[ SECRET POST #4190 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4190 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

04. https://i.imgur.com/66QnJVU.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

Ew. That's how you rationalize cheating to yourself then? That you "just can't help it"? Stop dating people.

[(Anonymous)]

Holy shit, do you think maybe this is why it's a secret posted to a secrets community???

NAYRT

[(Anonymous)]

Why would you expect that to change someone's reaction to it?

[feotakahari]

This community is not immune to “your secret is bad and you should feel bad,” nor should it be.

[tabaqui]

No? They said a cheating trope is a version of a 'just can't help it' trope, not that's how they rationalize anything.

[(Anonymous)]

They say that (1) they conceptualize fictional infidelity as "just can't help it" and (2) they sympathize with fictional infidelity because they've cheated.

It's not that big of a leap to suspect that they might also apply "just can't help it" to their own life and circumstances.

[(Anonymous)]

Why are people in this comm so over the top about cheating? lol

Like yeah, cheating is not nice to do, but they act like it's akin to rape and murder or something. It's this insane visceral reaction in this community that seems so disproportionate to the crime whenever the topic comes up.

+1

[(Anonymous)]

idgi either

[(Anonymous)]

Baffles me too anon. It's definitely bad, it absolutely makes sense for it to be a relationship-killing thing, but sheesh.

Then again, I've only ever been in poly relationships where we could and did talk to each other if we ended up interested in someone else, and I'm pretty sure I'm aromantic anyway. So it's entirely possible my perspective is a bit broken.

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously! It's weird.

[(Anonymous)]

In my experience people who belittle cheating tend to be cheaters themselves, but *shrug*

I think it's completely fair to demonize the act of betraying the trust of a loved one. Bold stance, I know. Just because it's technically legal doesn't make it any less traumatizing.

[(Anonymous)]

"It's this insane visceral reaction in this community that seems so disproportionate to the crime whenever the topic comes up."

Probably because a lot of people are in relationships and it's a real worry. (As opposed to alien invasion or summat.)

[(Anonymous)]

Shockingly, people are allowed to be mad/upset about things that are less bad than murder. Cheating isn't the worst thing you can do to someone, but it's still REALLY fucking shitty and many people have first- or second-hand experiences with that crap.

[(Anonymous)]

OR they can find someone who is okay with a polyamorous relationship, so OP can fuck whoever they want without hurting their partner. There are options for sluts. Cheating isn't one of them.

[(Anonymous)]

Yikes.

+1

[(Anonymous)]

Not a fan of the slut-shaming, but I agree.

[(Anonymous)]

Agree that cheating is bad but your perspective of polyamorous relationships is so gross I feel bad agreeing with you.

go fuck yourself anon

[(Anonymous)]

It's still possible to cheat in a poly relationship. It all comes down till wether it's sneaking behind the other partners backs ( that's cheating) or informed and consensual ( not cheating).

[(Anonymous)]

agreed. if you're too afraid to take responsibility in your relationship and communicate with your partner when something is wrong like an adult, then you shouldn't be in that relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

Cool story, bro.

[(Anonymous)]

Whenever cheating is mentioned online people act like the op personally cheated on them. Calm down guys - I am anti cheating, have never done it, and it would probably be a deal breaker for me (I could maaaaybe forgive a one night stand in some circumstances but not an affair) - but the vitriol to randos online about it is pretty ott.

Also I only kink on fictional cheating when it’s a woman cheating on her husband with another woman. Idk why.

[(Anonymous)]

I have never met a cheater who's a decent person.

I'm sorry, but they haven't been, and the fact is they all try to rationalize it in some way or think it's NBD.

Not a fan.

[(Anonymous)]

I really don't like cheating in fiction or real life, though I can think of some circumstances where it is understandable. However, in most cases, how hard is it to break up with someone before getting with someone else. Hell, you can just say you don't want to be exclusive at the start or find someone who wants an open relationship. There are a lot of ways to avoid infidelity and I don't have much sympathy for "we couldn't help it", unless they actually couldn't help it - brain injury, aliens/magic made them do it, etc.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't have personal experience with cheating, but I still hate it in fiction, and it's almost guaranteed to make me hate the fictional cheater, too.