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(Anonymous) 2015-03-28 09:25 pm (UTC)(link)I live alone -- I have no friends, no SO/never had an SO, and my family is hundreds of miles away. If I killed myself, only 6 people would care. And it would impact the day to day life of exactly no one. If I killed myself Friday night, my family would probably get suspicious the next Friday when I didn't call, but it would take WEEKS for anyone to really start to worry.
And I've read over and over about how you have to hold on and it gets better but...it doesn't always.
I look at my uncle and his life NEVER got better. He's never dated, he lives in the same run down apartment, never spends any of his money, and just works and works and works. He has no friends as far as I can tell.
The reason he hasn't killed himself is because he's very religious.
For me, it's because I don't want to hurt my parents, siblings and grandparents.
But when people say "it gets better" I just look at my uncle and think that they're lying to me.
Also, I think it's horrible when people say suicide isn't selfish. Of course it's fucking selfish. Knowing that is basically the whole reason I stick around. Because I don't want to ruin 6 lives just because I can't suck it up and work it out.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-28 09:58 pm (UTC)(link)Went home to her and her family last november, to catch up. The husband was scheduled to work early the next day, so he went to bed around 10pm.
Then she started to unload on me how husband is an alcoholic and about what a disaster their marriage is and that she has no one other than me as her parents moved to Portugal and the relation to the in-laws is tense at best.
I do whatever I can, talking of counseling and/or divorce, building a "net" of support.
Then she goes to harp on the fact that I and my metamours carry the polyheart and our primary partner doesn't. That it is unfair and "he doesn't love you enough if he can't wear the symbol of our love/relationship". This comes from the person who throws her wedding ring in the trash every time she has a fight with the husband.
I kept telling her that the physical symbol doesn't matter, because he's open about our way of doing relationships to the point of almost being evangelical. Almost.
When she couldn't win that argument, she started to rant about how "Transformers aren't real and that Optimus Prime will never love me and..." Just WTF?! I know it's fiction! Besides, what the hell did that have to do with anything?!
This was then followed by a loud argument about whether humans could win against the entire Con army without help. She claimed we would, I argued that we'd be little more than a wet spot on the pavement.
That's when the husband came down and told us to shut it.
The next day she was moody, glued to the tv and all around not very pleasant. So while I said "see you later" when leaving, I just knew that I'm done. I will not go back there. Which makes me kind of a terrible friend, too.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-28 10:20 pm (UTC)(link)My reason is because of what the internet is like. Right now she enjoys writing and has fun with it. I want to teach her to listen to crit gracefully and all that in time, but I also want her to be a confident writer who's not made insecure and self conscious about her ideas because someone said something negative. I want her to view her writing experience as a positive good thing, rather than something to be ashamed and embarrassed at. That she can look at her old stuff and be like "wow I've improved so much" and not "oh my god , I hope no one ever sees this".
I want her to be a confident healthy writer (if she chooses that path) that can take criticism with grace, but assertive enough to not be made to feel ashamed and embarrassed of her thoughts and ideas because someone suggests she should.
I don't have anything against fandom communities, I just want her to be ready if she ever enters them.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-28 11:14 pm (UTC)(link)I haven't crushed on anyone in fandom for years, and back then I could just LJ-friend them. It's at once amusing and concerning to me.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-28 11:24 pm (UTC)(link)This mostly happens with celebrities, but it happens in real life sometimes too. I still don't want to bang any of them.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-28 11:29 pm (UTC)(link)Method is all I'm missing.
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It's electric.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-29 12:11 am (UTC)(link)They are controlling and one of them has anger issues. That said I have nowhere else to go, and don't even have friends I can spend time with out of the apartment. It probably doesn't help that I have been having issues with depression.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-29 01:45 am (UTC)(link)I'm not even mad at this person. i just want to know why I no longer matter.
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(Anonymous) 2015-03-29 09:57 am (UTC)(link)So I tackled it and took a piss on it. It ran away screaming and thankfully since then learnt that my room was off-limits.
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