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I was recently talking to a friend, and they confided this with me, and we both realised that we weren't unique in this. I'm curious now how common this actually is.

Neither of us had homophobic parents, speaking from religious worry or anything, they just thought we were gay and tried to encourage us to "be ourselves".

Maybe? But my schoolmates did because I used to get into huge arguments about gay rights. Oh the beauty of growing up in a small Southern town.

Actually, it's not unique to a southern towns - sorry to shatter your stereotypes.

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Yes.

My mother was half right tho (but doesn't know it).

Hel when I was like sixteen she tried to set me up on a date, without me knowing that's what it was. Which got awkward. Still one of her favourite anecdotes to tell the girlfriends she's met.

...Kind of I think. I never really understood if she actually thought I was a lesbian, or was hoping I was a lesbian because for some reason she apparently thinks being a lesbian would change my life long desire to never have kids and make me want to have children, or adopt or something... She actually said something along those lines to me, but can't quite remember because I've done my best to block it out.

Of course this was right after her favorite child had died, and she was trying to guilt trip me into getting knocked up because she was certain being a grandmother would make her happy and didn't give a shit about my feelings on the matter.

...Sorry that got a little TMI...

Not me, but I knew a girl in college whose parents were "worried" she was gay. She was straight but they didn't believe her.

In don't know for sure, but I sometimes wonder if they do or used to. I couldn't get a date as a teenager (terrible skin and a terminal case of dork-itis) but had too much pride to ever complain or act sad about it. My friends and I weren't really into gushing over teen idols or people we had crushes on at school, so my parents never had any way to get wind of whether I might have crushes and, if so, on whom. Then I moved away for college and never came back except to visit, so once I actually did manage to get a date, I lived far away and my parents wouldn't know unless I told them. For the most part, they didn't know, because we had no precedent for discussing my romantic life so I just didn't say anything. I have been in very few relationships and none of them lasted long. They've been, in general, literally nothing to write home about. It wasn't until I was 25 that I actually bothered mentioning that I had started seeing a guy (who promptly broke up with me a few weeks later) and my parents finally had confirmation that I was actually interested in the opposite sex. I sometimes wonder if, up until then, they thought I might be a closeted lesbian or asexual. That was years ago I haven't mentioned any relationships since.

SA

I suppose, alternatively, they could think I'm getting laid with random dudes all the dang time and just never said. I dunno.

Maybe? (What my parents think of me rarely makes sense and I frequently get the impression that they're making massive assumptions about me and not bothering to talk to me and have them confirmed.) Pretty sure my dad thought my female best friend was gay for a while, though, and she and I are pretty sure that the lesbian couple who used to run our favorite restaurant thought we were together.

Not sure if it counts, since I didn't really know myself at the time (I'm still none too sure which label I'm actually going to go with but definitely not straight >_>) but yeah. They actually did the whole sitting me down for a talk thing and everything.

It wasn't our parents, but one of my close friends and I are very affectionate with each other, and a mutual friend's mom apparently thought we were dating for a while. I am still weirdly proud of that.

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Yes. My mother said she thought for a while that I was actually secretly going out with my best friend.

Background: I'm ace and never have been in a relationship (and don't plan to) - I never said this quite so directly but I hinted at it. One day, she got into her old spiel about wanting grandkids and everything and I told her she would have to talk to my brother about that because I definitely don't want kids. Then, after lots of talk about how relationships are great and how children can help you find purpose in your life (and how the daughter of a friend was miraculously cured from her bipolar disorder after having a kid *hint hint nudge nudge*) she basically got down to "not being interested in sex and relationships isn't a thing and not normal" and that she would even be happy if I was a lesbian instead. Everything is better than not having a relationship and sex in her eyes.

One time, when my dad got angry with me over something stupid (i was very much an outspoken teen, very liberal, etc while my dad was from the generation of "seen and not heard" and he was a Repubby), he got mad at me and accused me of being an Atheist Lesbian.

All because, at that point in my life, I had never had a boyfriend and, as far as he knew, I never had crushes on guys. I never told him about my interests in guys cause he's one of those who makes jokes or teases to a point that isn't funny and either hurts or just annoys the ever living shit out of you.

Needless to say, I'm not a lesbian (happily with an old guy friend of mine), and I'm an Agnostic. :P

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Yep. :) My mother cornered me when I was in my second year of college and told me that it was okay if I was a lesbian and that she loved me anyway, and would like to meet any nice girl I brought home. Came completely out of left field to me, but was probably motivated by the fact my best friend was usually my "date" to any family function. I think it was really nice of her, actually, and my dad didn't seem to care either way. So, you know, I kind of wish someone who was actually gay had been lucky enough to get my parents.

Well yeah, and they were right. But before I confirmed it they only encouraged me once in a very vague "we'll love you no matter who you are" speech.

Yep. tricky thing is I still like cock, but I'm genderqueer/trans/whatever tumblr snowflake label applies. Haven't told them that part yet. So while "no, mom, I don't like girls that way" is accurate, the truth is probably too complicated to get into.

almost everyone I meet assumes I'm gay for some reason. Idk.

A friend of mine's dad was convinced he was gay in high school and kept telling him that it was okay and that he accepted him. My friend still isn't sure how his dad came to the conclusion that he was struggling to come out to him but all has been cleared now.

my mom once told me a lesbian she knew claimed that she could tell if people were attracted to women by how they acted around her, and I am 90% sure this was aimed at my awkward 16 year old self (and anyway she was hella fucking sexy and I don't even think you'd need to be interested in women to react to it)
Though I've dated women I'm mostly interested in men and I kind of wonder about her internal thought process. Part of me thinks she wanted to have a gay kid to make her edgier/cooler or something.

I think my mum thinks I'm gay because I've never been in a serious relationship and she started referring to my future "partner", not husband.

I mean I am bisexual when it comes to sex/attraction, though I'm basically romantically straight (I've only ever really fallen for men). So while I appreciate her not assuming anything about who I'll end up with (it's nice of her) I'm preeetty sure I'll end up with a man.

I think my parents assume I'm straight. It's something of a lost cause.

I expressed support for gay rights, I'm a feminist, I don't have a desire to have children, and I haven't had a serious boyfriend yet. According to my parents, this means I must be a lesbian.

I'll do you one better. My mom thinks I'm trans FTM (or at least want to be) because I have no problem shopping in the men's section, I crossdress for fun sometimes, and find men in dresses cool. I also just enjoy genderplay in general and think it's interesting. I've never dated and am in my early 20s and she kind of conflates anything queer together so the possibility of me being a lesbian only emphasizes that I could be trans.

I'm not. It's actually a little funny because when I go out I dress the girliest out of all my friends. I'm just a CIS girl who's probably straight. Again, I haven't dated but it seems likely.

I've tried to set her straight a few times but she denies that she thinks this way when it's plainly obvious she does. For goodness sakes, she still makes fucking snide comments about it and implies it all the time.

*shrug* What can you do?

Late to the game. For me, it's kinda the opposite. I'm a gay guy and my best friend is a straight girl. Never had family members do it, but strangers mistake us for a couple all the time just because we're close.

My mom once asked if I'm trans. Same idea.

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