[ SECRET POST #3539 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3539 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 47 secrets from Secret Submission Post #506.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

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Official advertise your fandom-related event thread.

RULES FOR THIS:
1. NO images bigger than 600x600 in either direction (banners, et cetera).
2. ONE POST PER USER under this thread.
3. What IS allowed: roleplay advertisements, fandom comms, fandom events, things like that.
4. What is NOT allowed: anything for profit, any kind of fic/art commissions, seeking 1-on-1 RP, that kind of thing.

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Official clickables thread.

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1. NO huge images or columns of images that require scrolling, please.
2. ONE POST PER USER under in this thread.
3. If you're going to post, try to at least help the others.

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General comments:

(If the thread contains spoilery/triggery content please post as 2nd comment so it collapses!)

Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

A. Is your significant other your best friend? Or is there a firm difference?

A. What about other family members you're close with? Do you consider them your best friends, or again, is there a difference?

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't consider any of my family members friends tbh. Not that I don't like them, just, we have a different kind of relationship.

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't call anyone my best friend at the moment; I'm feeling a bit too much disconnect with people for the time being.

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

My husband is pretty much my only friend. Everyone else sucks.

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

A. yes
A. no

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

A. when i had a SO, no

A. hell fuckin no, as soon as i can i'm cutting off contact with everyone i'm related to

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

Yep. We're each other's best friend. I'm also close to my sister. My brother less so but I don't doubt I could count on him if I was ever in trouble and I'd always have his back. We just don't talk as often.

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[kaijinscendre]

I consider my sister to be my best friend.

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[sparrow_lately]

For question one:
My SO is my best friend in the sense that they're the person I'm closest to in the world, but other people have the "best friend" distinction because--well, to quote Ann Perkins, "Never send a husband to do a best friend's job." They fulfill different functions (similar ones! but different). I'm not sure I could explain it, and again, my SO is my favorite person and on ALMOST everything, they're the person I want to talk to the most. But sometimes I need someone who's just--you know, my best friend. Not somebody who I'm gonna marry, just someone who understands me in my most walking shitpost state. In a very distinctly "best friend" way.

For two:
I'm quite good friends with my cousin, and when I was younger I would say she was one of my best friends (I still love her just as much, but we don't see as much of one another). I think whether or not I can call her a "best friend" is marred by the fact that she's five years younger than me, and so this year, for example, is the first ever where we're both adults (and even so, 18 and 23 are different places in life). So I have a lot of protectiveness with her (for other reasons as well). I bet that happens with lots of families, but not all; my SO's best friend is their sister.

I guess the thesis of this comment is that a best friend is someone with whom you are on really equal footing? Like, you share exact expectations for one another, but you're best friends, so it's not "you'll behave X way," it's "you'll be you." (As opposed to family or SOs, where you often need to be more responsive and responsible--which isn't a bad thing! I don't mind the expectation that I'll be attentive to my SO's needs etc., but with my best friend I can just text "I'm a fucking trash lizard" and she'll understand we can just groan at one another.) Hmm.

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[diet_poison]

N/A, and no. I used to think that way about my mom, but elements of my relationship with my mom were unhealthy for a long time and I think that contributed, and that she didn't do much to dispel it (I think in hindsight she would have). I can kind of see adult children having that kind of relationship with their parents, but not kids or teens.

Re: Relationship/friendship question

[(Anonymous)]

I probably have "best friend status" with my siblings, but I wouldn't say that about my parents. Not that we aren't close, it's just, they'll always be my parents, and to me that's inherently different from a "friend" relationship. And I'm okay with that.

I've been in a number of relationships but none of them have been with people I'd honestly consider friends, outside of the relationship. Maybe one day, but they were pretty much people who came into my life as romantic interests and left the same way.

having a rough day

[dethtoll]

Had to put my dog Miki to sleep today. She was 15 and a half and just couldn't walk anymore. Kinda feeling like a part of me died with her. :/

Hope your days are going better than mine.

Most Fandomy Thing You've Done/Bought

[(Anonymous)]

What's the most "fandomy" thing you've done or bought - like, did you wait in line for twelve hours at Comic Con to get an autograph from a favorite actor? Do you have every single action figure of your favorite character, including ones you've commissioned yourself? Did you cosplay in public just to get the BEST photo? Do you own a body pillow of your husbando/waifu?

C'mon, let's put the fandom back in fandomsecrets.

What song covers do you prefer to the original?

[(Anonymous)]

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How well do you "read" your SO?

[(Anonymous)]

There's a thread over in r/relationships about a lady who ended her husband's fantasy threesome "for his own good" (that's literally the title of the post); "Husband [30M] of 3 years is angry with me because I [28F] "ruined" our threesome even though I did it for his own good."

According to her, they had just started the threesome when he "whimpered" in pain, and she ended it immediately. Since then, he hasn't been talking to her.

On one hand, she had a 100% right to stop the threesome as soon as she felt uncomfortable.

On the other hand, she keeps insisting in the comments that she didn't stop it because she was uncomfortable, she stopped because "I only ended the threesome for his own good and saved him a potential shitload of mental agony."

Throughout the thread, she's insistent that she's the whimper whisperer and that he's lying (because of pride) if he says that it wasn't a whimper where his "normally deep masculine voice cracked heavily, sounding like a broken soulless man." and that he was fine.

It got me curious, how well are you at reading your SOs?

Full thread here: https://www.reddit.com/user/ruined3some

for your whining pleasure

[(Anonymous)]

Mine below.

Music cravings

[(Anonymous)]

I'm looking for all-men's acapella groups with a focus on "traditional" music.

Especially if they cover "Wayfaring Stranger".

Really good fight scene....

[tabaqui]

A lot of tv and movie fights are just boring or over the top - which fight scenes do you love, F!S?

I've been re-watching 'The Closer', and one scene in particular stands out to me. Season 6, ep. 11, Det. Andy Flynn is attacked after an AA meeting, and fights off his attacker. I love it because they're using brute force and random objects (wind shield wiper blade, seat belt, among others) as weapons, doing all the weird, desperate things people do when they're fighting for their life and don't have weapons all over their body and/or amazing Kung Fu! skills.

https://youtu.be/0_wPqpAK4zs

Cleaning & Organising thread

[belladonna_took]

What jobs do you really need to get around to doing at your place? How are the ones you've started going?



I am midway through a ruthless spring cleaning and wardrobe culling spree. The time for "maybe" piles has ended.
I am using this flow chart and it is mostly working. Some things with cute fabric have somehow migrated into my sewing project bag. Struggling a bit with pacing myself so I don't overdo it and give up.

OT exported from the frozen wank thread

[(Anonymous)]

"Not listening to fan feedback results in shitty games"

It's the other way around ffs. Sure, if it's a sequel, experiences players had should be considered, but generally speaking gamers have fuck all clue aBout what makes a good game and what they would actually enjoy. Entitled gamers are the worst.

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Games thread!

Book club - October poll (last day!)

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Poll closes tomorrow when secrets are up! Get your votes in now!

vote here