual local scifi con and I went with my band friends the first day and him the next. The first day was full of tempers and drama since there were about eight of us, and yet at the end of the day I'd had so much fun. The second day everything felt so restricted and just... it felt like he was escorting/guarding me, rather than taking part things for his own enjoyment (and he was a geek so it wasn't like a dragged him), but overall I just felt... watched? I don't know how to fully describe it.

Anyways, I pretty much panicked and the next day or so told him super bluntly that - while I enjoyed his friendship - I'd never see him in that way. I still feel guilty about that; I don't regret the confession, but I could've been a lot softer in my words. Oh and I said I need some temporary space.

After that is when things pretty much rolled downhill.

He didn't come to class the next day. Cornered me in a hallway the day after to clarify what I meant and how long was "temporary". (I apologized for the bad wording then, but didn't back down from my meaning since it was the truth.) The day after that he told me that he hadn't eaten or slept since my original confession. Oh, and he asked me if he could still drop by on my birthday that weekend (WHICH I NEVER INVITED HIM TO IN THE FIRST PLACE). Didn't talk to me for the rest of the week.

Next Monday he asked if I'd accompany him to his car (which was on the edge of campus and about a 20min walk there and a separate 20min back) and got offended when I said 'no'. He then waited almost two hours for me after my final lab of the day to give me a birthday present, a hand-knitted Dalek plushie. I debated on taking it or not since I knew each choice was super loaded with how he'd perceive it and was about to accept it when he asked me, and I quote, "when the fuck are you going to get over this shit?"

I essentially blew up at him, 99% of my guilt flying out the window right then and there. I shoved the Dalek plushie straight back at him and told him he could do whatever he wanted with it as well as a bunch of other stuff I can't remember too well anymore. He didn't come to school at all for the next week and when he did, thank god, he simply ignored me.

All things considered, it could've gone a lot smoother, but it also could've gone a lot lot worse. I think I lucked out as far as bad one-sided experiences go while still being able to carry all the lessons I learned from it.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I get inappropriate comments from men more than twice my age quite often, which is mostly uncomfortable, but not really creepy.

There has been a couple of incidents that has really creeped me out however. The worst being when a guy made creepy comments and then proceeded to stalk me around a mall for about an hour. It was so creepy, and even though I managed to lose him a couple of times I just saw him looking around after something, and lightening up if he caught sight of me. The most creepy part of it was that he had these squeaky boots, so I knew if he was after me. Let's just say that that squeaky sound has haunted my nightmares more than once.

Luckily, this was quite an isolated experience for me. I can't even imagine how horrible it must be to have a full-time stalker:(

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

There was this one person who basically tried to worm her way into what felt like my entire LJ social circle at the time. She friended me one day, along with quite a few of my friends, and proceeded to comment on every LJ post I made afterwards. Something about her made me feel uncomfortable, so I just never replied, but she commented on Every. Single. Post.

She said some vaguely inappropriate things, but it wasn't until she made a journal entry about how she wanted to write a fic that would trigger people that shit finally hit the fan and I ended up blocking her. I have since come to believe that she really didn't understand what "trigger" actually means, but she continually gave off such creepster vibes that I'm more than happy to be done with her either way.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[diet_poison]

Oh man, I have no stories as bad as most on here, but I have one that's still creepy.

When I hit college, all of a sudden it was like all the dudes noticed I was a woman. I'd had a grand total one one person (my then-long-term-boyfriend) ever admit any attraction to me in high school, and only one other person who I had reason to think was attracted to me.

I'm sure part of the reason is that I often hang out in nerdy spaces dominated by guys - namely, Yu-Gi-Oh! (the number of men/boys whose thought process goes "likes YGO, has rudimentary tits and nice face? SO HAWT" is staggering) - but it's happened in other places too, like work. Usually though it's nbd. There was one dude, though, who I met through a YGO friend. We had a group of friends who hung out a few times a couple summers ago. This dude was at the local card shop I go to for tourneys and my friend and I were joking; we had a "soap opera" going on with some of us where we pretended I was "married" to him and his wife was "married" to another friend in the group (it was really silly and completely un-serious) and he made a silly comment like "that's no way to treat your husband!" The creepy dude was like "wait" and I laughed and said "I'm not really married to him; it's a joke. In fact he's married to someone else." And the dude was like "oh, good. Raichu's mine."* I think my jaw just about hit the floor - like, "excuse you?!?!?"

After that when we went to the park and I hung out with another male friend he got really jealous and said he didn't like the other friend (who I wasn't doing anything with but HANGING OUT).

Oh, and there was yet another dude - connected to the same group - who asked me out online through his brother and got really offended when I said no, to the point of being angry at me and taking it out on me later with rude remarks.

I never felt threatened by any of this, but the level of entitlement some dudes have towards women is mind-boggling. I'm not an object you can buy at a store, so FUCK OFF.

*actual dialogue - my nickname in that group was Raichu, which is also my online handle in most places

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

oh dear god yes. in my college years I had to give myself the title of Creep Magnet because that seemed to be the order of my entire life.

it didn't help that I was also a radio dj, on a small station in a small midwestern market, so I also attracted creepy fans on top of regular run of the mill creeps. one snuck into the studio before my shift one day (the building had multiple businesses in it, so there were public entrances) and left a rose on the mixing board with a note hoping we could date. I freaked out and ran to the PD and we instituted a policy to watch our entrance much better.

but I also had this reeeaally creepy dude with no boundaries living in the apartment beneath mine. He tried to hit on me multiple times when I was downstairs doing my laundry, and also tried to invite himself into my apartment to "listen to me practice" when I was derping around with a guitar one day. he wasn't the only one, but he was the most persistent and I felt so good the day I finally moved out of that apartment.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I had a fling with a guy a couple of years ago. I made it abundantly clear that it was purely physical and short-term, and he agreed. When it was over, and I was back to my own continent, he started emailing me lots. He started begging me to be in a relationship with him, telling me he'd move to my city and get a job there, that he'd be in it for the longterm etc etc and it just freaked me out. I told him no again and again, that I wasn't interested in a relationship as I'd told him, and he'd relent for a bit before starting up again.

I swear this guy was not rational in the least. He even tried to convince me at one point that he didn't want to move to my city because of me, but my city has literally NOTHING interesting, no job opportunities, it's a small-as-shit little town in buttfuck nowhere Canada. Yeah right.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

Yes. I was (not very seriously more like a parody) RPing and someone glomped onto me because she felt were *sparklesparkleSOULMATESsparklesparkle* and wanted to know who I was IRL so we could chat on AIM and talk about [insert all her favorite non-fandom subjects here] and she could send me homemade cookies and we could be BFFs 4-evah, etc.

I shit you not. It would've been weird and embarrassing if it'd been a teenager but it was a grown ass woman. She was very huffy when I put her off and wouldn't tell her my real name or address but JFC COME ON LADY QUIT CREEPING.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[omorka]

Back in high school, one kid developed a crush on me based solely on us both being nerds and my being willing to talk to him about his particular nerdy obsessions (mostly '80s cartoons, IIRC). He then proceeded to follow me around like a puppy dog for three weeks. I never did much about it, because (a) I was actively pursuing someone else, which I figured was an obvious hint, and (b) this kid pinged my embryonic gaydar so hard I was pretty sure he'd stop once he realized I really was a chick. As it happened, someone in the other kid's social circles pranked him, making him think I was waiting for him in the computer labs and then stood him up; by the time I head about it the next day, the poor kid had talked himself out of his crush. (He didn't come out of the closet until five years later.)

There's also a clerk at the local guitar store who leers at me, calls me "baby," and randomly discounts things when I shop there. He doesn't actually follow me around the store, but he stares at me the entire time I'm in there; he does this to a couple of other ladies in our social circle, too, but not all of us. I stopped going except when I'll be there with several male companions and the guy who does the ordering for the store (who's a friend of a friend) will be there, too.

Re: Any creepy admirers, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I write a lot of PWP (maybe 60-75% of what I write), and I guess I'm pretty popular in my little corner of fandom, so maybe this is just a thing everyone in situation gets? idk.

Anyway, people like to anon me their sex stories. Either stuff detailing how I made them so hot they had to go wake up their SO to fuck their brains out (details excised to save your brains) or stories about that one time they were tied up and teased/spanked/fucked/whatever the hell my story was about.

All my friends find it funny, but I'm starting to think I should just stop writing fic entirely. That shit is creepy over my morning coffee.