[ SECRET POST #2385 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2385 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

10. http://imageshack.us/a/img854/9254/czi.png

[(Anonymous)]

Another barely fandom related secret. Ugh. Seriously, what is wrong with this place?

[(Anonymous)]

We moved to the wrong place from LJ. If we'd gone to tumblr the place would be hopping. Or even back to LJ, which is picking back up again in terms of activity.

[galerian-ash.livejournal.com]

Your use of "karma is a bitch" would imply that she was the bad friend, but frankly? You not only sound like a terrible friend, but a terrible person as well.

[(Anonymous)]

I know the feeling from some bad times in my life. But it does kind of sound bad to admit it. -_- I think it's worth trying to get over so you don't let that person cloud your life anymore, even to hold onto it. It takes effort and times though, doesn't it? Best wishes...

[(Anonymous)]

sAME. she actually comepletely betrayed me though. i don't see how seeing karma coming back around makes us terrible people...

[(Anonymous)]

I know the feeling, OP. I don't go looking to see what is going on with my former fandom friend, but every now and then I hear stuff about their life from other people and I get a smug little feeling inside when things go wrong for them because of stuff they say or do. It's a fuzzy, warm kind of smugness that makes me sleep very well at night.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know about catty, but I think building up an idea of someone's life via internet lurking and then using it to make yourself feel/better worse is in general kind of sad and to be avoided.

[(Anonymous)]

I can't imagine why she broke up with you, you sound like a charming person.

[(Anonymous)]

I have to wonder how close you were to begin with, OP. Was this a friend or someone whose LJ you followed? Because I can't imagine being happy to hear of an old friend's misery, no matter how horrible our "breakup" was. And I've had pretty nasty ones.

[lunabee34]

I think it's a very common reaction to feel vindicated when the universe dishes out the justice we feel we've been denied. I know that in my own personal life, I've often felt that same kind of vindication when people who were cruel to me or otherwise hurt me reaped what they had sown. I do think that actively wishing ill on people or spending lots of time glorying in the tragedy of others is not a very healthy coping strategy. That brief moment, though, of vindication--I think most people feel that from time to time.

[(Anonymous)]

If you can't think of a way to say it without sounding catty, maybe take that as a sign.

[diet_poison]

yeah that does sound kind of catty...

[applesock]

And I'm sure your smugness and spite will come back to bite you in the ass too. Karma's funny like that.

[(Anonymous)]

I had one of those moments today when I found out that a girl who buillied me most of my school days turned out to be a Mother of 2 at 18.

[(Anonymous)]

Haha I was worried that this was about me because I also had a falling out with a friend and my dA username is a flower's name! ...But then I remembered that I hadn't updated my journal in over a year.

[transcriptanon]

[Picture is a geometric design that looks like a yellow flower.]

I have a former fandom friend. The "break up" for want of a better term was pretty ugly.
Every once in a while, I'll go look at her DeviantArt journal and see what's happening with her-not out of any real concern, but because her life is crashing down around her and I find it hilarious to read about. Karma is a beautiful bitch.
Secret because: There's no way to say this and NOT sound catty as all hell.
Picture marginally related. Very marginally.

[(Anonymous)]

I had a friendship break down a while back, but I was the one who was left because I was the bad one.

It was reasonable considering the place I was in - she couldn't handle babysitting my shitty toxic behaviour, no matter the reason. I got help and dealt with it eventually, but it was a terrible time of my life. If I could go back and fix it, I would in an instant.

All I can say is that I hope you end up on this side of the fence and see what it's like. You're somebody's shitty friend, and when that crashes down on you, you won't be laughing.

[(Anonymous)]

I know the feeling OP, though I go and look at anything for this person. When a mutual friend mentioned they were having a pretty hard time paying their bills...I couldn't help but feel a little schadenfreude.

*Before someone jumps on me, the reason had as much to do with the fact she did more fandom related stuff at work than actual *work*, so yeah. Brought it on herself.

[thene]

haters gonna hate, anon. Some situations, it takes a saint to ONLY wish ill on someone and enjoy it when it happens. What other legal recourse do you have against most types of emotional violence?

(I'm 100% sure this is a misfire on my part, but what your 'pic related' yellow flower hit in my fandom wank memory bank was Project Elanor. Misfire because VB/Thanfiction/Andy Blake is now pretty well known to be a guy, not a girl, but seriously is there anyone in fandom who doesn't cheer every time another bit of his bullshit comes to light and gets torn to bits?)

[(Anonymous)]

I had a fandom friend I had to cut contact with because the relationship was too toxic. I don't wish her ill will - even if the majority of it was caused by her, there was toxicity on both sides so I accept my role in the disintegration of friendship. While I occasionally do a quick stalk of her lj, it's really more to see what she's up to out of curiosity than desire to see screw up her life (though I do see signs of her bad habits affecting her life now).

However, I have seen friendships end badly for other people, and witnessed the resentment and negativity eat at one of the parties for years. I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't let your bad feelings towards your ex-friend affect you more than in should. If you're checking her deviantart solely to see her screw ups, you're already too invested. Try not visiting her page for a while, and trying not to think about her, or thinking about her in indifferently and you might be surprised how much better you feel.

[lynx]

I've had breakups so nasty even the mention of the names of those persons make me seethe and/or have anxiety attacks. I officially pretend they're dead, have blacklisted them everywhere, unfollowed and blocked.

And even with those persons? I don't wish ill on them. I'm not going to get involved with them again ever, not even if you paid me for it, but if I knew they were going through some personal tragedy I'd still feel bad for them. Which is another reason I have them blocked - I don't fucking want to feel empathy for human wastes who have hurted me so badly. The right thing to do is to erase them from your life.

So yes, this is damn catty and very nasty. Human nature goes like that, I guess, but this isn't something to gloat about, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Ace Attorney? ',:)

[(Anonymous)]

There's at least one person who I'm still friends with on Facebook just to remind me just how much their lives suck and mine doesn't, thereby making the shit they put me through a little bit better.

Petty? Oh, God yes. Childish? Quite possibly, but it's a very mild and unobtrusive way to go about it. I wouldn't go out of my way to find dirt on this chick...it just serves itself up to me. Do I regret it? No, but I certainly don't run around telling people about it. Because for the very reasons I listed above. It is in fact petty and childish, but it is my own personal vindication and I'll take what I can get.