[ SECRET POST #3317 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3317 ⌋

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[D.Gray-man - Miranda Lotto]


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[The Thick of It]


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[Golden Kamui]


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(The Lost Boys)


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[Marble Hornets/troyhasacamera]


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[@midnight with Chris Hardwick]



















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Comments

Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Background: I am do webcamming. I have a boyfriend. These two things are incidental of eachother. Until tonight. So I get a new client and it's all fairly standard stuff. Badly spelled instructions along the line of "show me ur tits" "Pussy now" etc. All very stereotypical.

Then he signs off by calling me the pet name my boyfriend has for me. I call my boyfriend, and give him my very loud thoughts on what just happened and he says "It was jut for tuggs and giggles." and laughs it off and makes fucking jokes about it, like it was not a massive creepy invasion of my fucking privacy.

I'm not wrong to be furious about this, am I? That's fucking not, OK, right?

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

I'd be pissed.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[herpymcderp]

Sounds like your boyfriend should be an ex boyfriend.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

super creepy

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[(Anonymous)]

If it bothers you, it bothers you, but it doesn't seem horribly out of line to me. Unless you're embarrassed about what you do, hadn't told him and he found you there by happenstance.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

I would say that that invalidates your consent for whatever you did on cam. You were deceived into thinking it was a stranger, when it wasn't. t's like the 'bed-trick' in reverse

(frozen comment) Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. Not OK. definitely a super creeper move.

Post his telephone number or other details here and lets find out how he likes having his private and on-line lives crash together.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

"show me ur tits" "Pussy now"

Ugh. Seriously, men really disgust me sometimes. And this is a man you're sharing your life with who talks to you like this? End that fucking relationship now and tell the world what a vile shit he is.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

It was a very ill-considered joke, I feel.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Invasion of my privacy...

Your putting your bits out for anybody who pays to see them. He didn't invade shit.

(frozen comment) Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

If you have any dick-pics of him that's worth sharing, you can always show him why what he did was not acceptable. Share them with us then show him the thread.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

You do porn for a living, it is basically a risk that someone is going to know you. Like, for all you know a relative has wanked off to you.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Minimum: he is messing at you at work and that is not okay. I would also feel like its an invasion of my privacy, but I guess that's a person to person thing.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

You deserve better.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Did you at least get paid?

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[(Anonymous)]

^
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Why I only fuck chicks.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe you shouldn't have made him a cuck?

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, I can see you being pissed off about it but...

If you're doing webcam stuff with the buffer of 'anonymous' clients, then that's kind of the risk you take. That someone you know and/or love will see. If you didn't want him to ever see your 'job' then that should have been laid out on the table beforehand. It's not an invasion of privacy if it's not private.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

I think you're right to be annoyed, but not much more than that. If I were a barista, I wouldn't be furious and feel invaded if my boyfriend came and ordered a coffee.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

it's definitely insensitive and a bit sexist at best. you should confront him and tell him it wasn't funny for you and that blending work and your relationship with him doesn't feel safe.

do it calmly and if he still reacts by laughing it off (if he hasn't done so already- I'm giving the benefit of the doubt here that you might not have made it clear, although it didn't sound like that), then give him a warning/dump him.

Clarification?

[(Anonymous)]

I see a lot of people making assumptions, and I'm wondering what is accurate. Did he know what you did and deliberately seek you out without revealing his identity until the end or was he looking for cams, saw yours and decided to give it a go?

Either way it was pretty disrespectful, and I'm sorry it happened to you.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

I would feel very invaded and super creeped out. He may have not meant it to be creepy, I don't know. But yeah, you guys need to talk.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

Here's a thought: set some ground rules with your boyfriend. Calmly explain that work is work and personal time is not and that your boyfriend needs to stay firmly on the personal side of the divide if he wants to maintain the relationship.

THIS IS ON YOU.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think he had any idea you would flip out at this. This whole thing is about your personally defined boundaries, and your lack of communication about them, and your overreaction to his behavior.

You need to explain to him that your boyfriend taking time away from paying clients is a problem for you and why.

Re: Well that was not ok.

[(Anonymous)]

You're not wrong. It upset you, and you have every right to want to draw a boundary between your cam work and your personal life. That's a perfectly logical boundary to draw, IMO. If your boyfriend isn't sorry that his "joke" upset you, then he's a terrible boyfriend.

I want to make it clear that even if he didn't know ahead of time that you wouldn't want him to pull a stunt like that, the fact that he thinks it was a great idea shows poor judgment and the fact that he wasn't mortified and apologetic that his "joke" backfired tells you a lot about his character and how much your feelings mean to him. I agree, he probably ought to be an ex.