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Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

Either offline or online. Can also be vice versa.

Sad or stupid because it was mostly unnecessary, but something made it happen.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

- Way back when JPop was a big thing, I had a friend join the JPop fandom and defriend everyone on her flist who wasn't into it. Including me. We'd been close online friends (or at least I thought we'd been close online friends?) for years.

- In middle school, I had plans with a friend, but for some reason it didn't work after all. When I told my mom I'd call her, I remember her saying "don't." So I didn't, and when I explained it to the friend at school, she just blew me off.

I think I must have misunderstood my mom, in retrospect, because there's NO way she wouldn't have let me call someone to cancel plans. I also should've just called anyway, but I was a goody two shoes who did what my mom said no matter what.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like everyone has that one friend who got really into jpop or kpop and ditched anyone who wasn't, or at least it seems to me like a fairly common experience.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

They became a stereotypical angry SJW. The final straw was when they tried to police my Tumblr blog when I posted a jingle from a radio commercial that used to play when we were kids. We'd known each other since kindergarten!

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

I stopped being friends with someone for supporting cotton ceiling rhetoric.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

Friend kept adopting pets she couldn't take care of, then complaining when they died. All suggestions went out the window.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[diet_poison]

There was a girl in college who I started a friendship with and it was going really well, and then she messaged me and called me by a pet name and I got defensive and she got counter-defensive and just said "well I don't want to be friends with you"

no real loss tbh, people using nicknames for me without permission, especially people I don't know well, creep me out

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

This one was really weird. We were online friends, met on an AOL Harry Potter board or in a HP chatroom, and out of nowhere she started calling me a bitch, saying I was stupid for liking Harry Potter, etc.

I never figured out if she was catty and fishing for a fight, if her interests changed and she decided to make fun of me, or if a sibling took over her IM.

I actually had a few AOL friends who got weird.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[el_regrs]

This was really immature on my part, but I sorta ghosted a friend who wouldn't stop bashing a series we all once loved. It was just so obnoxious, listening to him go on dramatically about being "betrayed" by this one particular game. That and he didn't seem particularly interested in speaking to me the rest of the time, so I'm sure he didn't even notice we weren't friends anymore. I have no clue what became of him.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

I had a friend who was super needy. She didn't have a great childhood and didn't have many IRL friends, despite being funny and fun to hang out with but the end result was that she was rather high maintenance and tended to steamroll me or sulk when I couldn't chat because I was working or tired or whatever. She got mad and accused me of giving her the silent treatment even though we talked almost every day. I just gave up after that, it was too much.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

She took some online "test", diagnosed herself with Asperger's, and used that as an excuse for her shitty behavior.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

I overreacted because she unfollowed me on Twitter. I thought I must have said something that upset her, so I texted her and asked what was wrong and how I could fix it. She told me I was making too big a deal out of it and she just unfollowed because I tweeted too much for her to keep up with, that was all. I got mad at her for brushing off how worried I'd been. It all could have been avoided if I hadn't been so new to social media that I thought unfollowing a friend only happened when the friend did something terrible to deserve it, but because of it I got to see how little she cared about the fact that I was upset, so it's not too big of a loss.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

Her friend was a bit of a SJW and went off on me because I said I admired Nelson Mandela, and white people can't have really admired Nelson Mandela. (She was white, by the way.) So I unfriended my friend after the SJW kept hurling insults at me, which I now realize was incredibly unfair. At the same time, I wondered why she didn't stand up for me, or at least send me an apologetic PM or something. But she might have felt awkward and I shouldn't have expected her to get in the middle either way.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

My friend lives in a different city and has a lot of health problems. I used to call her regularly, until one day I realised that every time I'd spoken to her in the last three months she hadn't once asked me about my life or how I was, despite my going through a rough patch myself.

Rather than jump to conclusions, I decided to just go ahead and tell her what I'd been up to. She blanked me and changed the subject back to her.

After that, I decided I wanted nothing more to do with her. She doesn't seem to have noticed I've stopped making any effort, so apparently I made the right decision in dropping her.

Last time I saw her, she told me rather condescendingly that 'just because we haven't seen each other in a while, that she still considered me part of her inner circle'. Fuck that.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[cbrachyrhynchos]

Saddest? He got involved in the meth trade.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

I had this friend with whom I had a lot of fun in fandom, but I started noticing that, outside squeeing about fandom crushes, she never told me anything positive about herself. Whenever real life was brought up she would complain about how horrible her life was. It got really emotionally draining, especially since I was dealing with my own problems at the time. So I ended up slowly disappearing from our shared spaces. It feels like a shitty friend thing to do, but I did end up coming out of depression shortly after cutting her out of my life so...

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[sarillia]

I lost a friend when she decided I was mean to straight people. Apparently she had been thinking it for a while but the straw that broke the camel's back was when I objected to the idea of allies talking about coming out of the closet as allies.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[greghousesgf]

Two hours late for everything and wouldn't explain or apologize for it.
Acted real snotty about trans people.
Gave me a lot of shit for being an atheist.
Not fun anymore.
Gave me weird overanalyzed reasons for everything I did.
When I tried to talk calmly to her about all the above she just denied everything.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

His girlfriend started acting paranoid and getting mad at me for trying to "steal her boyfriend" cause we RP-ed together sometimes, had quite a few high school classes together, and lived pretty close to each other. For context, I am a lesbian, he knew that, and she knew that, but somehow that wasn't enough. She like, became convinced I was secretly bisexual and after him. So we stopped RPing but she didn't get any better, and it got to the point where she would get mad at him for talking to me at all (partly because sometimes he would talk to me about their relationship problems.)

He also started acting shitty to a mutual friend of ours, which basically ended in him outing said friend to his girlfriend, when friend had specifically asked him not to tell anyone including her, because friend was in an unsafe family environment and didn't want it possibly spreading around.

Between that and his gf constantly flipping out I just couldn't do it. Which sucks cause I know it was his gf being emotionally abusive, but I was in high school and just couldn't handle dealing with all the drama I didn't want to be apart of.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

One friend became really possessive of me, but she also did stuff that was really self-absorbed and would accuse me of not caring about her and shit like that. Like, if I wasn't there for her every minute of every day when she was having a problem, I was a shitty friend apparently. If I couldn't text her back right then and there, I was a shitty friend. If I fell asleep while we were RPing/texting, I was a shitty friend. The straw that broke the camel's back was when I had to put my cat down, and I needed her that day, and she still insisted on going back to her and her problems. That was the end of that friendship.

Another friend (an online only friend) ended up starting to date someone in our gaming circle, and I was kind of uncomfortable about it, particularly in games. I asked her if she could give me some space to process it/get more comfortable with it, and requested that either if we played games that her boyfriend didn't play when I was playing with her, or I would just leave and let them play. Just until I got comfortable with the whole idea. She freaked out, wrote me a really nasty email and said that we should take a break from being friends. When I emailed her/texted her back and told her that I was really hurt by her words, I got no response. After several days, I sent her a message back saying that we were done. And then later she would tell everyone that I 'didn't like her boyfriend' and that's why we stopped being friends. Bitch no, it was because you became a psycho. Gotta say I was glad to find out that their relationship didn't last.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

Sad and stupid, she tried to take advantage of me to get me to sew a bunch of bridesmaids dresses, refused to pay me ahead of time, and then freaked out when they weren't finished over 6 months in advance and stopped talking to me.

Good riddance.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[dahli]

In my first year of college I became friends with a girl who seemed kinda nice, but she turned out to be batshit crazy, catfished people on facebook and tried to blackmail me into staying with her as friends. She was also a terrible teammate to work with and I eventually ended up doing all the team projects while she took the glory for them (at the I was really really shy and dumb to speak up).

One night she called me on skype saying she would kill herself if I left her alone because she broke up with one of her facebook boyfriends (later on I found it was a highschool kid from France). Half consoling her and half falling asleep my laptop's battery died and the computer turned off and not even a minute later she was calling me like crazy on the phone. It was 3am, I was leaving on a trip with my family early the next day and I was just so physically and mentally exhausted from all her bullshit I just turned off my phone, went to sleep and the next day went on the family trip.



Didn't see her again until last year. She seemed to be doing fine but I didn't really stay around to chat.

Very Mild Trigger Warning for Sexual Assault

[(Anonymous)]

Saddest: I had a friend (since childhood) whose significant other sexually assaulted me. She was financially dependent on him at the time and I didn't tell her for a while after it happened because I wasn't sure if I should (because I knew that she basically couldn't leave him). I eventually told her. I think she believed me about what happened, but if she left him she would've had to quite school mid-semester and move back to her hometown, so she stayed with him for a while. I understood why, but everything was just too fucked up and sad between us after that.

Stupidest: Me and my best friend were faxing each other drawings one weekend when we were twelve. I drew a copy of this cat doodle she was always drawing and put a little arrow pointing to it saying "dumb cat" because my drawing of it was so bad and the cat did look pretty doofy. She informed me it was a drawing of her RL cat, and called me stupid. The fight escalated quickly, and actually got pretty ugly and vicious on both sides, the way fights between twelve-year-olds can do. She dropped me after that. She'd recently become a lot more popular than I was and was probably was just using the opportunity to drop me, but looking back it still seems pretty crazy it all started with us faxing each other doodles.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

A friend's daughter ran away with a guy that she met online. She left as soon as she turned eighteen. (Backstory: kid has a deadbeat psycho dad and was raised by my friend, a depressive, single mom who at times has lived off of the dole and money her now-deceased mother gave her, and who has also cleaned homes for money; who has suffered emotional/physical/sexual abuse; and who mixes beer and prescription pills to numb her psychological pain.) My friend asked ME to email her daughter and try to "talk sense" into her because she was ignoring her emails/phone calls.
This confused me because: 1) I hadn't spoken to the daughter since she was six and hadn't seen her since she was less than a year old.
2) If she wasn't listening to her own mother then why in the world would she listen to me, pretty much a complete stranger to her?
3)Why was she surprised that her daughter ran away? She wasn't raised in a stable household.

I told my friend that no, I couldn't parent her child for her and gave the aforementioned reasons as to why not. She quit talking to me. It's been two years.
My reasons weren't stupid at all. I think they were valid. My pleas to her daughter would've fallen on deaf ears. The girl was 18. She can do what she wants and she met a guy and wanted to get out.

Re: Sad or stupid reasons you've parted ways with friends

[(Anonymous)]

She'd complain for hours about her shitty boyfriend, then turn around and defend him or minimize his shittiness, then post lovey dovey photos of them on instagram acting like he's the perfect man. I was sympathetic at first because I thought he's borderline abusive - he's never hit her, but he's got major issues with jealousy and control - but I just got tired of how much effort she put into pretending like everything was perfect. I didn't want to pretend along with her when I knew it was fake. We drifted apart.