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⌈ Secret Post #3703 ⌋

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Comments

[kaijinscendre]

What a stupid reason to break up with someone.

[(Anonymous)]

I dunno, if it was that he didn't like TNG, that'd be one thing, but refusing to watch a single episode is a little different

[kaijinscendre]

The kind of person who will break up with someone because they won't watch their tv show is the kind of person who is super pushy about their interests and won't shut up about it.

[(Anonymous)]

The kind of person who blanket refuses to even try new things could be pretentious or big headed as well.

We don't know the background either way obviously, but I dont think it's impossible that OP's bf is being unreasonable about it.

[kaijinscendre]

He watched the movies. He isn't obligated to watch the show. Chances are he knows enough about it (considering he is alive) to know he won't like it.

[(Anonymous)]

The key here is that OP's bf refuses to try even ONE episode. That's less than a hour of your time, and it's not asking very much.

[(Anonymous)]

From the way OP sounds (considering throwing away what could [without further info] be a good relationship because their SO has no interest in watching a show they like) maybe OP's boyfriend is worried about watching an episode of a show he might not like, and then creating an argument with OP when he says, "Okay I've watched it, I don't like it."

[(Anonymous)]

A person doesn't need a "good" reason to break up with anyone. They just to decide that they don't want to be in a relationship anymore and that's that. It may seem dumb to you or me, but presumably you believe you have the right to decide what is a dealbreaker for you, yes? So does OP. Nobody else's input or standards for The Correct Way to Have a Relationship apply, because it's not our life.

[kaijinscendre]

They made a secret about it. They wanted people to talk about it.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh wow, okay. I didn't realize you were so determined to be judgmental about how other people fail to conduct their relationships to your standards, but you do you, I guess? :(

[(Anonymous)]

Except presumably the OP's bf likes sci-fi/Trek of some kind, so it's not like they are being asked to watch "Toddlers and Tiaras" or something else that wouldn't appeal to them at all. So is it really a big deal to compromise and watch an episode of something? Who knows, they might like it (I have liked a couple of things i watched solely because my SO watched and wanted to watch with me), and if they don't, at least they tried. Relationships are about compromise. If the SO is not willing to even try something which isn't completely against their tastes even when asked to try, I think that is indicative of someone who is not willing to make the compromises to make a relationship work.

[kaijinscendre]

He likes the new movies which are extremely different from the show. I like the movies. I tried watching the show and hated it.

[(Anonymous)]

Same. I loved the movies, so I thought I'd give the show a try and ended up really not liking it. It's not at all hard to see how someone could like one and not the other given that they're two pretty much completely different things.

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, so you have shit taste and feel threatened which is why you're acting so defensively around this entire thread.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT
But you tried it. They have enough similarities that many people like both, and you can't tell if you will be one of those people if you don't even try it. Refusing to even try it is a warning sign, imo. (I mean, I wouldn't break up over it if it were the only thing wrong, but it really rubs me the wrong way.)

[(Anonymous)]

My dad was a major Trekkie while I was young ( we watched Original series, TNG, and Deep Space Nine, along with all the old movies) and while I didn't *hate* them, they really weren't 'super wonderful amazing' to me, personally, even when I went back and re-watched as an adult. However, the newer movies? I love them. It's ridiculous for people to be insisting the boyfriend has to watch. My husband and I have shows we like together, and shows only one likes and the other will absolutely not view. We're still married! And love each other! We're adults who realize everyone has their own likes and dislikes... and if one of us isn't interested, we don't act like dicks about it.

[(Anonymous)]

Nah, this is a really really common Geek Dude pissing contest thing. They're perfectly happy to introduce you to THEIR interests/shows/movies, but refuse to check out the ones you're interested in. Because somehow that's an insult to their geekyness.

So I mean, obviously we're only getting a snippet here, but if he doesn't care enough to try a TV show, unless he's putting forth additional emotional effort to find stuff they do enjoy together it's probably just going to be a frustrating and fruitless relationship.

[kaijinscendre]

Or maybe OP is the one who is pressuring him into things. Also, maybe OP is the Geek Dude who it always introducing his BF to things while refusing to watch things he likes.

[(Anonymous)]

Eeh, maybe. But if their refusing is bothering them enough to make a secret, breaking up's probably a good thing.

[(Anonymous)]

Can we be clear this is not genderlocked behavior? I've seen it both ways and it's sad and irritating. You're not gonna died because you watched a TV show that one time.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not locked, but it is really common to see 'girl interests' assumed to be lesser. (I mean, look at the comments here. People going 'it's not like it's Toddlers and Tiaras or Sex and the City!' instead of 'it's not like it's Texas Chain Saw Massacre or wrestling!' Even though they're just as far off from Star Trek )

In a group I was in a 'geek mom' was bragging that her daughter prefers to dress as Batman to something from Frozen. I asked if her son ever wanted to be Supergirl and she lost her shit over NO OF COURSE NOT. It's weirdly common.

[nanslice]

Super agreed.

[(Anonymous)]

What a petty way to lose a relationship. I'm talking about the boyfriend. Just watch the damn show before you lose your woman to a better man who'll try things.

Kajin, you're wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

How do we know the BF will be sad about it?

Kaijin, I agree with you.

[kaijinscendre]

Nope.