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Is anyone doing anything? Expecting Trick-or-Treaters? Going to you dress up?

I'm sitting on tumblr booping everyone I see.

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Carved 7 of my 8 jack o' lanterns, cleaned out the cobwebby cauldron, filled it with candy, curled my hair and put on makeup which I only ever do for Halloween and cosplay, and pulled out one of my Christine from Phantom of the Opera costumes.

Still gotta carve the last (moldy, sigh) jack o' lantern, probably safety pin bits of costume together, lug all the pumpkins outside, and bring out an extension cord so I can put some lights on since our streetlights are still out.

Last thing is to actually put the costume on since doing anything but hand out candy in it is gonna get it dirty.

So far today I've watched Crimson Peak, Monster Squad, Sleepy Hollow, The Crow, and currently Lisa Frankenstein while carving pumpkins. May have time for one more before trick or treaters start showing up. The live action Addams Family, maybe? Hocus Pocus?

Already watched Young Frankenstein and Beetlejuice earlier this month.

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Not me. Yay depression.

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Trick-or-treaters don't come to our area because there are no street lights. :( So going to give the niblings a box of candy and send them on their way.

My sister and I will be playing some Phasmo!

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Painting my nails, otherwise nothing much.

No spooky season shenanigans this year, I am packing for my trip I leave for tomorrow! Very excited. I voted early today and am ready to just get away and ignore the next week of madness in the US.

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I'm wearing an orange top and handing out candy to trick-or-treaters. That's pretty much it.

I’m dressed up and waiting for our truck or treaters. We only get a few (2-5) but I love it anyway.

Nothing tonight. But tomorrow our office is having a potluck/bring your leftover treats thing. Fairly informal, but there will be Halloween decorations (even more than the ones already up) and tasty food.

Dressed up and ready to give out candy. Gonna marathon the Treehouse of Horror episodes while waiting for trick or treaters.

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Wore my costume yesterday since I didn't go out today-- I'm putting out a big tub of candy for the kids, though!

I got candy, and I'm sort of in a costume, but no kids stopped by :(. I only heard maybe one mother and kid around but still nothing despite my door being the only one decorated, maybe they didn't see and assumed there was no one giving candy based of the other doors.

For context, I'm living in an apartment place, so maybe most kids went out to trick or treat in actual houses. Still, sad, got mini chocolate bars and everything. Was thinking of maybe taking all this candy and distribute at my uni class tomorrow, but I'm a little shy about these things...

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I made chicken wild rice mushroom soup and biscuits for the guys that were out in the snow today. I also made oatmeal scotchies. No trick-or-treaters for us, so I’m reading tonight.

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Me and my bro are just chilling and waiting on trick or treaters as they come . (all these kids are so sweet and polite!! and adorable)

I'm trying to lose weight so to negotiate with my body I got some healthyish stuff from this Japanese place. OMG its good. The curry was a bit spicy for me but the katsu and this veggie soup are delicious!!

the more I try of Japanese and Hawaiian cuisine the more I love it!!!

just got back from looking at a lot of haunted houses and then having dinner out. :)

No. We have no candy or chocolate for any visitors. And we ended up having no visitors anyway so it worked out.

Nope. I am depressed and having hard time going outside. We don't really do Halloween here, it's mostly for clubbing. And I managed to miss the boop thing because I didn't think to click on a banner :(

Our city FB group is full of posts with begging people to come trick or treating. I hate that everyone just travels to one or two neighborhoods. We got three truck or treaters tonight. We have arguably one of the best decorated yards in the city but our next door neighbors don’t even stop with their three kids before or after driving to another part of the city. And the people who live in those neighborhoods hate having so many stop by because it’s really expensive and they’re not even kids they know. I miss the days of trick or treating within your own neighborhood :(

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It is the first of November here. Halloween was yesterday's post.

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I'm in the southwest UK so most people here just use Halloween as a good excuse to dress up and get plastered. I'm in a university town too so students make up a huge chunk of the night crowd.

I went to a Halloween do at my local pub dressed as Herbert West from Re-Animator as it's one of my favourite campy horror films. The Terrifier franchise must really be taking off because the whole thing had a black/white theme and there was an incredible amount of clown costumes :O

He hasn't hit me or emotionally abused me. He's not even an awful person, exactly. He's just stubbornly lazy, careless and inconsiderate and I'm tired of it. He will:

* leave a trail of little messes all over the house: lights and fans left on, dirty plates/bowls/cups, crumbs/food debris on kitchen counters, dirty clothes tossed on the floor even though we have multiple laundry hampers, toilets he forgets to flush, mail he needs to sort and either toss or file away if it's important, hiking gear spread out over the dining table for weeks and months on end while he says he'll put it away very soon, etc. etc.

* Irregular schedule with long hours that requires me to hold down the fort at home, do extra work to make sure he's got hot dinners when he gets home, packed lunches, packed snacks, coffee thermos kept full, breakfast-to-go to save him time but he's never done even a fraction of this for me when I'm busy with work or physically incapacitated.

* A small number of "outside" chores that don't need to be done on a daily or even weekly basis and the only thing he manages to do is take out the trash because I remind him. Lawn doesn't get mowed, yard looks like an embarrassing jungle, doesn't fix a damn thing even though he insisted on buying expensive tools and an expensive riding mower so he could do all of those things.

* never says thank you for anything, frequently "forgets" to clean up after himself, won't pitch in to get a task done unless I ask him, then tell him exactly what to do, then stand over his shoulder to make sure he follows directions or he'll half-ass it or do something completely different.

* whenever I have an issue and want to talk, he's too tired and I'm hassling him because he's had such a hard day and doesn't have the energy to do this. When I bring it up later, he doesn't want to discuss it because it's a downer on his good mood, so somehow there's never a good time to address my concerns. He gets upset when I point this out like it's unfair. I ask him to choose a time, and he doesn't want to do that either and it's my fault for being so difficult.

* every little thing I ask him to do is either met with sulky resistance or huffy agreement (because I'm nagging him or treating him like a child) and then he won't do it either way. This includes huge asks like "please make sure you close the fridge/freeezer door all the way" and "please turn on the bathroom fan and let it run a few minutes if you have a smelly dump". It's always "I forgot" but he doesn't want to write it down so he can remember and he doesn't want to be reminded because that makes him feel incompetent, he just wants to keep forgetting to do things and for me to stop asking him.

This man swore I was the best thing to ever happen to him, that I was the most important person in his life and he'd do anything for me. He's proud of my intelligence and common sense, but somehow that never seems to translate into listening to my ideas or taking my suggestions. If I asked him to run to the store for tampons and chocolate because I'm dying from period cramps and bleeding, he'd do it without blinking, but he'll sit and play solitaire on his phone while I'm curled up on the couch in the fetal position and it won't occur to him to ask if I need anything, could he make me a cup of tea and get me a motrin, would I like him to order out for pizza, etc. No. He'll just sit there while I'm in pain and occasionally express sympathy while waiting for me to get up and make dinner. He loves my cooking and boasts about my skills, but he never offers to give me a night off by cooking dinner and we try to save money by not eating out very often. I've suggested this to him, asked him to make dinner once a month, on one of his days off... that's too hard, he can't do it. He'll talk about his plans to make this-or-that, but they never happen and he doesn't notice because he thinks that expressing the desire to cook dinner is just as good as making it. This man would give me one of his kidneys if I needed it (or at least, I think he would) but he wouldn't even think to bring me food and tea when I'm laid flat on my back with COVID, and he didn't even offer to help cook dinner - I still had to drag myself out of bed to provide food for both of us.

Over the years, my love and affection and respect for him has died off in bits and pieces. I don't know why I'm still here, except that it'd be financially messy to divorce him and there's custody issues to worry about. Every time I try to talk to him about this, he'll sulk or get upset and then blame me for saying things to upset him. Recently he floated the idea of couples counseling, but he's so unwilling to do any work at all on our relationship now that I feel like he'd just waste my time and our money by pretending to listen to a therapist and then going home and doing what he's always done, i.e. stroll through life like he's got zero responsibilities and magic fairies do his housework for him.

I wish I'd never gotten married. If I divorce, I never want to date another man as long as I live, I don't care if I die alone anymore, I just want some peace and quiet for the only messes I clean up to be my own. I want my own space that doesn't get invaded by some needy, helpless baby who can't find the can opener that's been in the same drawer for ten years. I struggle not to hate him for doing this to us, and for being such a lazy fucking asshole who fights to remain an emotionally stunted manchild whose mommy-wife wipes his ass and heats up his chicken nuggies for him while he plays video games. I hate that he'd rather do this than be a good, caring, considerate person and a good partner to me, but still expects me to believe that he loves me more than anything.

I have so much self-loathing for fucking my own life up this bad by trusting a man to be a decent partner and for not leaving earlier before life got so complicated. This whole marriage has made me bitter and depressed, and so exhausted that leaving sounds impossible.