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Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

Because I need some and so other people can ask their questions.

Suggestions for adult parties

[kaijinscendre]

My sister's boyfriend, sister, and younger sister have birthdays one after another (August 10th, 11th, and 12th). We plan on doing some kind of celebration together and want to do something we don't usually do.

No bars but any other suggestions welcome. We though about going to an amusement park but it is going to be hot as hell in August. We live in the Oklahoma/Kansas area. :D

Re: Suggestions for adult parties

[(Anonymous)]

Adult is overrated.

Ice Cream and jelly is always viable.

Re: Suggestions for adult parties

[shortysc22]

What about a wine and cheese tasting party at the house for something adult? I don't know anything about these people but if everyone brings a random bottle of wine and a kind of cheese, you get an interesting combination. I did cheese, bread, chocolate and wines at my tasting party without knowing anything about wines, we just passed the wine around and commented whether we liked it or not.

Or just have a nice movie night, pick movies and have popcorn and buy candy from the dollar store. Another twist on this is for each person to pick their favorite TV show and watch the first episode from each.

Or do a fun themed party. Do you all have similar interests? http://www.eatingbender.com/2013/11/07/order-of-the-phoenix-az-a-harry-potter-party-in-the-desert/

That's a Harry Potter themed party. Obviously you don't have to go that far, but it gives you an idea of trying to theme something. Maybe just do a themed meal.

Re: Suggestions for adult parties

[herpymcderp]

Beach party? I don't know if there's really a good place in your area for one of those, but August sounds like the perfect time for a beach party.

Re: Suggestions for adult parties

[mekkio]

See if there is a Dave and Buster's around. It's like an adult Chuck E Cheese. They are a blast.

Check to see if there is a dinner mystery theater thing happening near by. It's where you have dinner while a mystery play is happening around you and you have to help solve it. A little like role playing with steak and wine.

Re: Suggestions for adult parties

[(Anonymous)]

I'd check the local events and see what's going on. You could see a play, or go to some kind of festival?
You could also all go to a nice restaurant that you wouldn't normally go to, and get dressed up for it.

Re: Suggestions for adult parties

[(Anonymous)]

Camping trip or cabin rental, with lots of grilling out, s'mores and other fun stuff?

Re: Suggestions for adult parties

[flipthefrog.livejournal.com]

4/5 members of my immediate family all have birthdays within about a month, so we usually go out for a nice, fancy dinner together, like a steak place or a high-end seafood restaurant. If you don't have the money to blow on that, just try a restaurant that you've been meaning to get to but haven't--when I was younger we would do the local Teppanyaki place and that was frankly just as fun and adult (I'm pretty sure I had my first legal drink there).

What about a roller rink?

[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes it's nice to do something silly and cheesy. There's also a water park.

Or if you're feeling a little more on the adult side, you could go to a planetarium or a casino. Maybe a river or a lake cruise.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

Dear F!S Agony Aunt.

What do you do when you are a deeply committed feminist, but your boyfriend is vocally not? How do you make that work? Can you make that work?

Please help.

Morally and Politically Conflicted in Birmingham.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

I think it depends very much on the individual and on the moral stances that he does take and how he acts as a human being. I think there are decent people who are not feminists. I think a relationship like this can work and like all relationships it depends on the people. If he's a decent human being, you can find a way.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

Is he nice and for equality? You don't have to be a feminist to care about equality.

Re: Advice Column

[kallanda_lee]

I think you either need to to accept your differences, or call it quits.

However, I don't see how something like that would give trouble in the relationship itself.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

You're going to have to give more detail than that, as there are many different ways to be "not a feminist" ranging from "unrepentant misogynist" to "I'm not feminist because I have issues with the label but am for gender equality"

Re: Advice Column

[herpymcderp]

It might just be a question of not identifying with the more vocal and extremist parts of a movement rather than not sharing philosophies/ideals. If this is the case, and your boyfriend is actually a feminist without wanting to call himself one, then it will probably work out. If he's not... well.

Then I'd say it won't.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

Do you mean he doesn't identify as a feminist, or he ACTUALLY isn't a feminist?

I mean, feminist is just the belief that men and women are equal, so he might still believe that but reject the title.

But if he's actively misogynistic, idk man, maybe you can help him expand his horizons a bit but that'd be a tough date for me.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

Challenge him to a fist fight to defend his views.

Either he wont accept the challenge and you win.

Either he accepts but can't beat you, in which case you win.

or he accepts and beats you, then you know what kind of man he is and you should be able to end the relationship then.

Re: Advice Column

[dethtoll]

Does he reject the term but not the fundamentals like equality? Because "feminist" is a dirty word in this country largely due to the acts of anti-feminists.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

My sister was more oppossed to me "making it an issue" than feminism per se.
Idk if that applies in your situation, but what helped her change her perspective was witnessing how people treated me in discussions-

How often the topic gets treated as a joke, or dismissed because of strawman feminists, when she was used to giving my arguments at least a chance.
So yeah, maybe your bf needs to witness a different context?

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

Engaged, and my fiance wants a nice ceremony and celebration for our wedding. Thing is the only family I have around I wouldn't invite to my wedding, and aside from a few close friends I few like I wouldn't have anyone to invite. I like my coworkers, but I not enough to invite them.
I feel like this is an awkward situation for me, and I don't know what to do.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

How do I stop randomly thinking about suicide? I'll be doing every day shit like making lunch or typing at work and I'll suddenly think "suicide sounds good" and have an image of me slicing up my arm.

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

I keep writing fics on LJ that get very few reviews. I want to ask if people are interested, but can I without sounding like I'm trying to make them feel guilty? I legit don't care if they don't want to read, I just won't post them. But it's a bit of a waste of time for me to post something no one's reading. However, I'm also confused because I used to get more reviews than I have been lately, so I'm not sure if something else is going on - even if it's just that everyone's busy. (It is final exam season, wedding season, graduation season...)

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

I kind of have a thing for one of my mother's coworkers. We've met quite a few times at company picnics and things where family members can come, and we seem to have a lot in common. We've been pretty flirty and have had some...interesting conversations where there was the implication that we might be into some of the same things sexually. He asked me to hang out with him and his friends once, and I turned him down (I genuinely did already have plans, but it might've seemed like I was blowing him off) and he hasn't asked me to do anything again. I feel like there's a good chance he likes me from the way he acts, but the fact that he asked me to hang out with him AND HIS FRIENDS and not one on one makes me a little unsure.

The other issue, he's my mother's coworker and she does. not. like. him. for some reason she won't tell me. Knowing her it's probably something ridiculous, and I'm a grown adult and can date whoever I want whether she likes them or not, but I don't want to make things awkward for her at work, plus I don't know if he's even interested in me.

There's a company event this Friday that I'll probably see him at, and I'm not sure what to say/do.

Thoughts?

Re: Advice Column

[(Anonymous)]

I've been roleplaying with my friends for two years now. We meet once every week or every other week, depending on schedule. I love it to bits, it's usually the thing I most look forward to in a week.

Lately, though, I've noticed a pattern. After each roleplaying session I get very intense bouts of self-loathing. Idk why, but it sucks. :(

Any thoughts on how to ease this or how to get to the bottom of it?