[ SECRET POST #4374 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4374 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Disney/Doctor Who crossover]


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03.
[Avatar: The Last Airbender]


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04.
(Markiplier and his friend Wade)


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05.
[Dumplin' on Netflix]


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06.
[Daredevil]


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07.
[Criminal Minds S03E13 "Limelight"]










Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 27 secrets from Secret Submission Post #626.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

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[(Anonymous)]

Share your secrets

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[cakemage]

I shot a man in Reno just to watch him die.

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[kamino_neko]

I've never understood how he was imprisoned in California for a crime in Nevada.

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm working on a Secret Santa fic three hours before the deadline.

Not the Yuletide anon from a few weeks ago.

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[(Anonymous)]

Good luck, anon! Hope you made the deadline.

(What's Yuletide btw?)

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[(Anonymous)]

Hey, Yuletide Anon here got the fic done two days before the deadline! Maybe not a good fic, but a fic done all the same.

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm in a community for self-published authors but I haven't actually self-published anything yet. I bought a pre-made book cover from a site and it's been over a month and I didn't get the cover yet. The site says if you don't get it within a couple of days, email them. So I did. And they haven't responded. I want to post about this on the community but I'm weirdly anxious about it? I'm not sure what to do.

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[(Anonymous)]

Just post just post just post

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[(Anonymous)]

Absolutely post. You don't have to do a big call out, just state the facts like you told us and ask for other people's experiences.

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[(Anonymous)]

You could email again first, wait a few days, and then if you still don't get a response post about it on the community.

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[(Anonymous)]

I like when people assume I'm a dude online but I'm fine with being a woman irl.

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[(Anonymous)]

I like when people assume I'm a woman online but I'm fine being a man IRL.

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[thewakokid]

When I eventually do kill myself I think I can be pretty confident it will because I am no longer able to convince myself that the way feminists think about men is the fringe viewpoint.

I Watched a video about the twitter thread "Women, what would you do if men disappeared for a day?", and when I see all these women utterly convinced that all this great evil in the world is because of me and people like me and they believe that it's just... inherent in men and if men would just disappear all the evil would vanish... well when I see this it just makes me want to open my fucking skull, you know?

I think if I thought this was the way women as a whole thought about men, I might just fucking do it. As it is, delusional or not, I think I can convince myself that this is just an insane fringe feminist belief and most people don't think of me like that.

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[(Anonymous)]

It's mainstream in fandom, but I'd say it's fringe in society as a whole.

I know how you feel because I have to continually remind myself that mainstream culture is not as batshit far left as fandom, or I'd definitely fall into a deep depression.

I think the average person is pretty moderate. I think most women have fathers, brothers, husbands, etc. who are good people, and they love them dearly and would be very sorry if they disappeared for even a day. I know I would.

The type of attitude you're describing is clearly born of abuse. Sometimes it may seem like abuse is the norm, but I don't think it is. I think most people do the best they can.

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[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, you may be too engrained in the online sphere.That type of thinking isn’t common, but the internet has a way of elevating the voices of fringe groups- and when you spend a lot of time in the netosphere, it feels like the fringe voices are the loudest ones. But as a woman, most women don’t think that way. They do think that misogyny is real, but not that all men are horrible monsters who create all the evil in the world. That kind of rhetoric is largely performative. It’s not real.

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[(Anonymous)]

You definitely sound like the kind of person that women would love to not have to interact with, and that's why it struck such a nerve with you. Suicide is not a good option though. Try reaching out and getting help instead.

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[(Anonymous)]

So, like. I think this is more about your own mental health issues than it is about feminism as such. I don't say that to blame it on you in any way - mental health issues are no picnic, I know that. But I think they are separate things.

and with regards to feminism, I think your interpretation of feminism is not necessarily correct as a result of that. Obviously, I can't generalize too much here, and there probably are feminists who think that men are intrinsically evil, but it's not something that you have to believe in order to be a feminist, nor is it really a mainstream view. The point is more that men (and women) are socialized in some really deeply-rooted ways that are deeply shitty to both genders, and also that society as a whole is structured in ways that are fundamentally inequitable and advantageous to men, and that this affects the way that all of us see the world and act in it.

And when it comes to something like "if all the men were gone" - I think the point is less that biological-masculinity is the actual cause of all those problems, and more that the existence of those deeply gendered structures, and men being around to act out those structures, has impacts on an everyday level even in ways that might be invisible to you or me. It's a testament to how pervasive and influential those social structures are, not to anything intrinsic in male nature. Men and women are socialized to believe in certain fundamental ideas and act in certain ways; men and women act within certain social structures; they make decisions based on those ideas and those structures; and the cumulative effect of those decisions can be absolutely massive in its impact on lived existence, even though each individual choice can seem extremely small or even invisible to the person making it. So talking about if "men were gone" is more of a thought experiment to examine the effect that those structures have, as carried out by the individual choices that men make. It's not about some kind of fundamental curse inherent to maleness.

That's not to say that all men are necessarily good, either. Men are still individual human beings. Feminism doesn't rely on men all being evil as a general class of human being in order to operate. And structures and socialization aren't permanent - you can recognize the existence of those structures, you can recognize the patriarchal concepts in your own mind, you can critically examine yourself, and you can change the way that you think and act. And ultimately, we can do all of that on a societal level. That's really the point of saying that none of these things are intrinsic.

I think there are good reasons for people of any gender to be feminists, and I also hope you get any help you need to live a really happy, decent life.

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[(Anonymous)]

How about you get help instead of blaming the eeeeeviiiiiil feminists for all your problems?

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[(Anonymous)]

Jfc I thought you were gone.

You have always. Always. Always. Sought out inflammatory "fringe feminism" to stoke your own coals about how feminists are evil man-haters and oh poor you, you poor man. It is fucking disgusting. It is the worst kind of wallowing self-pity, in the absolute most literal use of the word "wallow", like a pig in its own shit. Pathetically waiting for someone to feel guilty enough to clean you up, just before you tromp back into the pile.

Men are fine. You are the problem.

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[(Anonymous)]

I hate christmas and I hate everyone talking about their gift haul because it just further reinforces that it's not about peace on earth or love or whatever other fluffy bullshit people say, it's about getting yours.

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[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes as a lesbian I do get bummed that sex without a penis is often logistically trickier, and doesn’t provide mutual genital stimulation. Like... I wish I could just try having a penis to fuck my girlfriend just once you know?

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[(Anonymous)]

I met two people at a Christmas party and thought they were a really cute couple, being all cuddly and sweet the whole time. Afterwards I found out they weren't a couple and had only met each other at that party, and suddenly the way they'd acted with each other started to creep me out a little. After learning that, I automatically got the feeling that the man had initiated everything with this woman he'd just met and she had played along to avoid causing a scene. I don't know if I'm overreacting. Is this a more rational assumption than that they both were acting voluntarily because they'd hit it off together immediately?

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[(Anonymous)]

The longer I don't get a reply from that artist I commissioned while still seeing her tweet, the angrier I get about this whole mess.

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[(Anonymous)]

my friend wants to host a giant birthday bash for my 30th birthday next year and.... i do not want her to.
The parties she throws are nice and fun to attend as a guest but i really do not want one of these for my own.

Told her i don't want a big party and only want to do like a fancy restaurant dinner and radio silence since then. :/

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[(Anonymous)]

I honestly get weirded out when straight women obsesses over which ostensibly straight dudes top or bottom with each other.