[ SECRET POST #3794 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3794 ⌋

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General comments:

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Too tired to be much entertainment tonight

[thewakokid]

So Imma just leave this ridiculous fucking premises right here and see what y'all thing in the morning.
Bon nuit.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/05/17/telling-women-not-drink-pregnancy-sexist/

Re: Too tired to be much entertainment tonight

[(Anonymous)]

While the immediate premise is pretty clickbaity and sets up for outrage, the article does lay out the real issue:

There isn't evidence that light-to-moderate drinking causes any birth defects or foetal alcohol syndrome. It HAS been blown out of proportion. There is a link between frequent and heavy drinking and foetal alcohol syndrome, but not moderate drinking.

So, with that in mind, there IS a fair argument here. Pregnant women are demanded to be paragons of virtue and being pregnant or having a baby already sets you up to receive unwanted judgment, unsolicited advice, and general asshole behavior from others. While on one hand, I think when it comes to kids, their well-being takes far priority over a mother or father's feelings, and I'm not down with "bad mom/dad" culture, I think it's a good point to bring up that we don't need to constantly fling shit on mothers if they occasionally want to relax and have a drink - or whatever - if there is no evidence that it's going to harm their baby.

So yeah, I am comfortable saying that there is sexism involved in the judgment of pregnant women or mothers with newborns. And again, I agree that the baby's safety and well-being takes priority, and it is despicable to jeopardize that. But generally speaking, we could do well with being a lot less judgey toward pregnant women/new mothers.

Re: Too tired to be much entertainment tonight

[philstar22]

Actually, a few drinks during pregnancy are okay. I wouldn't say telling them not to drink is so much sexist as overcautious. So there is a point in there, I just don't think it is necessarily sexism at play. Doctors are often overcautious about these sorts of things, and the government certainly is.

Re: Too tired to be much entertainment tonight

[(Anonymous)]

Eeh, seems pretty legit to me.

People discovered that serious alcoholics who spent all pregnancy wasted could cause fetal alcohol syndrome and since you can't really do controlled scientific testing on the exact amount needed to fuck up a fetus by taking large groups and going "Ok, you guys have 1 glass of wine a day, you have two, you have three, you have four.... and we'll see which group starts having fucked up babies" they just went with "Alcohol can cause fucked up babies (if you drink enough.)"

Which has turned into this hysteria that if a pregnant woman so much as looks at a bottle of wine it's going to mess up the fetus. Add to that there's always some study or another that a woman ate tacos on a Wed. and then had a fucked up baby and scientists are looking into a possible connection between tacos and fucked-upedness it's really exhausting to be pregnant and everyone in the damn world is as much an expert on What You Should Be Doing as they were suddenly gorilla experts during the zoo mess.

Re: Too tired to be much entertainment tonight

[soldatsasha]

idk, man... I can see the argument that it's sexist, but I don't agree.

Society polices all kinds of stupid choices parents make all the time, it's not sexism it's just looking out for the best interests of children who can't look out for themselves. If someone yells at you because you let your kid ride a bike without a helmet that isn't sexism. If someone says you shouldn't leave your baby unattended by the pool that isn't sexism. If someone says doing heroin could hurt your unborn baby that also isn't sexism. Someone getting pissed bc you don't believe in vaccinating your kid, that's not sexism either.

I don't think alcohol should get a pass just because 'a little bit is fine' or 'it MIGHT not hurt your baby' or 'but what about the pregnant lady's social life?!'

Like, when you CHOOSE to carry a baby, you are also (hopefully) choosing to put that baby's needs above your need to throw back some shots. And since there is no way to know how much alcohol will permanently harm your child, maybe it's a good idea to avoid toeing that line at all?

idk, I'm not a woman, but I can't even fathom being pregnant and then thinking to myself "hmm, I know there's been decades of research saying that alcohol consumption could hurt or kill my child, but fuck my kid, I want some wine with my dinner."

Re: Too tired to be much entertainment tonight

[mimi_sardinia]

*Shrug* I knew at some point someone was going to try say pregnancy is sexist.

I say go ahead! The human race needs to die! :)

Star Wars News

[(Anonymous)]

Even more new photos and info

http://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2017/05/star-wars-the-last-jedi-cover-portfolio

Re: Star Wars News

[morieris]

Billie and Carrie :(

Re: Star Wars News

[philstar22]

So excited. I'm all about REy and Luke bonding. And everything Leia. And Poe and Finn. And the New Order. Give it all to me.

Re: Star Wars News

[(Anonymous)]

I'm actually really excited about the casino and Laura Dern's character. I wasn't interested in Laura Dern when it was rumored she might be a senator, but knowing she's a vice admiral with the Resistance is super interesting.

Re: Star Wars News

[(Anonymous)]

Everyone looks so beautiful.

Re: Star Wars News

[(Anonymous)]

I really love that one of Mark and Carrie!

Inspired by #5

[(Anonymous)]

What character do you like (or want to like) despite the actor's behind-the-scenes reputation? What character has been soured because of the actor?

Official Game of Thrones trailer

[(Anonymous)]

Aawwwwww yes. https://youtu.be/giYeaKsXnsI

Movies with Good Soundtracks

[(Anonymous)]

What are some movies that have notably good soundtracks, in your mind?

(particularly things that are on streaming)

Tumblr Blog Recs

[mrs_don_draper]

I'm looking for tumblrs that are decently active and blog about fandom/fandom culture/the history of fandom and the like. I'm really interested in how fandom has grown and changed over the years, and I'm always looking for new ways to be involved.

Feel free to post your own inquiries here as well! :)

Which F!S member would you eat?

[(Anonymous)]

And what do you imagine they would be like?

What Are You Listening To Lately

[(Anonymous)]

What have you been listening to on repeat, songs stuck in head, musical artists you're just getting into, etc

How to exercise

[(Anonymous)]

Everything I read seems to be geared on losing weight or entering a marathon. I just want to know what exercises I should do on a weekly basis to stay healthy.

What's the nicest compliment you've ever received?

[(Anonymous)]

^^^^^^^^^^^^

Celebrity Crushes

[mrs_don_draper]

What non-sexual activity would you love to do with your celebrity crush?

What is your favourite word?

[(Anonymous)]

And least favorite.

Do you think goodness is an innate quality?

[(Anonymous)]

Or one that is formed by environment? Is there a situation where most people would behave in a morally dubious manor? You can always tell when I have no idea what I'm talking about when the words start to sound smarter-er.

mod is asleep

[(Anonymous)]

post cute animals

especially sneks