[ SECRET POST #1892 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1892 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[How I Met Your Mother]


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03.
[White Collar]


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04.
[Smash]


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05.
[How I Met Your Mother]


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06.
[Revenge]


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07.
[The Hunger Games]


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08.
[Yu-Gi-Oh]


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09.
[White Collar]


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10.
[Obscurus Lupa, Subspecies]


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11.
[Castleville]


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12.
[Gintama]


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13.
[The Cat Returns]


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14.
[Mythbusters]


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15.
[Invasion of the Body Snatchers]


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16.
[Titanic]


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17.
[All Dogs go to Heaven]


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18.
[Hatoful Boyfriend]


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19.
[Pokemon]


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20.
[Phantom of the Opera]


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21.
[The Middle]


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22.
[life on mars]


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23.
[Scrubs]


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24.
[A Goofy Movie]


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25.
[Nerimon/Alex Day]


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26.
[Katie McGrath]


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27.
[Chuck]


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28.
[Top Chef Season 9]


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29.
[The Vampire Diaries]


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30.
[The Vampire Diaries]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 045 secrets from Secret Submission Post #270.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

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[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

Without the right to be treated as fully equal to boys, and the right to grow up free of harassment and demeaning messages that cause women to devalue their own worth, the so-called choice a woman might have just might be delusion instead.

A million times this. I never understood the skepticism against the "as long as it's her choice, she's doing it right" brand of feminism until it was explained this way. When misogyny is so heavily ingrained in society that women internalize it and believe themselves to be lesser beings without even realizing it, it's hard to tell when a choice is really a choice and not just the result of careful manipulation over the last few millennia.

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[(Anonymous)]

In other words, women are not their own person and we should question every "choice" they make (especially if it goes against with what I would do) .

Seriously though, where does the line get drawn? When do we stop questioning everything a woman does an trust that she knows what's best for herself? And who exactly gets to decide if a woman is doing something because she really wants to do it and not because she's forced to by society?

(frozen comment)

[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

In other words, women are not their own person and we should question every "choice" they make

Yes. We aren't our own people when we're constantly bombarded with messages from society that say otherwise. As long as pressure from gender roles factor into our choices, they aren't truly ours, and we have to be aware of that.

We stop questioning everything we do when we are given the same rights and equal treatment and are free from oppressive expectations specifically tied to our gender. Until then? Yes, we examine our choices and why we're making them, and whether it's what we really want or what we think we want because that's what we've been told we're supposed to want.

I don't believe in shaming or browbeating any woman for her choices; just in encouraging all women to examine why they make the choices they do. There's nothing wrong with simply questioning why you're doing something. Hell, if more people thought before choosing, the world would be far less screwed up right now.

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[(Anonymous)]

DA

We aren't our own people when we're constantly bombarded with messages from society that say otherwise.

Everyone is bombarded with messages from society about how they should behave according to gender. That doesn't mean I'm not my own person, and you can shove that theory where the sun don't shine.

I'm ashamed to have you on my "side."

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[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

*shrug* And I'm ashamed to have you on mine if you don't even want to bother thinking about the choices you make and simply going with impulse. Call it even, I guess.

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[(Anonymous)]

You can stop right the fuck now.

How dare you imply that just because I consider myself my own person I make my choices without thought?!

Are only women who agree with you allowed to make their own choices?

Go fuck yourself.

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[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

How dare you imply that just because I consider myself my own person I make my choices without thought?!

When you're substituting cursing, personal attacks, and circular logic for an actual argument, I'm inclined to believe that you choose without thinking, yes.

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[(Anonymous)]

Except peoples' urging for women to question their choices only ever comes out when it's choices they wouldn't make. No one ever tells a woman to question why she's making the choice to go to medical school. No one ever asks if that's what she really wants or if she's just rebelling against what society tells her she can't do without actually wanting it in the long term. It's only if she wants to be a housewife that society apparently has any influence at all because what self respecting woman would want to be a housewife? (Which ties into the fact that 'traditionally feminine' roles are sometimes denigrated by feminists as inherently lesser and not just as being treated lesser by society which helps no one.)

There are people who's choices are influenced by society but that doesn't mean women can't make their own choices and need to be led around by the nose by the 'enlightened women' that totally know what's best whether you like it or not.

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[(Anonymous)]

You've summed up everything I wanted to say about this beautifully. Society and culture influence everyone's choices, but that influence is just that - influence. It doesn't mean that an individual cannot make their own decision. And coming in to someone else's life and saying you're going to "enlighten" them about their choices for the greater good is incredibly patronizing.

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[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

No one ever asks if that's what she really wants or if she's just rebelling against what society tells her she can't do without actually wanting it in the long term.

I'm not one of those people. When I say women should question their choices, I mean all of them. Whether she's going to med school because she really wants to or it's the family practice, or if she really wants to be a housewife and not doing it to please her ultra-conservative family. Every choice should be questioned no matter what it is.

I'm not even advocating others telling women what to do; only that all women should stop for a minute and examine why they are making the choices they are and ask themselves if it's what they really want and not part of someone else's expectation.

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[(Anonymous)]

Why should only women do it then? Are men somehow above the influence of society? After all, there is just as much social pressure on a man to be masculine and fall into traditional male roles as there is on women and that has just as much effect on their choices. Narrowing it down to only women is basically just demeaning women as being less capable of making her own choices even though both genders are influenced by society telling them what they should and should not want to do.

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[(Anonymous)]

Even if there is an outside influence, who cares so long as it makes the individual happy with their decision? Everyone does things with expectations from other people.

If I go to med school instead of research because my family wants me to be an MD does that make my choice not valid?

No one exists in a vacuum; pressures are part of making any choice. Making a choice with my family in mind does not make it any less of my decision!

Making a decision in a void is not the only right way to make a decision. You are telling women how to make their choices.

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[(Anonymous)]

This! I'm not a traditional woman at all, but I hate seeing the shaming of traditional choices. I'm okay with judgement of them as bad ideas for other reasons, but "not enlightened enough" is really, well, bitchy.

Even up thread someone seemed to say if I didn't agree with her philosophy, then I didn't think about my decisions. That is just plain SICK and WRONG.

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[(Anonymous)]

I am so sick of having other people question my every decision. And forget it being a women's rights issue, it's ALWAYS fellow women that I feel most persecuted by. Such as having all of my male coworkers tell me I should apply for a certain security position, then having my FEMALE boss inform me that I cannot work that position because I'm female and "what if someone pulled a gun on you?"

Uhhh, I dunno, I'd probably get shot? You know, just like a male would? Seriously, I am no more or less bulletproof than a male kthnxbai.

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[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

In that case, your female boss is being sexist in implying that you can't handle the position because you're a woman. If the security position would really make you happy, then there's no reason why you shouldn't apply. All I'm saying is to step back and ask yourself if it's what you want to do. If the answer is yes, then do it.

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[(Anonymous)]

Um... I know she's being sexist. That's what the "it's ALWAYS fellow women that I feel most persecuted by" part was about.

And unfortunately there IS a reason I shouldn't apply. Since my current boss is in charge of, you know, hiring for that position and all. And, you know, she's already told me that I don't qualify for the position due to my gender.

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[(Anonymous)]

Oh, wow, a set of balls and a dick has the power to stop bullets now. Guess that explains how men never get shot... oh wait.

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[(Anonymous)]

Oh, wow, a set of balls and a dick has the power to stop bullets now.

My mind chose to interpret that a bit too literally. I can't decide if the resulting mental image is hilarious or horrifying.

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[(Anonymous)]

Inorite. She's acting as if I don't already work a security position. Oooh, wow, I work a position where I don't have to worry about guns so I'm safe and those big strong guys can worry about those! Never mind that she sees nothing wrong with me working a position where I'm still in risk of getting the shit beat out of me if someone chooses or getting a knife pulled on me.

Of course, that's still assuming I can't handle those situations. Which I, you know, can considering I've been TRAINED to handle them. But nevermind that.

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[(Anonymous)]

So I can never make my own choices?

You know what, that theory can fuck right off, as well as anyone who believes it. I am not a lesser being and I can make my own damn decisions. If you don't like that you can sit the fuck down and keep your mouth shut.

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[(Anonymous)]

Until you bother to think about what you're doing and why you're doing it, you will always be a lesser being, regardless of what's between your legs.

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[(Anonymous)]

I do! :) I do things that I think is right upon careful consideration. There's a reason why I've been at the top of every school I've ever gone to.

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[(Anonymous)]

I've worked in the education system. Getting good grades has nothing to do with your ability to think critically about the actions you take.

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[(Anonymous)]

Sounds like you worked in a fluff department. I worked in hard sciences. It's all about thinking critically.

Also, yes, the ability to complete schools with honors does tend to mean I can think critically about the actions I make. That's a large part of what that degree means, but thanks for playing!

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[megalomaniageek.livejournal.com]

Please stop pulling the argument out of your ass that "please stop judging my choices" somehow implies "I make my choices without any careful thought."
Some people see around the messages society bombards them with and make those choices based on careful thought and consideration. These people are not only the people who agree with you.