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So today at work I was looking up something online and saw where there had been another school shooting. I mentioned it to a coworker, and a customer who was there with her (elementary school aged) kid bitched me out because how dare I mention such a thing in front of her kid. The same woman has lectured me in the past because I jokingly made a reference to a ghost and her kid was in the same room.

If she wants to shelter her kid from the world, that's her choice. I think it's idiotic, but it's her right. But she can't go around telling the rest of society how they're allowed to behave and what they're allowed to say in front of her precious snowflake.

And my boss is apparently the last person in the world to have a "the customer is always right" attitude so I couldn't have told her off and kept my job, but it was fucking frustrating.

This woman is difficult and incredibly entitled in general (her kid is a total brat but the mother believes her little angel is perfect and would never do anything wrong) but today just really pissed me off.

Grrr.

Anyone else have anything they want to vent about?

I was supposed to go in to have my back worked on my a massage therapist today, but when I got there, my name wasn't actually in the system, and the receptionist that I had called had given me an appointment with the wrong kind of medical professional and the wrong time in the wrong building for the wrong reason.

I am still a bit put out.

Wtf? I hope you talked to her supervisor or something. That's ridiculous!

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I was working in retail but recently left the job (which is why I can go on F!S early and actually comment woo), but I got really frustrated with people a lot, and I'm normally very optimistic. I just hate when people aren't nice to the employees at a place, or when corporate makes a decision they have to get all passive agressive and mean to me about it, when I did squat.

I left my job for a few reasons, but another was because it was really frustrating how the management expected us to do everything. I worked at a store with two floors and two check out areas because of that. Sales floor staff was expected to do their job AND to respond to the check out areas whenever they didn't schedule enough people to take care of it. So I would go and help out whenever I could, but then when my sales floor work got behind because of it they would get kind of annoying about THAT. On one of my last days I was helping out at the downstairs check out area when they requested help at the upstairs one. One of the management people got mad because I didn't respond to the upstairs one. When I was already working downstairs.

My job situation isn't the greatest now, but god I'm glad I left that place.

I used to have to work in three physical areas at once (shoes, register, and catalogue orders) because it was a small store and I could run from one place to the other if I saw somewhere there. That's how my manager reasoned it. It was the worst though, because people would super pissed if someone wasn't standing IN the shoe dept. or AT the register or if they knew I saw them in another area but had to wait because I was with someone else.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-10-22 01:59 (UTC) - Expand

Reading some notalwaysright.com might help cheer you up

Um no. Your boss is like many a boss.

I ate too much sugar in the last 24 hours and I am totally regretting it now.

To be fair I was on vacation until this afternoon but holy wow I'm totally crashing...

Oh god. I ate like a pound of cheese this weekend. Sweet Jesus, what have I done?

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(Anonymous) - 2013-10-22 00:15 (UTC) - Expand

The ghost thing is bs, but it is pretty insensitive to mention things like school shootings in front of young kids.

So much wrong with this. Your attitude is appalling. First, no it's pretty normal for bosses not to want their employees to tell off a customer. Wtf. Second, yeah it's pretty rude of you to mention things like elementary school shootings to an elementary school kid. I mean, just in general that doesn't seem like something to talk about at work in front of customers, but particularly not in front of small children.

And I'm kind of surprised that you work with customers and don't know all of this.

While yes, you shouldn't go around telling customers off willy nilly, and a lot of bosses ARE like this, there should also be a sort of sliding scale of what you can and cannot say to stop an abusive customer/etc, when generally the attitude is just, "They're the customer, you're a grunt, shut up and take it."

Secondly, I don't get the feeling that the OP was crouching down talking to this kid saying, "And today someone took a machine gun and shot up a whoooole bunch of kids."

Chances are they might have been discussing current events/etc with a coworker and the woman and her child may have been within earshot (and knowing some people, the kid might not have even been listening, the parent just wanted to flex their MY BABBBBYYY IS SCARRED FOR LIFE NOW!! muscles).

I don't think sheltering your kids from current events is a bad thing at all, personally. By elementary school age, chances are they already know what death is (maybe having lost a grandparent or two, or a pet), and there's nothing wrong with teaching them that sometimes really bad things happen in the world.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-10-22 11:16 (UTC) - Expand

I have been trying to lose weight for MONTHS. Doing cardio every day and at least a two mile walk. Eating less. Got a job that I move more in. Still stuck at the same weight for months after losing 20 (sometimes gaining a pound or two that I lose again). it is just really frustrating.

I don't have kids and in fact don't like children at all. But I wouldn't have mentioned the school shooting in front of a kid. The kid will hear about it, as they hear about all the others, and it's better for the kids if they don't hear it from people other than their parents/guardians/teachers. Kids are living in fear in school these days and how they hear about yet more school violence can have an exponential impact on that fear.

I just called in a refill on my meds tonight (after taking my last dose) and the recording said they would be ready Wednesday afternoon. So I guess I don't get them tomorrow night. So much for staying on top of that.

Yeah, I'm siding with the customer on this. The news just broke, so how was she to know that by taking her kid into a place of business there was potential for her child to hear about it? It isn't appropriate conversation in front of customers of any age.

And your boss is not the last person in the world with that attitude.

Why would you say that stuff in front of a kid? Lots of kids are scared of ghosts and maybe that kid is and that's why the mom got upset with you. To talk about a school shooting in front of a kid is a level of stupid I can't even comprehend. Leave it to the mom or teachers to address stuff like that.

Am I the only one who doesn't think that OP saw the kid come into their workplace and then deliberately sought out upsetting news to ruin the kid's day? It's really not that hard to imagine OP looking at their computer with their back turned to Customer & Kid, and reading a shocking headline to Coworker before realizing... oops, customers.

I mean come on. You're all acting like OP set out to give the kid nightmares.

All of this.

For fuck's sake, people are allowed to have conversations.

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I just ranted a bit on FB, but... I've been having digestive problems since I was a little kid, and the doctors could never find anything wrong with me, so they just went "You're lying" or "it's all in your head" and sent me off to psychiatrists. It got way worse again a couple years ago, so I went to see doctors again, and once again got the "it's all in your head" crap.

So I have been googling stuff trying to find leads on my own because I don't currently have health insurance anyway, and last night stumbled across a condition which accounts for many of the symptoms that I've been struggling with for the last couple years. Reading further, one of the causes of said condition is a condition which accounts for ALL THE OTHER SYMPTOMS, WHICH I HAVE BEEN EXPERIENCING SINCE I WAS NINE, WHICH THE DOCTORS SAID I WAS MAKING UP.

I'm talking actual gastroenterologists here. Not just GPs. People who SPECIALIZE in this stuff. As recently as a year ago, they were being dismissive and patronizing, when I could potentially have been given a prescription for some strong antibiotics and had this thing cleared up by now.

Beyond pissed right now.

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pantswarrior - 2013-10-22 01:18 (UTC) - Expand

You know, I don't think I'd appreciate an adult bringing that shit up in front of my kid, either. Check yourself, OP. You don't get to vent without appreciating who else is in the room.

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A friend has posted some more of his art and I know he wants/expects comments on it. Unfortunately, I'm running out of nice things to say and the patience to say them, when what I'm really longing to say is "take a damn drawing class instead of copying manga." If I do, he will get depressed, though, because being an Artist is extremely important to him.

I can't even imagine checking my phone at work when I should be actually working, so that is one of my problems with this. When things were slow at the convenience store where I worked, there was always cleaning and straightening up to do. Another is what a few other peolple have said. You are at work. In a job that has customers around you, rather than being stuck back in an office without customer contact. In that scenario, you should only talk about things that are appropriate for customers to hear. That means no talking of your sex life and no talking about school shootings where a freaking kid might hear you.

I don't have kids (although I am a teacher, so my views are likely colored by that) but if I did, I would be pissed if someone mentioned something as disturbing as a school shooting where my kids could potenially hear it. Especially if, as you say, the news just broke, so it wouldn't be as if I would have known it was a subject that could potentially come up. Sure, it isn't your place to parent someone else's kid, but have a little common respect and decency, especially when you are working in a customer service job!

(Oh and your boss is hardly the last with a "customer is right" attitude. And even if he weren't, why on earth would you ever feel it was okay to tell off a customer? Especially for something like this?)

I'm bleeding from the vagina for the second time in as many weeks. It's not as bad as my coworker who's up to day 36, by now (yes, she's been to a doctor), but still. Fuck this shit.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-10-22 16:35 (UTC) - Expand

I'm torn on your thing, OP. On one hand, it sounds like that customer is over the top and always looking for something to complain about [and use their child as justification], but on the other? You are at work, which means that there are expectations for how you behave beyond the normal ones for public spaces. Even more so, seeing as you work with customers and how you behave can really impact if customers come back/how they view the business you work for.

So...yeah. On one hand, she sounds like a pain and I do feel for you. But on the other? You really should make an effort to be aware of whose around you before saying anything, and at least making an effort to keep it at a level where they won't hear it.

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