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⌈ Secret Post #2265 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

04. http://i.imgur.com/2q2f4Ap.png

[quantumreality]

Aw, OP! :( I don't know what to say that would make you feel better, except that I think the people bullying you about your weight are assholes.

[(Anonymous)]

Look, what do you want us to say? The cosplay community is not the most welcoming one and some are known to be extremely unpleasant about any cosplay that is less than perfect (I'm not saying ALL cosplayers are like that, but there are plenty of cosplayers who are) and yes, if you are overweight and you cosplay a character (which, less face it, is most likely no overweight) you're going to be laughed at by strangers.

The thing is, you're already laughed at by stranger even without cosplaying.

I won't say 'just don't give a fuck', because you obviously do. I guess you should learn not to, and it is hard to do, but it's the only way.

[(Anonymous)]

Pretty much. Unless OP gains more confidence, they are just going to get depressed by any negative comments they might get. And people who say that doctors bully them tend to have rather bad self-esteem to begin with.

[elaminator]

On one hand I want to say "You should do it anyway" because who gives a shit what other people think? But if you feel you couldn't enjoy cosplaying because of your anxiety, I also don't think it would be good to force yourself into it either.

So...idk. If you ever decide to give it a shot, good luck. Maybe one day you'll be comfortable enough to try it.

Also, whoever decided to bully you because of your weight is an asshole.

[(Anonymous)]

Why not try cosplaying as a heavier character?

[(Anonymous)]

Not the OP but the problem with that is most not all heavier characters are either the comic friend/sidekick, meant to be a comic relief/aren't taken seriously, or are the bad people. Sometimes we want to play the hero too even if we don't have a 'perfect' body.

[insanenoodlyguy]

Sadly, cosplay is not for you. At least not now.

Even the good looking ones are going to bee seen as idiots/attention/whores etc by somebody. And probably told that because people are assholes.

Here's hoping, however, you change (things won't, but you can) one day to a point where you are happy enough with yourself to not give a shit anymore except about how much fun you could have with it.

[(Anonymous)]

There are a few plus size cosplay groups on tumblr you might want to check out. I used to feel the same way you do and seeing other fat people in cosplay has helped boost my confidence. The main one I follow is http://cosfluff101.tumblr.com/.

[(Anonymous)]

This Lumpy Space Princess is amazing. (http://cosfluff101.tumblr.com/post/45158808532/series-adventure-time-source-cosfluff-facebook)

[(Anonymous)]

Do a great job on your costume, make it fit right, present yourself as "this is what X character would look like if they were fat, and were ok with being fat" and you will do all right.

Some people might still laugh at you, but you'll have a lot of admirers as well. Some people might laugh at you and admire you both at the same time.

If you do a half-assed job on your costume, or if it doesn't fit, the scorn you earn for those reasons is probably going to get applied to your body as well.

[cloud_riven]

I hope you can work on your self-confidence :(

Do you think cosplaying with your girlfriend would work as a buffer with her supporting you, and a way to keep the focus away from other's negativity? Still, I believe in you, OP!

[(Anonymous)]

I understand your pain. I wish I had a good solution but bullying the fat kid is still acceptable in society.

[(Anonymous)]

Are you hunting for a bout of back-patting encouragement? Look elsewhere. The first place you've got to go for self-worth is your own damn self. If you're comfortable with yourself, that counts for a lot. Hell; the best, prettiest princess version Sailor Moon I ever saw was _not_ a stick. But she rocked that costume anyway.

Or, you know, if you're really that upset about it, just lose weight. Or something.

[charming_stranger]

Are you even trying to be helpful?

[(Anonymous)]

If you can't add anything to the conversation why don't you just shut up or something.

[(Anonymous)]

Body- and face-concealing costumes, baby. They're fun to make, too.

[(Anonymous)]

Aww OP I'm so so sorry. My family also tells me that I need to lose weight as if being fat is the worst thing that can happen to our family so I can relate. If I can suggest, try to focus on things that you like about yourself. It can be your hair, your hands, your smile, your ability to be patient, just try to focus on what you think you have that makes you happy to be alive. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful. It sounds super corny but it's helped me a lot. I know I'm not what society calls pretty but fuck society and all these shallow people who think that they can judge a person solely on how they look just she THEY can feel better about their own shallow insecurities. As long as I feel good about myself, then FUCK THEM. Try to keep positive. Embrace yourself and love yourself and if you want to make changes, whether it be try to lose weight or get a new haircut or wardrobe, go for it with a positive attitude. Or if you don't think you need to change anything about yourself, embrace your beauty, inside and out. Focus on how you feel about your own body and beauty for now, and maybe one day you can feel more confident in cosplaying. BTW I've seem some overweight cosplayers who look awesome and I bet they didn't get ridiculed or laughed at. Or if they did, I hope they were able to shrug it off and remember that shallow assholes aren't worth giving a thought about. Best of luck OP. Sorry this got really long and ranty and...filled with corny positive "love yourself" speeches. I didn't mean for it to happen.

[(Anonymous)]

I hope you find the self-confidence to do it! There are some really awesome overweight cosplayers out there!

[(Anonymous)]

I'm going to be searching for actual recommendations now. So far all I've found is "You should be fine as long as you avoid revealing or skintight outfits." You could probably get away with cosplaying a male character better than a female one, because the focus is (usually) less on their body, but any female character who dresses in modest/loose clothing would work. Here's a thread: http://www.cosplay.com/showthread.php?t=81205

I hope OP is watching this thread, otherwise I'll feel like an idiot.

[(Anonymous)]

I think what'll help you the most isn't our words of encouragement, but for you to actively do something about your situation! Your body is actually something you can work on; heck, it should be your life investment. I know several friends who had body image issues and depression as a result for a long time, but they eventually took control of their situation, fixed their diet and worked out, and they've slimmed and even toned down so much, and they really are much happier. On the other side of the spectrum, I also know some really great cosplayers who are super thin and attractive-- and I've come to realize that they too have to work hard for their shape, and they have their own body image troubles they're dealing with as well. All in all, everyone's working hard, and not accepting defeatism as their only option.

I think it'll be fulfilling for you to actively seek a solution, rather than "wait" for things to get better.

Hugs, and best wishes!

[(Anonymous)]

I'm going to be blunt here OP, you have two choices.
1. Accept that you can't cosplay slimmer characters without being the butt of jokes and stick to larger ones or don't cosplay at all.
2. Lose weight.
The best thing you can do is the second one. Cut sugar and processed food out of your diet, eat less meat and dairy, more vegetables. Exercise.

If you want to do it you'll find a way, otherwise you'll find an excuse.

[(Anonymous)]

If you don't have thick skin, you're just setting yourself up for a rough day. Even "gorgeous" cosplayers get snickers and you gotta be able to say fuck the haters. Cosplay is all about getting attention so maybe just it'll never be your thing.

[(Anonymous)]

Here's the deal: I'm usually horribly shy and socially awkward. I'm also fat. However, when I'm in cosplay all of this disappears. I'm proud of every photo and every complement. I'm a bit of a camera whore, truth be told.

However, I don't look myself up online afterwards. Maybe it's because I only go so smaller conventions, but I've never experienced the viciousness everyone is talking about. In my experience, if someone doesn't like my costume they'll just pass their way rather than insult me.

If you want to cosplay here's what you do: make a costume you feel fabulous in. If you're not comfortable in it, then there is no point to go out wearing it. Go with a friend/friends. Have a good time. Don't look yourself up online afterwards.

Cosplaying can be a great self-confidence boost but you have to do it right.

[(Anonymous)]

Fuck the haters, if you want to cosplay do it, I'm over weight and I'm cosplaying. Do it cause it makes you happy! People who say nasty things about your weight aren't worth your fucking time no matter who they are

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